AuDHD Flourishing14 Mars

134 Worst Tasks for AuDHDers

With an interest-based nervous system + AuDHD cyclical energy, the hardest tasks for us are

Boring

Annoying

High Stakes and/or

Difficult

The episode covers how and why they're difficult, and some starting points for each one.

The steps from later in the episode:

If you're struggling to start something, identify if it's Boring, Annoying, High Stakes, or Difficult.
Give yourself compassion for why that makes this task hard to do right now, and tell yourself that you don't actually have to do it right now (this eases up some demand avoidance potentially)
If your mind-body system offers a suggestion or solution, feel free to go for it! Otherwise, it's okay to set this aside for now and let your unconscious mind chew it over.
If this is a time-sensitive or urgent task, do what you need to do to remind yourself to check back in in time: a timer, a calendar reminder, a prominent post it note etc.
Now let your unconscious and your weird and creative brain work on this in the background while you rest or work on something easier. I love keeping a list of actually easy tasks for this purpose (which for me means the thing is straightforward and physically easy to do with a clear done point).

AuDHD Flourishing resources:

Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)
Mattia's Newsletter
Like Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord)

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