Modern Masculinity, Feminism, & Raising Boys in 2026

Matt and Abby open up about what it feels like to raise boys in a moment where conversations around masculinity feel louder and more polarized than ever. They unpack the difference between healthy and unhealthy masculinity, how criticism aimed at grown men can be internalized by young boys, and the role social media plays in amplifying extremes. They also share their biggest hopes as parents — raising sons with strength, humility, emotional awareness, and a sense of purpose in a rapidly changing world. This episode is sponsored by Zoc Doc, Better Help, Kindred Bravely, Olipop, and Flamingo. Zoc Doc: Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to https://Zocdoc.com/UNPLANNED to find and instantly book a doctor you love today. Better Help:Sign up and get 10% off at https://BetterHelp/unplannedpodcast Kindred Bravely: Get 20% off your first order at https://KindredBravely.com/UNPLANNED with promo code UNPLANNED. Exclusions apply. OLIPOP: Get a free can of OLIPOP when you buy any 2 cans in store—just visit https://drinkolipop.com/unplanned Flamingo: Our listeners get the Flamingo Starter Set for just $7 at https://www.shopflamingo.com/unplanned Chapters: 00:00 - Modern Masculinity 01:53 - Living in a man hating culture viral clip 08:05 - How did we get here 10:08 - Redefining masculinity 17:36 - Not all men 18:42 - Raising good men 25:50 - Teaching our boys emotional regulation 29:46 - Boys vs. Girls 38:41 - Consequences 41:06 - Service in healthy masculinity 45:10 - Why young men are afraid of emotions 50:44 - Pay disparity in the home 01:00:17 - Normalizing therapy 01:03:47 - Social Media and the gender wars Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices