The Secret Behind High-Performing Teams. Honest Struggles with Emotional Regulation in Kids & Moms | E31

This is not just an episode about “team performance.” High-performing teams are built through intentional people leadership, not control. In this episode of SaaSy Moms, we share the 6 most important tools for building high-performing teams — and the leadership mistakes many managers unknowingly make.

But leadership doesn’t stop at work.

As working moms, we also talk honestly about something many parents struggle with: emotional regulation in kids and adults. From managing strong emotions in toddlers to navigating our own reactions as leaders, we explore how the same principles apply both at home and at work.

If you are a working mom balancing leadership, career growth, and parenting, this episode will give you practical insights on building strong teams while also raising emotionally resilient kids.

In this episode we discuss:

• The #1 mindset shift managers need to build high-performing teams
• Why hiring people exactly like you can hurt team performance
• The leadership mistake that turns managers into bottlenecks
• Why high-performing teams need trust instead of control
• The honest reality of emotional regulation in kids and moms
• Why naming emotions doesn't always work for children between 1 and 5 y.o.
• Practical strategies we use to help children (and ourselves) calm down

This episode blends leadership lessons, motherhood experiences, and honest conversations about managing emotions — something every working parent in leadership eventually faces.

Whether you’re a manager, founder, product leader, marketer, or working mom, these lessons apply both to your team and your family.

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Chapters:

(00:00:50) What this episode is about.
(00:01:30) Tip #1: Understand your team’s ambition
(00:02:05) Tip #2: #1 mistake managers make during hiring
(00:04:45) Tip #3: Challenge the status quo in your team
(00:06:17) Tip #4: Let your team fail (in safe environments)
(00:08:30) Parenting parallel: letting kids "figure it out yourself" builds resilience
(00:10:05) Tip #5: Delegate outcomes, not just tasks
(00:12:50) Tip #6: Give immediate, on-the-spot feedback
(00:14:16) SaaSy Struggles: emotional regulation in kids
(00:15:37) #1 Tip that actually helps to calm a 4 y.o. down
(00:18:20) Demystifying the "naming of emotions" advice
(00:21:44) Emotional regulation advice for moms that works
(00:24:08) Redirecting anger safely (for kids)
(00:25:17) Fear about the future. How is it related to anger?
(00:26:30) Final thoughts: Subscribe to your outube channel!

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