12: Love under pressure: Intimacy and connection in ND families with Lil Desille

What does intimacy look like when you're parenting neurodivergent children, or navigating your own neurodivergence in relationships?

In this grounded and delightfully candid episode, Laetitia is joined by Annelil (they/she), a clinical psychologist, sexologist, and AuDHD’er who helps neurodivergent individuals and couples rediscover intimacy and connection, on their own terms.

Together, they explore what it means to be intimate without the pressure, expectation or norms that often don’t fit neurodivergent lives. From practical tips to creative approaches, this conversation is a beautiful invitation to rethink how we love, connect, and care, especially when we’re caregiving.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS 👇

🧠 Why sex ≠ the only kind of intimacy

🧠 What emotional and spiritual intimacy look like in neurodivergent families

🧠 How to create “pockets of connection” in busy, chaotic lives

🧠 Creative ideas for intimacy when traditional date nights aren’t possible

🧠 How reigniting connection impacts everything from co-regulation to joy

🧠 Where systems need to change to make space for love and support

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ABOUT THE GUEST 👇

Annelil is an AudHD’er clinical psychologist and sexologist, using their personal experiences, along with clinical expertise in the field to work with neurodivergent individuals in relationships.

Lil's areas of interest include:

• Neurodivergence

• Mind/Body connection

• Sex, dating, relationships and intimacy

• Attachment

• Spirituality
  

She holds her Certificate III and IV in Fitness, Master of Clinical Psychology, Postgraduate Diploma of Psychology, Bachelor of Psychological Science and Reiki (level 2) certification. She utilises her array of knowledge and passion for all things sex, relationships and intimacy to support neurokin with their ability to deepen and strengthen connections together. Lil has developed and created incredible resources, as well as events, couples retreats and courses that are tailored specifically to the AuDHD community. These events and resources have largely been complimented by our neurokin for their level of inclusivity, adaptability and resourcefulness.

💻 Website: neurokinnection.com.au & nk-intimacy-alchemy.com.au

📸 Instagram: @neurokinnection

ABOUT THE HOST 👇

Laetitia Andrac (Autistic & ADHDer) is an award-winning entrepreneur, international speaker, and podcast host.

She is the bestselling author of Light It: How to Trust Your Intuition and Build a Thriving Business. With over 15 years of experience in consulting, strategy, and innovation, Laetitia has worked with industry leaders like Deloitte and Telstra.

Inspired by my journey as a neurodivergent parent, she co-founded Understanding Zoe, an AI-driven solution dedicated to supporting caregivers of neurodivergent children.

Her passion is creating a more neuroinclusive world, where everyone can thrive—whether in their homes, communities, or workplaces.