SS 271: Gang Bang The Mailbag 31

SS 271: Gang Bang The Mailbag 31

Welcome to Gang Bang The Mailbag TRIPLE X (plus 1)! We're recording tonight with a live (and muted) studio audience! As always, questions have been edited for content and clarity. As usual, answers have not been edited for content or clarity! If you have a question for a future listener mailbag, please give us a call at 573-557-9464 and leave us a message, or email us at contact@lifeontheswingset.com. Tonight, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Cooper and Dylan gang bang the mailbag!

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

We're sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

Tonight we answer the following written questions:

My road into non-monogamy has been a twisted and challenging path. My 13-year marriage ended last year partly because of an incompatibility around the potential for opening our marriage.

When I started dating I tried to be very open with women about my desire for non-monogamy and live a polyamourous life that includes swinging and sometimes a little kink and BDSM. Through dating apps like Tinder I have met many wonderful women and had some great relationships develop. I have tremendously transparent conversations with these women. Most run for the hills after to non-monogamy talk, some are intrigued and go along with it for a while, but in the end these relationships mostly follow the same pattern. The woman is okay with other partners in the beginning, but as time passes she always has a difficult time with the non-monogamy and it ends or goes to the friend zone. Otherwise the woman wants a "don't ask don't tell" or "friends with benefits" approach, which to me is just single dating rather than ethical non monogamy. It is impossible to have intimacy without transparency.

Where does one go to find women who are already there in the poly/swinger community who are looking for other poly/swing single partners? Are there any better strategies for finding women more directly who already share these values?

Aaron from Canada

My brief backstory: 50ish male, married for twenty-something years. I have always struggled with attraction, crushes, and even feelings for, and from, others. Monogamy isn't actually what I want, and, in the spirit of a good mid-life crisis, I'm not getting any younger.

Being aware of the trauma that this might cause my wife, I have introduced the topic gently and slowly. She has reacted... well, it's hard to say. There has been no screaming and crying, which I guess is a good sign. The best description of her reaction is "ninja-level avoidant", as she deflects my every attempt to explore this in depth.

An example: after a recent talk she said "you've given me a lot to think about".

I realise what I want most is to have the relationship communication skills that are necessary to be non-monogamous in the first place. To have the openness that I hear others describe in their relationships. It's not even principally about the swinging anymore. I have communication envy!

So how do I learn to communicate like a non-monogamous person? And how do I teach someone else to do this? Is it possible?

My husband I have been in the swing lifestyle since we first started dating 6 years ago. Along the way, I have developed more romantic feelings for some of our partners, while things remain mainly about friendship and sex for my husband. I've tried to hide my feelings which has resulted in a lot of hurt. We are trying to figure out how to move forward when I feel more poly and he still feels more like a swinger and isn't interested in developing romantic relationships. I'm having trouble finding resources that talk about how to successfully move between the two.

Kara

Today I found out, in a convoluted way, that a long-term male partner of mine sexually assaulted someone. I don't know the any details. I don't know when it happened, or what happened afterwards. I do know that women don't lie about sexual assault. I also learned two others say they witnessed him pushing boundaries or putting women in uncomfortable situations , and that he's seen as a "missing stair" in some subsets of our local kink community.

This is someone I love. Someone I've only ever had positive, affirming, respectful experiences with. Someone I trusted with my life (and I'm an angry, suspicious, mostly-lesbian hardcore feminist killjoy who rarely trusts anyone).

What should I do?

Oh, and just to make things even more complicated, this partner's live-in partner is also my partner. We're a triad. Do I tell her? How?

In answering this question, Dylan lamented not reading the question before he read it as he wanted to have a more prepared answer. Dr. Liz on the other hand was able to respond quickly and effectively on ways to address members of the community to who have violated boundaries and support people who have had their boundaries violated, and how to both repair and grow the larger community after. Visit a compilation of resources Dr. Liz put together here.

We took a little time at the end of the episode for business. Dr. Liz put out a new video on Youtube titled "What's the 'Friend Zone' Anyway?"

Mike Joseph has been speaking lately on behalf of the Jed Foundation, a NYC based organization empowering teens and young adults with the skills and support to grow into healthy thriving adults. Visit them at www.jedfoundation.org.

You can also always find Mike Joseph at his podcast the Jheri Curl Chronicles Radio Show at www.popblerd.com.

Leave us a review and a five star rating on iTunes! Leave us a review and a five star rating on Stitcher! Subscribe to us on Youtube! Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

You can Cooper's novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's intro music came via: ▁ ▂ ▃ ▄ SXIP SHIREY in a track titled: Cinnamon Stick, featuring XAVIER. Find more information about Sxip Shirey here, or check out their January 9th, 2017 cd release show at National Sawdust in NYC at 7PM for "A Bottle of Whiskey and a Handful of Bees"!

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph

Avsnitt(431)

#405 - Squicks or Turn-Ons?

#405 - Squicks or Turn-Ons?

We've all been faced with a situation where we've come across an action, a thing, a vision, a taste, a touch, a smell, a scene, where we've experienced an unexpected and extreme aversion… a squick, or… perhaps it was a surprise turn-on. Tyler, Lunabelle, Ryan, Ginger, Tonya, Tonia, and Dylan get together to talk about these unexpected reactions and tell some stories… some sexy, strange, surprising stories.   You can find Lunabelle on BlueSky at @Ninjasexology! You can find Ryan on Instagram at RyanAKAProf! You can find Ginger on Instagram at GingerBentham! You can find Tonia on Instagram at ToniaTheThomas! You can find Tonya everywhere (Facebook, Instagram, Discord, Facebook, and more) at YesThatTonya! You can find Dylan on Mastodon and all across the Fediverse at swingset.social at DylanTheThomas!   Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).   Intro Music: Sullivan King & Vastive – Slaughter Outro Music: Sullivan King – The Beginning

27 Nov 20241h 30min

#403: User Manual, or Dungeon Crawl? What's Your Preference?

#403: User Manual, or Dungeon Crawl? What's Your Preference?

Are you the kind of person that prefers to meet someone new knowing a little something about them, or do you treat meeting new people like it's a video game dungeon crawl with no map, no instructions, nothing but a flashlight and a can-do attitude? Duncan, Ryan, Ginger, Tonya, Tonia, and Dylan get together to talk about meeting new people in social settings, first dates, play parties, and everything in between!   You can find Duncan as Duncan42 on Kasidie, Fetlife, and as NewToThis42 on SLS! You can find Ryan on Instagram at RyanAKAProf! You can find Ginger on Instagram at GingerBentham! You can find Tonia on Instagram at ToniaTheThomas! You can find Tonya everywhere (Facebook, Instagram, Discord, Facebook, and more) at YesThatTonya! You can find Dylan on Mastodon and all across the Fediverse at swingset.social at DylanTheThomas!   Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!   Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).   Intro & Outro Music: Dirtyphonics & Circadian – You Want Me Robot Ginger Music: Robotaki – Automaton Business Music: Matroda – Shut It Down

18 Nov 20241h 16min

#402 - More Than Two, Second Edition - With Andrea Zanin and Eve Rickert

#402 - More Than Two, Second Edition - With Andrea Zanin and Eve Rickert

Ginger and Dylan interview Andrea Zanin and Eve Rickert about the release of their new book: More Than Two, Second Edition! They touch on More Than Two, Second Edition's place as both an introduction for people new to open relationships, and as a deeply needed and timely reintroduction to improving relationships for more experienced practitioners of various forms of nonmonogamy.   You can find More Than Two, Second Edition, at morethantwo.ca! You can find Eve Rickert on Bluesky, Instagram, and at brighterthansunflowers.com! You can find Andrea Zanin on Twitter, Bluesky, Facebook, and at sexgeek.workpress.com!     Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!   Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).     Intro & Interstitial Music: Shingo Nakamura, Mango, Nina Carr – Solace

1 Nov 20241h 36min

#401 - Kissing is Taboo Again? - Elevator Speeches & Safety

#401 - Kissing is Taboo Again? - Elevator Speeches & Safety

How did kissing become so complicated... again? Swinger culture still features a choice, to kiss or not to kiss, that other non-monogamous folk don't usually make. These days, the stakes around kissing are higher, and that's complicated things as simple as kissing to say hello . Ginger, Prof, Tonia, Dylan, Lunabelle, Tonya, and Tyler get together to talk about their Elevator Speeches, and whether kissing is taboo again!     Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

24 Dec 20231h 6min

#400 - ReEmergence

#400 - ReEmergence

Dylan, Ginger, Tonia, and Prof get back together to properly toast Life on the Swingset's 400th episode! The crew invites back Lunabelle, Tyler, and Tonya, and welcomes D into the fold to discuss ReEmergence and discovering intimacy… again. The crew discusses what returning to normal might look like during a time … very much not normal. D, and Lunabelle share what emerging and finding their people and their communities in the midst of the pandemic feels like, while Tyler and Tonya talk about finding their way just before, and during the pandemic. Gin, Prof, Tonia, and Dylan talk about change, allowing for space, and everyone looks forward to charting a future full of friends, community, and pleasure. Also, Prof talks about VR Golf, which was the most important part of the episode.     Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).   Intro Music: F.O.O.L – Duality Business Music: Tokyo Machine – STEREO Outro Music: Aftruu – Falling Asleep

3 Dec 20231h 4min

SS 399: We Go Meta on Swinging and Making the Sausage... and talk Sex Toys - from Friday Night Delights from February 5th, 2021

SS 399: We Go Meta on Swinging and Making the Sausage... and talk Sex Toys - from Friday Night Delights from February 5th, 2021

Ginger, Prof, Tonia, and Dylan get together on a normal Friday in February 2021 to plan a podcast about swinging… and almost fall into the trap of talking about swinging. Swingset gets meta, discussing swinging as a verb, swinger as a noun, new england accents, and …talking about Sportsheets and sex toys and restraints. a lot.   Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!     Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).     Intro and Outro Music: ARMNHMR feat. Heleen – Drowning

1 Sep 20231h 14min

SS 398: Swingset as a Place... with Princess Vi

SS 398: Swingset as a Place... with Princess Vi

Princess Vi and I talk about what it means to build pop-up inclusive, welcoming, and sex friendly communities, and we wander about discussing what goes into that secret sauce… and what it feels like when you get it right, and … when you don't have it. *** EMBED CODE FOR PODCAST FROM LIBSYN GOES HERE YOU INSENSITIVE CLOD *** Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).   SHIP (Sexual Health Includes Pleasure) is running their Pleasure Equity Campaign, an annual initiative to raise funds to reduce barriers to pleasure-guided sexual health resources so that all adults can reclaim pleasure in their daily lives and by using those resources as tools for healing, self-preservation, and resistance. Every donation SHIP receives through this campaign allows them to offer workshops, therapy, and professional development opportunities to the community for free or at a significantly reduced rate. Life on the Swingset believes in SHIP's mission and they're committed to making sexual health programming a community service, but they can't do it without community support. Please join them in this important work by donating to the Pleasure Equity Campaign today Cold Intro Music: CloudNone, Direct & Exist Strategy – Parallels Intro and Outro Music: CloudNone, Direct & Aether – See The Light

13 Apr 202349min

SS 397: ...and at least one amorous bird on this resort. - Swingset Takes Desire 2022, Part 2

SS 397: ...and at least one amorous bird on this resort. - Swingset Takes Desire 2022, Part 2

Continuing on from Part 1 of our live podcast on our trip in Cancun, Ginger initiates a tonal shift, Keeley makes sure everyone knows that more than gang bangs happen, Cooper talks about birds, Prof shares more deep thoughts, Tonia shares joy while serving the people, Ginger makes sure everyone knows that gang bangs happen, and Dylan continues to insult the audience. Multiple audience members share their passionate and heartfelt resort experiences with everyone.     Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!     Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).     Intro Music: zensei ゼンセー – spadina 3am Outro Music: zensei ゼンセー – who we are

27 Nov 202246min

Populärt inom Hälsa

somna-med-henrik
rss-bara-en-till-om-missbruk-medberoende-2
rss-jossan-nina
inga-beiga-morsor
alska-oss
johannes-hansen-podcast
angestpodden
sexnoveller-deluxe
sova-med-dan-horning
vinterpasset
rss-sjalsligt-avkladd
not-fanny-anymore
sa-in-i-sjalen
rss-viktmedicinpodden
rss-the-house-podcast-3
brottarbroder
tyngre-radio
handen-pa-hjartat
rss-activation-podcast
smartare-fitness-podden