SS 346: Gang Bang the Mailbag 38 - Ideas about Size, Smooth Divorce, and BBWs

SS 346: Gang Bang the Mailbag 38 - Ideas about Size, Smooth Divorce, and BBWs

Tonight the Swingset opens the mailbag... but does so carefully, as it's -20F outside. Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Bex Caputo, and Lunabelle answer your listener questions!

Question 1:

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. We have amazing sex, but I can't seem to get satisfied sexually. We have sex/oral sex at least twice a day, but it seems like the more I orgasm, the more I crave it. He's slightly below average size, and I don't have any problems with his size because he knows what to do with it, but he's very self-conscious about his size. I'd love to bring up the topic of polyamory to him, but I'm afraid he'll feel like I want to do it just to be with someone bigger. In fact, I'm 100% positive that is what he would think. I've always felt that I might be bisexual. I'm fascinated with being with a woman, but I don't know how he'll react. Of course, it's every guys fantasy to have a threesome, but because of his self-consciousness, I don't think he'd be interested. I won't lie, being with someone bigger is also a curiosity of mine. He has a phobia (?) of someone bigger changing the way my vagina feels to him, so even if he were interested in swinging, I don't think he'd want me to be with another man.

I love him very much, but I feel like there are a lot of things I want to experience and I'm not getting any younger (I'm 36). I don't want to break up over it, because I'm very happy with him, but I'd also like to see what his thoughts are about it. How can I bring it up in a subtle, non-threatening way that might make him more interested?

Question 2:

My spouse and I are considering divorce. We love each other so much, but 15 years of marriage has left it's scars. We both have other partners, and breaking up with them, or closing our relationship at all is not on the table. These relationships are long standing, and breaking up would hurt multiple people and breed resentment. Besides, the openness of our relationship is not the issue. Do you have any advice for maintaining secondary relationships while the primary is in trouble? How to maintain boundaries when your whole life is up in the air?

Hope that's not too long! I love your podcast, and I especially love listening to it at work, where everyone thinks I'm a sweet normal and slightly boring office manager.

Question 3:

We are always taught to think of ourselves as being sexy but we won't look at ourselves and imagine ourselves as being sexy individuals. One of the problems that I've seen recently is you look at profiles or even advertise it for things even the desire takeover is we talked a get-together of sexy people or people say we are looking for other sexy couples.

The man that couples look it up and see that she is a BBW or I am a short chunky guy we no longer fit that is sexy category and both know hurts her feelings hurt our feelings.

Why is it that BBW it's almost turned into a niche versus just a description of an individual? It's almost like you're not an individual you're a BBW so you don't fit into this category and I've seen this very very bad in the swingers world.

So my question would be for you all is have you seen this how open are you to BBWs in your opinion of BBWs and how suggestion would you make to BBWs to get themselves more confident comfortable and energetic about the lifestyle itself?

Lunabelle mentioned her post, "I Like Big Toys and I Cannot Lie".

Ginger mentioned the Unfuckwithable video.

Dylan mentioned Elle Chase's book, Curvy Girl Sex .

Bradford and Angela are coming to Desire… are you? Join us from November 2nd through the 9th this 2019 for Life on the Swingset's eighth trip to Desire! Visit swingsetdesire.com for more information!

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SS 176: In Bed With The Semi-Nude Swingset

SS 176: In Bed With The Semi-Nude Swingset

There is much to say about this recording. And also very little. You see it sits in a portion of our minds, like it sits behind a drop of water, but who are we kidding, it sits behind drink. The foul stuff that has put us in a very boisterous mood to say the least. To say the very least. It isn't long before everything breaks down. The center simply CANNOT hold. And you get this. You are presented with this. It's a good thing, I think, that our past two episode have been of highest quality. Because this? This is a bedcast.

1 Okt 201457min

SS 175: Hump & Circumstance - Talking Group Sex - Live At CatalystCon West

SS 175: Hump & Circumstance - Talking Group Sex - Live At CatalystCon West

Life on the Swingset returns to CatalystCon West for a live podcast about group sex You know that one thing you can do outside monogamy that you can’t do within? You can have group sex. That’s right, many people getting naked and sexy together. That’s how the non-monogamous do. So today, for our very first live podcast (which is only a mild distinction from panel) we are talking about that whole thing that makes us different than the monos, group sex.

24 Sep 20141h 6min

SS 174: Bacchanalia Basics: It's Play Party Time! – Live At CatalystCon West

SS 174: Bacchanalia Basics: It's Play Party Time! – Live At CatalystCon West

Life on the Swingset returns to CatalystCon West for a panel discussion about throwing and attending a play party. They’re whispered about, opinions are drawn, expectations are high for both attendees and non. The sex party, the play party, the swinger party, call it what you will, to anyone who’s never been to one they conjure up visions of hedonistic abandon, or deeply creepy masked affairs. With so many people looking to explore their sexuality and needing a safe place to do so, play parties have value far beyond a whole bunch of naked people in a room. They can educate as well as titillate. So that's what we're here to talk about today.

17 Sep 20141h 13min

SS 173: Swinging With Scars - Body Image & Identity After Major Life Changes

SS 173: Swinging With Scars - Body Image & Identity After Major Life Changes

Emotional scars, physical scars, both can wreak havoc on your emotional state and body image, especially when you feel different than before. Earlier this year Ginger took a hiatus from the Swingset for a body change, and tonight we're talking about why.   Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Join us at CatalystCon West September 11-14 - use the promo code SWINGSET to save $10 off your pass! Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

10 Sep 20141h 7min

SS 172: Organizing & Travelling with Sex Toys - What To Do With Our Dildos, Vibrators, Lube, Rope, Floggers, & Other Fun Things

SS 172: Organizing & Travelling with Sex Toys - What To Do With Our Dildos, Vibrators, Lube, Rope, Floggers, & Other Fun Things

The two most non-"how do I start swinging" questions we get on the Swingset is how do you organize your sex toys and how do you travel with sex toy, so we go in depth with advice and suggestions on what to do with your growing piles of sexy at your own house and on the road.

4 Sep 20141h 9min

SS 171: Coming Out Kinky with Guest Jean Franzblau

SS 171: Coming Out Kinky with Guest Jean Franzblau

Jean Franzblau, speaker, writer and performer of the one woman show "Coming Out Kinky: A Grown Up Comedy" joins us for a discussion of her show as well as a performed excerpt, and a discussion on being kinky in general and what it means to show that to the world.

28 Aug 201459min

SS 170: The Messiness of Speaking Out About Sex and CatalystCon with Guest Dee Dennis

SS 170: The Messiness of Speaking Out About Sex and CatalystCon with Guest Dee Dennis

After the explosive finale of last March's CatalystCon East, we bring Dee Dennis back on the show to discuss how hard it often is to get a dialog going about sex without having dissent everywhere. We try to parse the value of community vs being snarky, and Cooper drops the shocking revelation that sometimes he is controversial.

20 Aug 20141h 15min

SS 169: Full Swap - Swingset's Partners Take Over The Show

SS 169: Full Swap - Swingset's Partners Take Over The Show

It's bizarro world and Life on the Swingset is going FULL SWAP. The Professor hosts this round table discussion featuring the partners of the Swingset, Ophilia Tesla, Tonia Thomas, and Ronin Technogeisha. They discuss being behind the scenes, putting up with the Swingset, their experience in the lifestyle, their desires and hopes, and quickly run out of time.

13 Aug 20141h 20min

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