SS 346: Gang Bang the Mailbag 38 - Ideas about Size, Smooth Divorce, and BBWs

SS 346: Gang Bang the Mailbag 38 - Ideas about Size, Smooth Divorce, and BBWs

Tonight the Swingset opens the mailbag... but does so carefully, as it's -20F outside. Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Bex Caputo, and Lunabelle answer your listener questions!

Question 1:

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. We have amazing sex, but I can't seem to get satisfied sexually. We have sex/oral sex at least twice a day, but it seems like the more I orgasm, the more I crave it. He's slightly below average size, and I don't have any problems with his size because he knows what to do with it, but he's very self-conscious about his size. I'd love to bring up the topic of polyamory to him, but I'm afraid he'll feel like I want to do it just to be with someone bigger. In fact, I'm 100% positive that is what he would think. I've always felt that I might be bisexual. I'm fascinated with being with a woman, but I don't know how he'll react. Of course, it's every guys fantasy to have a threesome, but because of his self-consciousness, I don't think he'd be interested. I won't lie, being with someone bigger is also a curiosity of mine. He has a phobia (?) of someone bigger changing the way my vagina feels to him, so even if he were interested in swinging, I don't think he'd want me to be with another man.

I love him very much, but I feel like there are a lot of things I want to experience and I'm not getting any younger (I'm 36). I don't want to break up over it, because I'm very happy with him, but I'd also like to see what his thoughts are about it. How can I bring it up in a subtle, non-threatening way that might make him more interested?

Question 2:

My spouse and I are considering divorce. We love each other so much, but 15 years of marriage has left it's scars. We both have other partners, and breaking up with them, or closing our relationship at all is not on the table. These relationships are long standing, and breaking up would hurt multiple people and breed resentment. Besides, the openness of our relationship is not the issue. Do you have any advice for maintaining secondary relationships while the primary is in trouble? How to maintain boundaries when your whole life is up in the air?

Hope that's not too long! I love your podcast, and I especially love listening to it at work, where everyone thinks I'm a sweet normal and slightly boring office manager.

Question 3:

We are always taught to think of ourselves as being sexy but we won't look at ourselves and imagine ourselves as being sexy individuals. One of the problems that I've seen recently is you look at profiles or even advertise it for things even the desire takeover is we talked a get-together of sexy people or people say we are looking for other sexy couples.

The man that couples look it up and see that she is a BBW or I am a short chunky guy we no longer fit that is sexy category and both know hurts her feelings hurt our feelings.

Why is it that BBW it's almost turned into a niche versus just a description of an individual? It's almost like you're not an individual you're a BBW so you don't fit into this category and I've seen this very very bad in the swingers world.

So my question would be for you all is have you seen this how open are you to BBWs in your opinion of BBWs and how suggestion would you make to BBWs to get themselves more confident comfortable and energetic about the lifestyle itself?

Lunabelle mentioned her post, "I Like Big Toys and I Cannot Lie".

Ginger mentioned the Unfuckwithable video.

Dylan mentioned Elle Chase's book, Curvy Girl Sex .

Bradford and Angela are coming to Desire… are you? Join us from November 2nd through the 9th this 2019 for Life on the Swingset's eighth trip to Desire! Visit swingsetdesire.com for more information!

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SS 128: K.I.S.S.I.N.G

SS 128: K.I.S.S.I.N.G

Cooper, Shira, Ginger, and The Professor (tm) all get together for a discussion on kissing; why it's a big deal, why some swingers make rules against it, how it feels great... how badly you can screw it up! Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out the Lelo Gigi Rechargeable Vibrator!

28 Aug 20131h 13min

SS 127: Impermanence in Non-Monogamy; Learning to Embrace Brevity and Let Go

SS 127: Impermanence in Non-Monogamy; Learning to Embrace Brevity and Let Go

Shira B. Katz makes her triumphant return with a considerable discussion about impermanence and how the changes in her and both Cooper's relationships statuses have affected their views on non-monogamy and their own sexuality, and how... that is ok. We also worked some Law and Order, Doctor Who, and "cream" as a verb into the discussion. Check it out! [powerpress] Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Female Ejaculation!

13 Aug 20131h 7min

SS 126: In Which Domina Takes over 2: Ride Harder

SS 126: In Which Domina Takes over 2: Ride Harder

Riding herd on the Swingset isn't something you forget. Ginger isn't ready to put it behind her, so she holds on to the reigns and rides harder; we discuss our best erotic moments as swingers, explanabrags via managing multiple but separate partner issues, and we watch Cooper devolve into domina's pet! [powerpress] Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out the Eriscillator Plus Electric Clitoral Vibrator!

6 Aug 201359min

SS 125: In Which a Domina Takes over and Rides Us Hard

SS 125: In Which a Domina Takes over and Rides Us Hard

Ginger Bentham takes over the Swingset today to ask questions we may never have directly addressed. Our Domina inquires about condom disasters, our biggest turn-offs, and how to approach a big group of people. We also get to see a peek into Ginger and the Prof's relationship dynamic, it's pretty wonderful! Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out Kimono MicroThin Comdoms!

30 Juli 201358min

SS Special - Swingerpiece Theater Presents: Weinergate 2 - The Embiggening

SS Special - Swingerpiece Theater Presents: Weinergate 2 - The Embiggening

In this very special (non)episode of Life on the Swingset, Ginger Bentham and Cooper Beckett do a dramatic reading of the recent Anthony Weiner twitter scandel "reported on" by The Dirty We would again like to insist that this is all alleged, and if Anthony Weiner was on the up and up with all involved, we at Swingset have no problem with this at all. In fact, it'd be nice to see a mayor who acknowledges certain proclivities.

30 Juli 201310min

SS 124: Gang Bang the Mailbag 9 - Swinger Burnout, Keeping Secrets, Bad Dylan, and Callouts

SS 124: Gang Bang the Mailbag 9 - Swinger Burnout, Keeping Secrets, Bad Dylan, and Callouts

~ low pitched rumble ~ ~grabs handle, pulls, rumble stops ~ *sniff* Ahhhhhhhhhhh..... Nice and clean. We listened to your voicemail (left at 573-55-SWING) and read your e-mail (sent to contact@lifeontheswingset.com) and decided to throw it all in the bag and gang bang it! We attack all your questions starting with questions about whether Dylan and Cooper really practice safe oral sex, chat about Orson Scott Card, listen to someone keep their sexual play preferences from a partner, and wonder why... WHY Dylan would remind everyone about Jurassic Bark. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out the RodeoH  Boxer Harness!

23 Juli 20131h 3min

SS 123: So It's Come To This

SS 123: So It's Come To This

Everyone on the Swingset has been through an extended period of life where... there's just nothing left to give.  Shira B. Katz has a new job but can't make the time to join us every week (but she will be back!), Ginger, Cooper, AND Dylan have all moved recently.  But in between everything, life happens. Ginger chats about a surprise visit from The RopeMaster (tm), Cooper talks a little about his divorce and the process of going through one through the lens of non-monogamy, and Dylan... well he just talks, but he's a credit to team. The bottom line is we're back, and we're chatting about where we've been the last few weeks. Enjoy! [powerpress] Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure by Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian!

17 Juli 201358min

SS 122: Feminist Porn with Dylan Ryan

SS 122: Feminist Porn with Dylan Ryan

Feminist porn means a lot of things to a lot of people, but what it doesn't do is exclude people based on gender, body type, partner preference or play style. It's, paraphrasing Tristan Taormino, organic, fair trade porn. It's organic because it emerges from performers doing precisely what they choose to do, and fair trade because they participate in ethical business practices. We discuss feminist porn with Dylan Ryan and talk about the movement at large. [powerpress] Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out the NJoy Fun Wand! You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley! Dylan Ryan appears to have temporarily gone offline, we will post hard links as soon as they come back. Crashpadseries.com and QueerPorn.TV have large amounts of hot gender fluid porn, including titles starring Dylan Ryan! Tonight’s show is also brought to you by Adam & Eve! Swingset listeners get 50% off one item when you type “SWINGSET” for the offer code upon checkoutas well as 3 FREE DVD’s, a FREE extra gift and FREE shipping.

24 Juni 201354min

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