EP329 - The Truth About Masturbation While in a Relationship with Dr. Eric Sprankle

Welcome to Episode 455 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff who speaks to me about consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and soloamory.In this episode, Dr. Eli shares her personal journey navigating relationships with both monogamous and polyamorous partners, and how those experiences shaped her professional research. We talk in-depth about "soloamory" which refers to prioritizing one's relationship with themselves, often in the form of self-love. It is a form of autosexuality/autoromance and a conscious choice to live a single life, valuing autonomy and personal growth over traditional relationship milestones like marriage or cohabitation. Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date. In this episode, you will hear:·      Defining Consensual Non-Monogamy·      Understanding Polyamory And Soloamory·      How Early Relationships Shape Our Beliefs·      Mono-Poly Relationship Dynamics·      Distinguishing Between Jealousy And Insecurity·      Why Some People Are Wired For Multiplicity·      The Role Of Autonomy In Healthy Relationships·      Healing Through Solo Amory And Self-Love·      The Importance Of Therapy And The Right Therapist Fit·      Resources And Tools From Dr. Elizabeth SheffThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

9 Sep 44min

Welcome to Episode 454 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Sam L. Feldman, who speaks to me about ethical non-monogamy, swinging, and the evolution of sexual liberation across the decades.In this episode, Sam shares insights from his book Hookups, Hiccups and Happenstances, which reflects on the changing landscape of sexuality from the 1960s and 70s through to today. We discuss the social shifts that empowered women during this period, the origins of swinging, and how personal boundaries and communication have shaped Sam’s own 62-year marriage.Married for 61 years and counting, Sam is an excellent spokesperson on love and the many ways it can be explored. A number of the “hookups” he writes about in his book come from his real experiences of being in “the right place at the right time” during the Sexual Revolution. He also says he invented a sex position in this era. The position he's dubbed "the corkscrew” takes three people, unlike his other favorite position: 69.In this episode, you will hear:·      Evolution Of Sexual Liberation In The 60s And 70s·      Origins Of Swinging And Key Clubs·      Women’s Empowerment And Reproductive Rights·      Sam’s 62-Year Marriage And Communication Pact·      Seven Rules For Navigating Non-Monogamy·      Boundaries Between Love And Sex·      Transparency And Openness In Long-Term Relationships·      How Date Nights Strengthen Connection·      Addressing Jealousy In Non-Monogamy·      Swinging Culture And Common MisconceptionsThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

2 Sep 31min

Welcome to Episode 453 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Serenity Cox and partner Timothy of WIFEY, who speak with me about their journey into the hotwifing lifestyle and how it has shaped their relationship.In this episode, Serenity and Timothy share how their interest in hotwifing began as fantasy and roleplay, before eventually evolving into real-life exploration. We discuss the turning point in their relationship during the pandemic, how they navigated their first experiences, and the emotional challenges and growth that came with moving from imagination into reality.Serenity Cox is a Canadian adult performer and content creator who transitioned from a successful career as an ER nurse to becoming one of the industry’s most sought-after stars. Since starting her career, she has gained massive popularity through independent content creation and collaborations with major studios, earning multiple awards, including the 2024 xHamster Creator of the Year and the 2025 XBIZ XMA Fan Award for ‘Favorite MILF Performer’.In this episode, you will hear:·      Defining Hotwifing·      Fantasy vs. Reality in Relationships·      The Pandemic as a Turning Point·      Emotional Challenges and Surprises·      Importance of Reconnection Rituals·      Navigating Jealousy in Non-Monogamy·      Safety Practices and STI Testing·      Communicating Fantasies with a Partner·      Managing Cultural Stigma Around CNM·      Resources for Exploring HotwifingThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

26 Aug 32min

Welcome to Episode 452 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Roy Graff who speaks to me about relationship anarchy, consensual non-monogamy, and the importance of communication in alternative relationship structures.In this episode, Roy shares his deeply personal journey from decades of serial monogamy to embracing polyamory as an orientation and ultimately finding resonance in the philosophy of relationship anarchy. We explore the difference between open relationships and ethical non-monogamy, the role of emotional maturity, and how boundaries and communication can transform romantic connections. Roy Graff is a Psychosynthesis Relationship Counsellor based in London, UK. Drawing on his training and over nine years of experience facilitating workshops and group work, Roy supports clients in exploring the full spectrum of their physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual dimensions. His practice is inclusive and affirming of Gender, Sex, and Relationship Diversity (GSRD), welcoming LGBTQ+ individuals and those in non-monogamous relationships. In addition to his counselling work, Roy is a relationship coach specializing in alternative and non-traditional relationship dynamics, helping individuals and partners build resilience, improve communication, manage conflict, and deepen empathetic, conscious connections.In this episode, you will hear:·      Roy’s Journey From Serial Monogamy To Polyamory·      How Relationship Anarchy Challenges Social Norms·      The Difference Between Ethical And Unethical Non-Monogamy·      Why Communication Is The Foundation Of Alternative Relationships·      Navigating Jealousy And Emotional Triggers·      The Role Of Boundaries In Polyamorous Dynamics·      Strategies For Sharing Information About Other Partners·      Understanding The “Relationship Escalator”·      How Solo Polyamory Works In PracticeThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

19 Aug 41min

Welcome to Episode 451 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Joli Hamilton who speaks to me about navigating non-monogamy, jealousy, and building healthy polyamorous relationships.In this conversation, I invite Joli to share the very human, very messy path she took from a long-term monogamous marriage into consensual non-monogamy. We talk about how a simple crush, paired with new language for polyamory, sparked courageous but complicated conversations, the pitfalls of working with clinicians who default to monogamy, and the painful social narratives that cast open-relationship exploration as “cheating” even when no boundaries are crossed. Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines & founder of The Year of Opening. She is a depth psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, CNN, Vogue, Cosmo, and NPR. She’s spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility. Joli helps people create non-monogamous partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required.In this episode, you will hear:·      From Monogamy To Non-Monogamy: A Real-Life Origin Story·      Why Honesty Without Skills Still Hurts·      The Therapist Fit Problem In CNM·      Naming Feelings vs. Trying To Erase Them·      Jealousy Happens - Bans Make It Worse·      Agreements, Not Assumptions·      Breakup And Aftercare In Polyamory·      Parenting And Cohabitation Considerations·      Nervous System Tools For Regulation·      Defining Your Own CNM Script Over Time Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

12 Aug 46min

Welcome to Episode 450 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Carrie Jeroslow who speaks to me about exploring monogamish relationships, communication, and relationship diversity.In this conversation, Carrie unpacks the term “Monogamish,” originally coined to describe a space between strict monogamy and fully open relationships, and shares how transparency, not secrecy, became the cornerstone of her own early experiences with non‑monogamy. We talk through the realities behind the “ish”: clunky starts, learning curves, aftercare, and the deep inner work that jealousy often invites.International Best-Selling Author and Relationship Diversity Advocate, Carrie Jeroslow, is passionate about bringing intentionality into intimate relationships by releasing the programming of what we’re taught relationships SHOULD be and shifting to what we really WANT them to be. This highly personal process requires getting to know one's ever-evolving self as intimately as possible. She believes that when we learn and accept who we truly are, we can be more authentic in our relationships with others, which brings an unparalleled sense of joyfulness and fulfillment to our lives as a whole.In this episode, you will hear:·      Defining Monogamish·      Honesty Over Secrecy·      Aftercare And Debriefs·      Becoming Intimate With Jealousy·      Updating Inherited Beliefs·      Boundaries You Can Revisit·      Move At The Slowest Partner’s Pace·      Culture, Labels, And Flexibility·      Communication As A Core Skill Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex.Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

5 Aug 41min

Welcome to Episode 449 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Jackie Goldschneiderwho speaks to me about eating disorders, body image, recovery, and how all of this intersects with sexuality and pleasure.In this conversation, Jackie shares the raw, unglamorized realities of living with anorexia for two decades, much of it while in the public eye. We explore her “inherited food trauma,” the cultural pressure of the 90s, and how secrecy, rules, and constant tracking kept her illness alive. Jackie opens up about the pivotal moment at 45 when health scares and a second rock bottom pushed her to choose recovery, tell her husband, and assemble a true treatment team to address the mental, physical, and emotional layers of healing.Jackie Goldschneider is an author, activist, speaker and a longtime cast member of The Real Housewives of New Jersey.  Before joining the show, Jackie was an attorney and freelance journalist, and has contributed extensively to publications including Good Housekeeping, HuffPost and Scary Mommy, and wrote a weekly parenting column for New Jersey's The Record newspaper for several years. Her debut memoir, The Weight of Beautiful, was published by ‎Simon and Schuster in September 2023. Since then, Jackie has been a nationally recognized advocate for eating disorder recovery.In this episode, you will hear:·      Inherited Food Trauma And Early Body Shame·      Fifteen Years Of Anorexia Hidden In Plain Sight·      Strategic Eating To Outsmart Cameras And Castmates·      Recovery As A Lifelong, Nonlinear Commitment·      Malnutrition’s Toll On Hormones, Estrogen, And Libido·      Therapy, Dietitian, And MD: A Three-Person Care Team·      Boundaries Around Body And Food Comments Are Essential·      Reclaiming Pleasure, Playfulness, And Nakedness In Sex·      Breaking Secrecy By Confiding In A Loved One Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

29 Juli 31min

Welcome to Episode 448 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Kate Balestrieri, who speaks to me about navigating low desire and reigniting intimacy in long‑term relationships.In this conversation, Kate and I normalize the reality that everyone, including sex therapists, experiences fluctuations in sexual desire. She shares the multifaceted story behind her own temporary drop in libido, touching on burnout, perimenopause, pandemic stress, and relationship “growing pains.” Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D is a Licensed Psychologist (Clinical and Forensic) in CA, FL, NY and IL. She is a Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist – Supervisor, and PACT III trained couples’ therapist. The Founder of Modern Intimacy, a nationwide therapy practice, Dr. Balestrieri is a passionate advocate for mental, relational and sexual health. Throughout her work, Dr. Balestrieri focuses on helping people build resilience and recovery from what ails them to move from a position of pain or discomfort to one of thriving, holistically in their lives. Dr. Balestrieri is the author of What Happened to My Sex Life? A Sex Therapist’s Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection and Pleasure, and is the host of the Get Naked with Dr. Kate podcast.In this episode, you will hear:·      Normalizing Fluctuating Desire·      Multifaceted Roots Of Low Libido·      Love–Lust Divide In Long‑Term Bonds·      Stress And Burnout As Desire Dampeners·      Role Of Novelty And Mystery·      Dangers Of Obligatory Or “Pity” Sex·      The 30% Orgasm Gap Explained·      Embodiment And Pleasure Practices·      Rekindling Passion With Intentional Effort It’s back, our L.A. Love Lab – Matchmaking Event! Happening Saturday, October 4, 2025 in Manhatten Beach, California with Dr. Moali and Dr. E…we hope you can join us and let us work our matchmaking magic on you! Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

22 Juli 26min