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10 Dating Behaviors That Are Messing With Your Head (And What to Call Them) | Ep. 170

In this episode, I'm handing you the dating dictionary I wish I'd had years ago. If you've ever felt confused, blindsided, or just plain crazy after a date or relationship fell apart — you weren't imagining it. The behavior has a name. And once you can name it, you stop second-guessing yourself and start making better decisions.

I walk through 10 modern dating terms — ghosting, zombieing, future faking, ghost lighting, micro-cheating, benching, banksying, breadcrumbing, love bombing, and situationships — what they look like, why they happen, and how to respond. I also share my 3-6-9 rule for checking in on compatibility at the right moments without over-investing too soon. The goal isn't to memorize a list. It's to trust yourself faster.

In This Episode:

00:00 - Introduction & Why Naming Behaviors Matters

00:48 - Ghosting: They Disappear With No Explanation

01:35 - Zombieing: Coming Back Like Nothing Happened

02:10 - Future Faking: Big Promises, Zero Follow-Through

02:52 - Ghost Lighting: Ghosting + Gaslighting in One Toxic Move

03:42 - Meet Lem From Nancy

04:12 - Micro-Cheating: Is It Really Cheating?

04:48 - Benching: You're On the Roster But Never In the Game

05:14 - Banksying: The Slow Fade That Goes Nowhere

05:40 - Breadcrumbing: Just Enough to Keep You Hooked

06:15 - Love Bombing: Intensity Followed by Disappearance

06:50 - Situationships: Emotionally Involved With No Clarity

07:25 - The 3-6-9 Rule for Checking Compatibility

08:05 - Final Thoughts & How to Trust Yourself Faster

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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Inside a Sex Club and a Kink Club for the First Time: What I Learned | Ep. 203

In this episode, I'm sharing something completely different: a firsthand account of a weekend I had in Montreal. I was there for an Advanced SAR — a Sexual Attitude Reassessment, the kind of training ...

22 Sep 17min

The Male G-Spot 101: The Truth About Prostate Massage, Risk, and the Anus Myth | Ep. 202

The prostate, also called the male G-spot, is a walnut-sized gland most straight men never want to talk about, and this episode is exactly that conversation. I get into what it does, how it's tied to ...

18 Sep 18min

How To Fix Performance Anxiety In The Bedroom, According To Sex Coach Alex Grendi | Ep. 201

In this episode, I'm talking with Alex Grendi, a men's intimacy and confidence coach who spent years quietly numbing his own performance anxiety before he understood what was actually driving it. Alex...

15 Sep 20min

Why Your Marriage Went Sexless — And How to Talk About It Again | Ep. 200

In this episode, I'm kicking off season 7 — and marking 200 episodes of Taboo to Truth — with one of the topics that comes up in my practice more than almost anything else: sexless marriages. From the...

12 Sep 14min

The Secret to Reconnecting in a Sexless Marriage with Coach Mike Elliott | Ep. 198 (Part 2)

In part two of my conversation with men's coach Mike Elliott, we get into how couples actually reconnect and rebuild intimacy after a sexless marriage, low desire, or years of disconnection in midlife...

8 Sep 23min

The Impact of Sexual Rejection: What It Does to Your Brain, Body & Relationship | Ep. 199

Chronic sexual rejection in a relationship doesn't just cause hurt feelings, it rewires how a person feels about themselves, their body, and their worth.In this episode I break down what's actually ha...

4 Sep 16min

The Secret to Reconnecting in a Sexless Marriage with Coach Mike Elliott | Ep. 198 (Part 1)

Every conversation about a sexless marriage gets pointed at the woman. Low desire, hormones, resentment, the mental load, she's the one who's supposed to explain herself. Nobody asks what happens on t...

1 Sep 22min

Dating After Divorce: What Nobody Tells You About Starting Over After 50

Dating after divorce isn't a downgrade. It's the first time you get to pick a partner with your eyes wide open, and that's exactly what I'm digging into this episode.I walk through what's genuinely di...

28 Aug 7min