From Broken Alcoholic to Ironman: How I Fixed My Life

In this raw and vulnerable episode, Marie turns the tables and interviews her husband Adam about his journey from anxiety and alcoholism to becoming the man he is today. This isn't your typical love story—it's a story about transformation, sobriety, and learning what love really means.

In this episode, Adam opens up about:

• Growing up in a "Brady Bunch" household and how it shaped his view of love

• The spiral of anxiety, shame, and alcoholism that consumed his early adult years

• Finding unconditional love for the first time in the rooms of AA

• How getting sober changed everything—but didn't fix everything

• The moment Marie said "go for it" when he wanted to do an Ironman (and why that mattered)

• Being ousted from his family business, then called back to lead it as CEO

• Why their relationship has been "four marriages" to the same person

• The difference between being "nice" and being "kind" in relationships

• How weekly meetings created psychological safety in their marriage

• Walking into the "dark forest" where all your dreams (and fears) live

Key Takeaways:

✨ You either grow together or grow apart—there's no standing still

✨ Love isn't nice. Love is kind. And there's a huge difference.

✨ Relationships aren't a zero-sum game—when one person thrives, everyone benefits

✨ The dark forest is scary, but it's also where all your answers are

This episode is for anyone who's ever felt broken, anyone navigating recovery, or any couple trying to figure out how to grow together instead of apart.

TIMESTAMPS:

0:00 - Hook: "I was still broken, very broken"

0:22 - Welcome & Introduction

1:28 - How love was shaped in Adam's childhood

2:40 - Growing up in a "Brady Bunch" household

5:48 - Discovering alcohol in college

7:20 - The anxiety and shame spiral

9:30 - Fear of romantic relationships as a teenager

11:53 - How alcohol changed everything

14:53 - Meeting "the one" doesn't fix everything

15:42 - "I brought me with me to the relationship"

16:17 - Codependency in early marriage

23:20 - Working in the family business & feeling trapped

28:28 - The people-pleasing trap

34:48 - The DUI that changed everything

36:11 - Finding unconditional love in AA

37:23 - "Your sobriety comes first"

38:26 - The power of transcendence

40:27 - "I want to do an Ironman" - "Go for it"

42:01 - Why relationships aren't a zero-sum game

43:41 - Al-Anon and quality time over quantity

45:32 - Conforming to society vs. thriving

50:24 - GoBundance: Finding real community

54:00 - Artificial safety vs. real psychological safety

60:48 - Weekly meetings as a game-changer

62:00 - "The dark forest is where your dreams come true"

63:00 - Navigating their daughter's health challenges

64:13 - Unpacking shame around sexuality

66:38 - Love is kind, not nice

67:40 - Openness and honesty: The doorway to love

70:52 - Challenging the traditional path

74:24 - Dad jokes as a tool for healing the world

75:11 - Wrap-up & Call to action

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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• GoBundance

• Al-Anon

• Ironman World Championship

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