LOVERS by Shan4 Okt 2023

How I Stopped Searching for Love in Lost People feat. Leah Lamarr

How do we fix our desire for relationships with people that will inevitably become broken. And how do we stop ourselves from aligning healthy with boring? That’s what we’re talking about on this episode of Lovers and Friends. Attraction, whether emotional, physical, or psychological, is a complex process. It can be influenced by numerous factors, from biology to personal history. If someone finds themselves repeatedly attracted to individuals with certain undesirable characteristics (like the makeup of a fuckboy: charismatic but not reliable, fun to be around but not fun to be apart from because communication is not stable or when out of sight they’re unpredictable, they make big plans but don’t consistently make the small actions to move towards that goal especially when it comes to you, etc…), understanding the underlying causes and taking conscious steps to modify patterns of attraction can be beneficial. Here's a scientific, step-by-step approach:Self-awareness and reflection Next, Examine past patternsUnderstand the biologyCognitive-behavioral techniques Increase self-worthExpand your social circleEducate yourselfAvoid idealizationpractice mindfulnessFollow Leah Lamarrhttps://www.instagram.com/leahlamarrhttps://sociatap.com/leahlamarr/ Show Love to Our SponsorsZoc DocGo to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEHello FreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus free shippingSkimsTry The Cotton collection and more are available now at http://SKIMS.com Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars! Extras in this episode The Art of Manipulation: Influence Human Behavior, Understand the Psychology of Manipulation, Effectively Manage People, and Get What You (Really) Want! Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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