The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️10 Dec 2025

3 ADHD Coping Habits That Secretly Burn You Out

If you’re an ADHD woman, especially a high-achieving one, chances are you’ve spent most of your life using coping habits that helped you survive… until they slowly stopped working.

In this episode, I’m sharing the three coping patterns that supported me for decades but eventually contributed to resentment, exhaustion, and burnout.

We’ll explore how these habits formed, why they seemed helpful, and how they quietly became stress responses that drained my energy, presence, and joy.

And most importantly — we’ll walk through what I’m doing differently now so you can begin shifting these patterns in your own life.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re running behind, over-functioning, or trying to “get it right” so nothing explodes later… this episode will help you feel seen, understood, and less alone.

✨ Mentioned in the episode: The ADHD 5-Step Task Master Plan — a free, compassionate guide to help you get things done without burning yourself out. Grab it here: https://jenbarnes.org/task-master-plan/

—CHAPTERS—

00:00 Introduction: The Hidden Cost of ADHD Coping Habits

01:06 Welcome to the Self Loved ADHD Woman's Way Podcast

02:11 Maladaptive Coping Habit #1: Saying Yes to Everything

04:51 Maladaptive Coping Habit #2: Perfectionism

06:55 Maladaptive Coping Habit #3: Hyper Efficiency

10:08 Shifting Towards Healthier Habits

12:31 Conclusion: Embrace a Sustainable Life

✨ If you found this episode helpful… Please follow, subscribe, and share it with another ADHD woman who needs support!

💛 Connect with me on social media!

Youtube: @Jenbarnes

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenbarneslicsw/

DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

Det här avsnittet är hämtat från ett öppet RSS-flöde och publiceras inte av Podme. Det kan innehålla reklam.

Avsnitt(149)

How to Stop Fighting Anxiety with ADHD & Still Function

You've thought about it. Maybe more than once. What would actually happen if you let go of the push? Not because you don't want to stop hustling, but because some part of you is terrified of what happ...

24 Juni 41min

What Replaces Anxiety When You Finally Stop

For a long time, anxiety wasn't the enemy. It was the engine. It got you out of bed, through the meeting, past the deadline — and you told yourself that was just how you operated. That was just you. B...

10 Juni 30min

You've Been Using Anxiety to Function

This is a short podcast episode part of the series Rewire the Worry that crosses both my podcast and YouTube channel. If you missed the first in the series Wired to Worry, catch it here. You've proba...

27 Maj 9min

What Adderall Actually Felt Like at 52

There's a version of you that has been white-knuckling it for years. Exercising every day. Journaling. Meditating. Doing all the "right" things — and still watching the gap grow between who you are an...

29 Apr 27min

The Hidden Cost of Not Speaking Up With ADHD

You know rest matters. You've read about it, heard about it, maybe even told someone else they needed more of it. And you're still exhausted. Not because you're doing it wrong. Not because you lack di...

22 Apr 19min

ADHD Success that Still Feels Like Anxiety

You did the work. You built the thing. You hit the milestone. And your nervous system is still braced for impact. For so many ADHD women, especially those who masked through overachievement, success b...

8 Apr 23min

The Hidden Cost of “Having It Together”

There’s a version of you everyone trusts. The one who figures it out. Keeps it together. Doesn’t drop the ball. And if you’re honest… it’s getting harder to keep being her. Because what looks like str...

1 Apr 31min

The Part of ADHD Diagnosis No One Warns You About

There’s a moment many women describe after finally receiving an ADHD diagnosis in adulthood. At first, things begin to make sense. Patterns you’ve carried for years suddenly have an explanation. And f...

25 Mars 18min