Gay Men Going Deeper19 Okt 2023

Healing a Traumatic Past (CPTSD)

In this episode Matt speaks with Scott Blackwood about healing their traumatic pasts. They talk about the impacts of relational and attachment trauma on their lives and how this led to Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), shame, low self-esteem and social isolation. They talk about how the unresolved trauma impacted their relationship with themselves and others and the steps they are taking to overcome this.

Here are some of the concepts they explored in this episode:

What is trauma?
What is CPTSD?
The Neurobiology and Nervous system impacts of trauma
Exploring how trauma shows up in us (trauma responses)
Our personal stories of relational/attachment trauma
The impact trauma has on the gay community
Ways to heal past trauma

Most humans experience relational/attachment trauma over the course of their lives and it is important to be trauma informed so we know how to be sensitive and compassionate towards ourselves and others as we navigate our own trauma healing journeys.

Our hope is this episode will normalize trauma, and release any shame or stigma around having unresolved trauma because it’s a lot more common than we think.

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Today's Hosts:

Scott Blackwood: Facebook

Matt Landsiedel: Instagram Website

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Chapters

(00:00:00) - Healing a Traumatic Past
(00:03:11) - Uncovering Complex Trauma
(00:07:50) - CPTSD and Relationship Trauma
(00:13:44) - Being Bullied as a Child
(00:15:20) - The Impact Of Bullying On My Life
(00:18:40) - The Place of Protectors in Your Life
(00:22:10) - Michael on Protecting His Inner Child
(00:27:08) - The Search for Who We Are
(00:28:34) - Transcending Trauma Healing Complex PTSD With Internal Family Systems Therapy
(00:32:22) - Treatment of Trauma: The Shame
(00:37:39) - How Dissociating Made Me More Fearful
(00:40:24) - I Share My Story On My Inner Child
(00:45:44) - Talking About Coming Out As A Gay Man
(00:48:13) - Why Overcoming Codependency Is Hardest Work Ever Done
(00:52:18) - How to Stop Avoiding Gay Things
(00:54:01) - How to Love Yourself After Trauma

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