23. How Talking to your Deepest Fears will grow your business

Today I’m going to share a practice I have done for almost a decade, and it has undeniably helped my business growth, my creative output, and helped me live a more wholehearted personal and professional life.

It’s called Talking to your Deepest Fears.

I first learned the concept from Tara Brach a decade ago. And Carolyn Elliott teaches an amazing practice she calls Deepest Fear Inventory. (I highly recommend her book Existential Kink and her Electric Yes offering)

I have been doubling down on this practice for the last three months and it has made me better at making money, setting boundaries, and prioritizing my creativity.

Grab a pen and paper and listen to this practice. I hope it provides you the freedom and liberation it has provided me.

Choose a goal.

Then write: I absolutely REFUSE to reach this goal of … because I have a deep fear that…

Then write out the fear.

Repeat writing out: Because I have a deep fear that…. 10 to 20 times. Each time uncover a new fear. Look at the fears and feel them in your body. And breathe deeply 3-5 times. Be with the sensations without pushing them away.

Then, imagine you are the most brilliant lawyer and write out a rebuttal to each fear.

For example: I absolutely refuse to set clear boundaries and stick to them because I have a deep fear that I will hurt people’s feelings.

Rebuttal: Well, people sometimes experience hurt feelings, and they bounce back. And who knows, maybe it will inspire them to also have clear boundaries in their life.

Do this practice 3-5 times a week and WATCH your life transform.

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