Demystifying Mental Toughness23 Juli 2021

073 David on Being Tough Vs Being Comfortable in Your Own Skin – Part 2

This is Part 2 of a series of episodes on being comfortable in your own skin, where I unpack 3 more common "toughness" themes where we can unconsciously behave in certain ways or put up barriers. The barriers I discuss today are concerned with goal-setting, prejudice and delegation at individual and organisational levels. As always, this episode is designed to help you question your approach and become the best version of yourself.

Key Learning Points:

Goal Setting if done right can aid confidence and motivation and reduce anxiety, if it's done incorrectly and not given the respect it deserves it can have the opposite effect.
Some individuals are frightened to set goals, because of anxiety and in case they go on to sabotage their own success.
Some people keep quiet and do not discuss their goals and very uncomfortable doing so.
Consider if your culture belittles people who discuss what they want to achieve?
If you are a coach or a manager do you display empathy and understanding for people who have a disability?
Are you too judgemental about people and their limitations?
Is there a tough or macho culture in your organisations or club which is set up to focus so much on outcomes and performance that the human is forgotten about and does not allow people to express themselves and be supported properly?
Many people will tell you they are too busy to delegate. That it's more efficient for them to just do it themselves, is this born out of being tough. Do you see yourself as a failure if you ask for help?
Do you believe that passing on work to others will detract from your own self-importance?
Have you considered that by delegating tasks, by letting other people do things, talking about their fears more openly it can promote an environment where everyone feels more comfortable in their own skins.

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