You're Seeking Approval From People Who Aren't Thinking About You

We can't put a brick down yet! We need planning permission first. But in this episode, we're talking about the metaphorical kind.

Episode 4 is all about the invisible permission committee living rent-free in your head. You know the one; parents, friends, society, social media, and yes... even ghosts (people who haven't been in your life for years). We're diving deep into why so many of us are engaging in self-betrayal just to keep the committee happy, and why it's time to hand in your resignation.

Candice gets personal, from a two-year battle over unfollowing everyone on social media, to a nipple piercing she sat on for three years, to showing up to London Fashion Week in a crumpled black hoodie when the jacket stayed home.

Real stories. Real growth. Real accountability. This week's self-reflection question is: Whose permission do you think you need to be the best version of you? And on the flip side: What would your dream life look like if you remembered you didn't need anyone's permission to build it?

We're deep in the rebuild. Don't skip steps.

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