You Are A Single Mother (And He's Taking The Piss)

"I'm gonna need you to respect the want like it's a need. The way you need to breathe is the way you need to get to your knitting class. Because as women with busy lives, it's very easy to not respect the want... and when you disrespect the want, one day the want is gonna come down the road and fling your head back and disrespect you."

Welcome back to Episode Three of Chapter Two of Conversations with Candice. This season is all about love and relationships, and let's be completely for real, the listener boxes are absolutely scalping me.

Candice is back on a strict school pick-up time crunch today, but we are holding absolutely nothing back as we unpack four massive, deeply layered listener dilemmas.

From analyzing our own vibrations to refusing early compromise in the dating pool, today we challenge standard societal milestones and talk about what happens when boundaries must stand on business. Co-producer Bode also steps out from behind the monitor to offer an essential patriarchal perspective on dating expectations, financial goalposts, and separating parental duties from relationship breakdowns.

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

• Dilemma 1: Should you wait until your life is perfect or you’ve officially "arrived" to start dating? Candice and Bode break down the toxic moving goalposts created by social media timelines.
• Dilemma 2: What does it mean when a nightlife "big dog" plays the perfect partner on date one but hits you with breadcrumbs and slow replies by date three? Unpacking the psychology of early dating compromises.
• Dilemma 3: A 39-year-old neurodivergent mother of three manages the entire emotional and physical workload alone, only for her 50-year-old non-committal partner to claim her independence is a "red flag." Candice issues an emergency reality check, and Bode drops a firm boundary line regarding fatherhood.
• Dilemma 4: Navigating a 40-year marriage when love remains but intimacy is completely dead.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

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• Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin

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