10 Seemingly Small Things That Drive Autism & ADHD Families Absolutely Mad

In this light-hearted episode, Eva and me swap our top 10 annoyances: from phones getting blamed for everything and being talked over, to school rules that don’t make sense, “you’re so lazy” comments, and being told off in PE when you’re actually in pain. Along the way we unpack PDA, selective hearing, unclear instructions, bullying over teddy bears, and why drawing in class might be the only way some kids can actually listen. Hopefully, you will find this episode to be a light-hearted and relatable look at life inside a neurodiverse family - where everyone’s a bit annoying, everyone’s a bit sensitive, and love lives right alongside all the eye-rolls. EPISODE REVEALS In a neurodiverse family it is super easy to drive each other crazy loud chewing might drive your autistic son mad because it overwhelms him, while the fact he doesn´t appear to be paying attention when you talk to him is exasperating you. Neurodiverse children often need a bit more of an explanation or to be told something more than once. Vague directions like “just sort it out” and rules that don’t make sense can trigger PDA responses; clarity, detail and collaboration reduce friction. One person drifting off mid conversation can make communication more challenging. Drawing, fidgeting, and looking away can be powerful tools for focus; not making eye contact doesn’t mean a child isn’t listening. A bit of extra understanding and patience really helps to keep the peace and turn home into a safe and nurturing place for everyone. Humour always helps. BEST MOMENTS "Please don´t cancel me for this episode - I felt like I should cut more of this than I actually did." "Selective hearing - If I don't hear the full word, my brain fills in the gaps and makes stuff up." "We're all a little bit annoying. We're all a little bit quirky, and somehow we still love each other, anyway." RESOURCES Eva’s channel: https://youtube.com/shorts/vX4xOtMG95w?si=uqWJ-TF8zzWrRMIS Famisafe Parental control App Link: https://wondersharesoftware.pxf.io/ParentingAUDHD What to Do When Your Child Shuts Down: Real-World Parenting Strategies for Neurodivergent Kids Who Shut Down, Refuse School, or Just Stop communicating with you: https://amzn.eu/d/0fBIfbhR CLIFF´S SERVICES Are you struggling with anxiety and want support from someone who has been there and come out the other side? - Message Cliff here and take advantage of his founding members offer: https://m.me/cliff.kilmister CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister X - @KilmisterCliff YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/