Men Are More Sensitive Than You Think

Do you keep attracting the same kind of partner, no matter how much work you think you've done? Have you ever confused the feeling of being wanted with actually being safe? Or wondered why you can give your vulnerability so freely, yet feel like the man across from you would rather fight you than let you in? In this episode of Trigger Proof with Mikki Bey, emotional regulation coach Mikki Bey sits down with Mike Elliott, relationship expert and men's coach, for a raw and eye-opening conversation about attachment, the wounded masculine, emotional labor, and what it actually takes to build a relationship where both people feel safe. Mike shares his own story, from being adopted twice and severed from early attachment, to years spent numbing with drugs, domination, and the mantra "men will fear me, women will want me," to the two reckonings that finally cracked him open and led him to this work. Together, Mikki and Mike unpack why so many men are walking around with a little boy driving the bus, why friction can feel safer to a man than vulnerability, and why the emotional load women have been carrying for years is real and deserves to be seen before anything else can shift. You will learn why intimacy is not a feeling but a practice of two people creating safety for each other, and why the most powerful move in a relationship is taking radical ownership of your own side of the pattern.In this conversation, Mikki and Mike explore:- Why men are far more sensitive than they appear, and how numbing hides it- The little boy inside a man, and how it quietly runs his relationships- Why friction and conflict can feel safer to a man than being vulnerable- The three levels of relational consciousness: me, you-me, and we- Why the emotional labor women carry deserves to be seen before the reframe- How your little girl can be driving the bus too, without you realizing it- What it really means to create safety for a partner to open his heart- Why "he just won't do the work" often carries an energy he can feel- How self-soothing and addiction, from crack to fried chicken, numb the feedback life is trying to give us- Why so many women are opting out of love, and what to do before you swear off men for good- How to find people living sacred relationship and let them model it for youMike also shares why the healing does not happen in isolation, and how being held by someone who is actually living a thriving relationship can transform the frequency you carry and the love you attract. If you have ever felt like you keep starting over in love, like you give more than you receive, or like you brace for disappointment before a man ever has the chance to show up, this episode will meet you right where you are. This is not just a conversation about men. It is about ownership, emotional regulation, self-love, and learning how to be in a relationship with yourself first so that everything else can follow.Connect with Mike Elliott Podcast: The Sacred We PodcastEmail: transform@itsmikeelliott.comWebsite: itsmikeelliott.comInstagram: @mikeelliott.relatingConnect with Mikki BeyDownload Mikki's Free Emotional Regulation Bundle (ebook, workbook, and masterclass): https://themikkibeygroup.com/inquiryfWebsite: https://www.themikkibeygroup.com/LinkedIn: Mikki BeyInstagram: @getmikkibey