63. One Year Later: What Love Taught Me

What if our fantasies say less about what we want to do, and more about who we get to be?In this chapter of Collecting Maps, I explore why shame is such a poor tool for understanding ourselves, why cu...

8 Sep 18min

We tend to talk about desire as if we already know what it is. More closeness, more passion, more sex.When people say they miss sex, though, they aren’t always talking about it. Sometimes they miss fe...

1 Sep 22min

Relationships don’t only reveal who the other person is. They reveal us.The closer someone gets, the more they can awaken parts of us that existed long before they arrived. Old stories, protective pat...

25 Aug 18min

Falling in love is only the beginning. What happens after we choose each other?Chemistry may bring two people together, but it doesn’t tell them how to build a life.In this chapter of Collecting Maps,...

18 Aug 13min

Why do we fall in love with the people we do?We like to believe attraction is a choice. That we meet someone, get to know them and gradually decide that this is a person we want.Often, something happe...

11 Aug 21min

What if the biggest challenge in relationships isn’t a lack of love, but a lack of shared language?In this episode, I explore how conversations with psychologists, neuroscientists, therapists, sexolog...

4 Aug 9min

For a long time, when something painful happened, I asked why. Why is this happening to me? Now I ask a different question. What is this trying to teach me?In this episode we explore why love is not a...

21 Juli 16min