Why Perfectionists Burnout

Are you tired of getting by? Ready to move beyond burn out? Discover the *real reason* you're burning out (it has nothing to do with meditation or caffeine intake) and how to stop settling for a life running on 20% battery. Hear from Perfectionism Optimized client Kevin bravely shares his story of being the all-star perfectionist parent addicted to stress, on the verge of divorce living in a pressure-cooker of his own making and resentful AF. Discover how he moved beyond band-aid solutions for being burnt out, let go of the need for control and rewired to become a playful parent, partner and person.

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Listen to the Full Episode To Learn:

• Why you want to alter how you perceive and react to your signs of burnout
• How adverse childhood experiences contribute to.over functioning
• What Kevin did step-by-step to go from from over-functioning stress addiction to rewire and redefine success on his own terms

Resources Mentioned:

• Perfectionism Optimized: empowers perfectionists and high-achieving, Type A individuals to take charge, leverage their perfectionistic tendencies and quit fighting against their perfectionism forever using proven neuroscience so you can feel as amazing as your life looks and become the powerhouse you’re designed to be.
• The Body Keeps Score: A book that delves into how the body stores stress and trauma, emphasizing the importance of treating both mind and body.

EPSISODE 179 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:23-Understanding the real root of why Perfectionists are Burned Out

02:41-Kevin's Story: From Stress Addict to Playful Parent

04:05-Exploring the Roots of Over functioning

06:17-If I do it all perfect and stay in control then I AM SAFE

07:11-Diving Deep into the Psychology of Perfectionism

09:16-Olivia Benson, Special Victims Unit + Owning Your Over Functioning

10:20-How Shooting Up Heroin is just like Using Perfectionism To Manage Stress

12:15-Assessing the Impact of Burnout + Doing Life at 20%

13:42-Holistic Approach to Healing Perfectionism

16:10-Why Band-Aid Solutions Like Therapy Make Burnout Worse

17:18-Developing Customized Proven Pathways that Integrate your Somatic

18:32-The Simple Science Of Tracking Detailed Data for Progress

21:55-How to Recognize Early Signs of Burnout

22:47-Celebrating Kevin's Transformation and Triumph

25:19-Who Will You Choose to Be? Warning Label or Shining Example?

Sources + Citations:

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