Betrayal Trauma: Healing After Sexual Addiction, Infidelity & Broken Trust | With Roxanna Johnson

When betrayal shatters your world, where do you begin rebuilding?

In this episode of AuDHD and Then Some, I sit down with author, speaker and betrayal trauma advocate Roxanna Johnson to explore the devastating impact of discovering a partner’s sexual addiction, pornography addiction or infidelity—and, most importantly, how healing is possible.

Roxanna shares her own deeply personal story after discovering her husband’s secret sexual addiction after almost 24 years of marriage. Together we discuss betrayal trauma, trust, boundaries, forgiveness, detaching with love, people-pleasing, shame, rebuilding your identity, and what recovery can look like whether your partner chooses healing or not.

We also explore whether neurodivergent people, including those with ADHD and autism, may experience betrayal, rejection and uncertainty differently, and how emotional regulation, rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), hypervigilance and black-and-white thinking can influence the healing journey.

Whether you’re recovering from betrayal, supporting someone who is, or simply want to understand the psychology of trust and trauma, this conversation offers compassion, practical insights and hope.

In this episode we discuss:

• What betrayal trauma is and why it hurts so deeply

• Sexual addiction, pornography addiction and partner betrayal

• Healthy boundaries vs trying to control someone else

• Detaching with love

• Forgiveness and rebuilding trust

• People-pleasing and shame

• Rebuilding your identity after betrayal

• Betrayal trauma in ADHD and autistic adults

• Finding hope after heartbreak

Connect with Roxanna Johnson:

https://forgottenspouse.com

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