Confronting The Line18 Nov 2025

E53 Gay and Christian: Confronting Shame, Conformity, and the Line Between Faith and Fear

Anne Peterson welcomes Ken Wortley, a former pastor and author of the memoir The Gospel of Secrets, to Confronting the Line. Our show explores how groups—from spiritual to personal development—can cross the boundary from providing help to inflicting harm and exploitation.

Ken shares his deeply personal chronicle detailing his journey from a life defined by pretense to one of authenticity. For two decades, Ken served as a pastor within a conservative evangelical environment, struggling intensely to suppress his homosexual identity. He discusses the pressure to adhere to the ideal of a "successful pastor," which included maintaining a "mask of marriage". The conversation explores the confusion and pain that comes with feeling rejected by a community that was once home, and the lengths people go to hide their true selves to maintain certainty and acceptance.

Ken recounts the process of his painful divorce—the moment his wife "stabbed the elephant in the living room"—which launched him into a years-long journey of therapy, deconstruction, and unlearning theology. We discuss the pervasive nature of secrets and the "ripple effect" of dishonesty. Ultimately, Ken found acceptance and peace with his partner in Brazil, achieving a genuine connection to spirituality outside of rigid institutions. This episode is a profound examination of the courage required to look within and forgive oneself.

RESOURCES & LINKS:

Get Ken’s book https://tinyurl.com/4yssakvt and learn more about Ken’s journey or contact him directly via his website https://kenwortley.com/

Get in contact with Anne or read her Book Is This A Cult: Confronting the Line Between Exploitation and Transformation and find other pods and resources → https://isthisacultbook.com/

If you or someone you know is wrestling with recovery after being involved in a high-control group, relationship or any organization, check out the Healthy Healing and Recovery Group w/ Rachel Bernstein https://ilumn8.life/op/lgat-recovery-group/

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