81. How Do You Want to Feel? The Question That Stopped My Divorce (The Tables Turn with Dr. Emma Smith)

The tables turn this week. My friend — and my go-to sex therapist — Dr. Emma Smith puts me in the guest chair, and I tell the story I've never told this completely: the Wednesday morning I sat in couples therapy and said "I want a divorce, and I have a lawyer." I wasn't bluffing. And then my therapist asked me a question so strange I almost laughed at him — and it shot straight into the middle of my soul, ended the divorce, and started everything you now know as The Feminine Rebellion.

What you'll hear:

🔥 The full origin story: the bomb I dropped in therapy, the question that undid me, and the vision — my grandmother's ragù, Jerry Garcia, my husband's beard on my neck — that told me what I actually wanted

🔥 Why softening is the hardest part for capable women: "we can do it all, so we do it all" — and what it costs when your body never gets to receive

🔥 The day a yoga teacher handed me a book on the feminine and I wanted to punch her in the throat — and the 88 keys I've learned to play since

🔥 The magic of midlife: why we are the wisest humans on the planet, and what a woman fueled by pleasure pushes into the world

🔥 Pleasure is a spectrum — orgasm is 1% of it — and the five-pound-weight way back to wanting anything at all.

The framework: This episode lives in The Reclamation — my own. Desire, softness, and the right to feel, taken back one drop at a time.

About Dr. Emma Smith: Dr. Emma Smith is a sex therapist and researcher, creator of Desire Recalibration, and the woman I trust most with this conversation. Instagram: @emmasmithphd

🎟 The Desire Recalibration Masterclass — Thursday, August 14, FREE, on Zoom: Dr. Emma, Alex West (former SEAL Team Six operator turned somatic clinical counselor), and me — for couples who still love each other but lost the erotic thread, and for every woman ready to unearth her desire. Partners genuinely welcome. Save your seat: soliloquie.myflodesk.com/rebellion

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