Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal20 Aug

#173 Betrayed Men: Why Their Trauma Looks Different — and What Actually Helps with Dr. Laney Knowlton

When we talk about betrayal trauma, the picture most people carry is of a betrayed woman. But men experience betrayal too — and their pain often goes unseen, misread as anger, or dismissed entirely. In this episode, Dr. Laney Knowlton joins us to look honestly at what betrayal trauma looks like for men.

We talk about the support gap, look at the cultural messages men carry, and how those make healing challenging.

Most importantly, we talk about what actually helps and what genuine healing looks like whether a man chooses to stay or leave.

Dr. Laney Knowlton is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor and clinical sexologist with a PhD in Clinical Sexology. She maintains a private practice, Knowlton Counseling with physical offices in TX and UT and is licensed across more than a dozen states. She specializes in sexual abuse, betrayal, and problematic sexual behavior. Dr. Knowlton is the author of Healing from Betrayal, Infidelity, and Problematic Sexual Behaviors (Routledge, 2025) and the developer of the Connected Recovery® framework. She currently serves as President of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH).

KnowltonCounseling.com & ConnectedRecoveryTraining.com

Laney@KnowltonCounseling.com

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Other Resources in this Episode:

Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction

Helping Couples Heal From Infidelity and Find Love Again

The Intimacy Pyramid

The Betrayal Shrink

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The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive ⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah.

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