Building Your Divorce Support Team: Who Belongs in Your Corner?

🎧 Listen if you…

Are exhausted from justifying your divorce to everyone around you
Have family pressuring you to "keep it amicable" or reconcile
Suspect your ex has recruited your friends, in-laws or family
Aren't sure your lawyer is actually in your corner

This is general information only, not legal advice always consult a lawyer about your circumstances. This episode discusses family violence and coercive control. In danger? Call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732).

You can do everything right in your divorce and still be exhausted because of the people standing around you

00:00 – Divorce Support Team: Why the People Around You Matter

02:30 – Why You Never Plan Your Team (But Should)

03:30 – Lyn's Divorce 40 Years Ago: Judgement in a Country Town

04:30 – Your Ex Is Not on Your Support Team

06:00 – Family Members: Who Helps and Who Hurts

08:00 – "Keep It Amicable" Is Code for "Just Give In"

09:30 – When Family Cares More About How It Looks

10:30 – Family Violence: When Family Pressure Becomes Unsafe

11:00 – It's Not Your Job to Explain Coercive Control to Everyone

12:00 – The One Loyal Family Member Who Saw Behind the Mask

13:00 – What to Say to Pressuring Family Members

14:30 – In-Laws: Pausing Even the Good Relationships

17:00 – Enabler In-Laws and When to Distance Fast

19:00 – Family Violence Orders: When Family Contact Breaks the Rules

20:30 – Friends: Who Rolls Up Their Sleeves vs Who Stays "Neutral"

23:00 – Judgy Friends and the Gossip Collectors

25:00 – Screenshots to Your Ex: The Social Media Trap

26:30 – Don't Forget the Fun Friends: Finding Glimmers of Joy

28:30 – Online Support Groups: The Risks Nobody Talks About

30:00 – Commenting Publicly About Your Case: Court Consequences

32:00 – The Tom Holland Rule for Handling Criticism

32:45 – Choosing a Lawyer: What the Right One Looks Like

36:00 – Lawyer Red Flags: Gatekeeping Your Story (Episode 166)

37:00 – Brave Lawyers vs Lawyers Afraid of Court

38:30 – The Three As: Affability, Availability, Ability

39:30 – Why You Need Your Own Psychologist

41:00 – Emotion-Driven Strategy: The Most Expensive Mistake

42:30 – Kids and School: One Contact Person + the Counsellor

45:30 – Church and Faith Communities: Support or Pressure?

49:00 – Your Kids Can't Be on Your Team

50:00 – Bad Podcasts, Reddit and Wrong Information

53:00 – Rapid Fire: Neutral Besties, Slow Lawyers & Nosy Sisters

56:30 – High-Conflict Ex: What Your Team Needs to Be

58:30 – Avoidant Ex: The Friends Who Do the Hard Yakka

59:30 – Manipulative & Controlling Ex: Vetting for Flying Monkeys

1:00:30 – Amicable Split: Why You Still Need a Team

1:01:45 – "It's My Decision": Mum's Cushion Wisdom

🔗 Resources

10 Essential Boundaries for a Healthier Divorce (Ep 173)

When In-Laws Interfere in Your Divorce (Ep 305)

Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story? (Ep 166)

1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 | Lifeline – 13 11 14 | Police – 000

The Divorce Course – www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

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