Starting Over At 36, Public Heartbreak and ‘Not Staying Stuck’ - Uncut with Rhi Disljenkovic

Hey Lifers!

Something we’ve spoken about a lot on this pod is how neither of us found the love we have now until we were well into our 30s. Every single day our DMs and inboxes are full of the same two questions. From women navigating the utter chaos of modern dating, wondering if they're doing it wrong, if they're too picky, if they've missed some invisible window. And from women sitting in relationships that are ‘fine’, not bad, just not right, but worried about having to ‘start again’ when society is telling them the clock is ticking and beggars can't be choosers. We don't think it's crazy. We think knowing what you want, and refusing to compromise on it, might be the bravest thing you can do in your 30s.

Which brings us to today's guest Rhi Disljenkovic. Many of us got to know Rhi when she turned up on our MAFS screens having already met the guy who was standing at the end of the aisle waiting for her. Rhi and Jeff left the experiment together. A few months ago, Rhi made the incredibly difficult decision to end her relationship with Jeff.

In today’s episode, Rhi speaks about what actually happened behind the scenes, why she made the choice to leave a relationship that so many people online assumed was a fairytale, and what it's like restarting again in your mid-30s, in the public eye, while everyone else has an opinion.

We get into the pressure of being an "inspirational" couple online, the difference between a bad relationship and a relationship that's just not right, the rumours she's had to sit with in silence, and why she's decided to start an egg freezing journey now.

We chat:

• The sunk cost fallacy in relationships; do you settle, or start again?
• Whether Rhi and Jeff's shared history was picked up by producers, or pure coincidence
• The pressure of sharing a relationship online and feeling like a "fraud"
• Why she'd call it "a relationship that's just not right," not a bad relationship
• Boundaries she overlooked, and the rumours that were hardest to sit with
• Writing her breakup statement, and what it's like posting it knowing it'll be picked apart
• What life looks like for her now
• Her advice for anyone quietly questioning their own relationship

You can find more from Rhi on her Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rhidisljenkovic/?hl=en

Timestamps

• 0:00 — Intro: Rhi joins us to talk restarting in your mid-30s in public
• 5:08 — Rhi’s MAFS journey and their connection after the show
• 12:39 — Getting into the break up: wanting a future and feeling like a fraud
• 18:15 — Why it was "just not right," not bad, and how she chose to leave
• 25:17 — Writing the breakup statement and sitting with the rumours
• 30:01 — Choosing herself at 36, and starting her egg freezing journey

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