The Cost of Quiet: Communication & Healing After Divorce with Colette Fehr

Communication, healthy conflict, emotional triggers, attachment styles, and healing after divorce are at the heart of this conversation with licensed psychotherapist and author Colette Fehr.

Colette is the author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love, a powerful guide to understanding what happens when we suppress our needs instead of communicating them—and how to break those patterns.

In this episode, Erica and Colette talk about:

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• Why healthy conflict can save a relationship instead of destroying it.
• How attachment styles and nervous-system responses influence the way we communicate.
• Why our triggers aren't always about our partner—and how to respond instead of react.
• The importance of inner child healing and self-responsibility in healthy relationships.
• How suppressing needs and avoiding hard conversations can create resentment and emotional distance.
• Why clearly communicating your needs can create secure, lasting love.

🌟 Resources & Links

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Connect with This Week's Guest: Colette Fehr

Learn more about Colette, her work as a licensed psychotherapist, and her relationship resources.

https://www.colettejanefehr.com

The Cost of Quiet

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https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

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And remember: healing your relationship patterns starts with learning to understand yourself, communicate your needs, and respond instead of react.