Go Outside More as a Single Person | Stop Trying to Find Your Person Everywhere | Episode 55

Get outside, really: the main point is that spending time in nature, even just ten minutes a day, is a tiny habit that can seriously lift your head out of the dating-app spiral and make single life feel less like an endless audition. I’m Wioleta, and I rant (lovingly) about how we need a life that exists outside our phones and our own overactive minds—walks, forest preserves, porch coffee, sunsets, or even a slow sit under a tree all count. I used to go on solo dinners thinking I’d meet someone, until my sister basically told me to relax and have fun instead; now I go to meet people and to enjoy people-watching, not to optimize my love life. Whether you’re moving—hiking, biking, strolling—or simply stepping outside without an agenda, nature reminds you there’s a whole world happening beyond relationship status. So here’s your tiny, ridiculously doable glow-up: step outside every day, no pressure, no podcast required (but fine, take one if it makes you happier). Trust me, we’re allowed to enjoy our lives as they are; and hey, even if we’re late, we’re right on time—we got this.

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I give a ridiculously simple glow-up this week: go outside every day, even if it’s only for ten minutes. I promise I’m not turning into a fitness guru (I’m a self-confessed non-runner), but there’s a difference between scrolling on your couch and feeling the actual wind on your face. I talk through super-practical ways to make nature a small, regular habit — take your coffee to the porch, walk to a nearby forest preserve, watch the sunset, or try a short loop around your neighborhood without doomscrolling. You don’t need an agenda: no podcast, no music, just noticing the sky, the temperature, and maybe how weirdly excited you get when it’s finally in the 70s. I also get real about how singles can get trapped in our heads — comparing milestones, obsessing over dating outcomes — and how those ten minutes outside short-circuit the spiral. For the folks who see public outings as missions to meet someone: been there, ate the overpriced solo dinner, felt the couple-envy. Now? I go out to meet people for stories, not to optimize my love life. So here’s a tiny challenge: try stepping outside today without any expectation. It’s not cheesy — it’s practical therapy, and I’ll be cheering you on.

Takeaways:

• I insist you go outside not to swipe or flirt, but just to breathe and exist — even ten minutes on your porch counts.
• We don’t have to turn every walk, coffee, or event into a strategic dating move; sometimes we go simply to enjoy sunsets, birds, and fresh air.
• Being outside breaks the loop of overthinking and screen-glued sadness; nature recalibrates our mood and perspective more than another hour of scrolling.
• I learned from my solo-dinner phase that going out to ‘meet someone’ felt hollow — now I go out to meet people and stories, not just romantic potential.
• A tiny daily ritual — a 10-minute walk, sipping coffee on your front porch, or watching the sunset — can make your single life feel fuller and less bleak.
• Remember, even if we feel late in life’s schedule, we’re right on time; our lives are happening now, outside apps and comparison traps.