Is Certainty Making Us Lonely? with Miles Adcox

Why does being right feel so much better than being curious? And is our obsession with certainty the cause of our greatest divides?

This episode breaks down the psychology behind certainty — why our brains default to it, what it costs us in our relationships, and why curiosity might be the more reliable path to actually feeling connected to other people.

What you'll learn

How confirmation bias shapes what we believe is true, without us noticing it happening
What the illusory truth effect is, and why repetition can make an opinion feel like fact
How to tell the difference between healthy disagreement and contempt
Why algorithms and media incentives reward certainty over nuance — and what that does to us over time
A mindset shift for staying curious under pressure, borrowed from an unlikely place: horsemanship
Why feeling understood does more for anxiety than winning an argument ever does
How to hold strong beliefs without needing everyone around you to agree

Building your curiosity muscles? Onsite offers a range of experiences to do life-changing work around your story and what your body might be holding onto. Learn more here.

Timestamps

00:00 — This might be why you're feeling lonely

02:30 — Illusory truth effect and confirmation bias
05:30 — Making content in the age of outrage
07:00 — The real product is Identity
09:45 — A horse changed everything
13:00 — Understanding vs. "winning"
15:00 — Becoming harder to recruit

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