Why You Feel Disconnected During Sex

Try the We-Vibe Nova to explore internal and external stimulation together, no experience necessary: https://bit.ly/wevibenovadual Let's talk about what actually gets in the way of connected, present, pleasurable sex… because it is almost never what you think it is. In this episode I'm taking live listener calls from people who are done settling for sex that feels disconnected, performative, or just plain stuck. A divorced mom of two who spends every sexual encounter watching herself from the outside instead of actually feeling anything. Someone navigating intimacy after leaving a religion that made sex feel like something to be ashamed of. A 19 year old who wants to take control in the bedroom but freezes every time. And more. If you have ever felt like you were in the room but not really there, this episode is going to give you a way back in. ABOUT EMILY:Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 03:08 Call 1: I Watch Myself During Sex Instead of Feeling It 05:30 How to Stop Spectating and Start Being Present 08:00 Getting to Know Your Body on Your Own First 10:30 Call 2: Sex After Leaving a Restrictive Religion 14:00 Unpacking Shame That Was Never Yours to Carry 17:30 Building a Sexual Identity From Scratch 21:00 Call 3: My Partner and I Are Sexually Mismatched 25:00 When One Person Wants More and the Other Doesn't 28:30 How to Have the Conversation Without Making It a Fight 32:00 Call 4: I Froze During Sex and I Don't Know Why 36:00 What Happens in Your Nervous System When You Shut Down 39:00 Call 5: I Want to Take Control But I Freeze Every Time 41:00 How Confidence in the Bedroom Actually Gets Built 42:30 The Only Way to Get Comfortable Is to Take the Risk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices