Why Sober Sex is WAY Better: A Chat with Dr. Frank Spinelli

Season 6, Episode 792: Why Sober Sex is WAY Better: A Chat with Dr. Frank Spinelli. Avoiding alcohol before sex makes a BIG difference, for you and your partner. Being sober for sex can help you be more present in your body, and help you enjoy it more. That's important! Sure it might be awkward at first, but push through that. Why? Because alcohol gives an anesthesia effect, which can alter or lessen your pleasure. Alcohol can also give you fake confidence, and alter your decision making. We also discussed shame and how to shed it in regards to sex, being gay, and even in talking about sex. Be authentic then you can show up in the bedroom (or wherever you may be!) as your authentic self. Your sex life, and your relationship with your partner, will thank you! Sober sex is better sex, and your body will prove it to you! Give it a try!

Guest Bio:

Frank Spinelli, MD is a physician, certified health coach, and one of 95,000 survivors who filed claims in the Boy Scouts of America bankruptcy case. With over twenty years of clinical experience in internal medicine, he brings unique authority to trauma-informed recovery: medical expertise, lived experience of childhood sexual abuse and pandemic relapse, and active coaching practice implementing the C.O.M.P.A.S.S. framework with clients. Today, he works with hundreds of clients through the Reframe platform, helping individuals apply trauma-informed tools to navigate shame, addiction, and behavioral change. He is the author of The Shame Compass: A Radical Framework for Trauma Healing and Self-Acceptance, as well as PEE-SHY: A Memoir and The Advocate Guide to Gay Men's Health and Wellness. A former TV host and longtime health writer, Dr. Spinelli brings both clinical authority and media experience to conversations about recovery, resilience, and living with authenticity.

Dr. Spinelli's links and books (affiliate book links): https://www.frankspinelli.com/

The Shame Compass: https://link.amazon/B0ec4s00H

Dr. Spinelli also writes fiction books:

Perfect Flaw https://link.amazon/B0gsUj2vZ

No Angels Wept https://link.amazon/B00T0xV0a

Precious Friends https://link.amazon/B00PdtYSP

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