1896 || stop trying to earn love

1896 || stop trying to earn love

True safety doesn't come from a partner promising they will never hurt you (a promise no human can permanently guarantee). True safety comes from promising yourself that if your boundaries are crossed, you love yourself enough to walk away.


Unfortunately there is no cheat code to finding a better relationship that is safe in every way. Being a human being, having a human experience means you’re not bigger than the program.


“You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing. You don't have to do anything to earn it.

Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success - none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you, and it will always be here.”

— Ram Dass


THE SOURCES:

  1. Eliza Day on Fearing being Judged
  2. National Library of Medicine Research on exposure based therapy
  3. ShineMommyShine on Believing the Judgement
  4. Anxiety Specialists on Why the Fear of Judgement is not about other people


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