136: Why Stress is The #1 Issue In Relationships & What To do About It with Liz Earnshaw

When did having a full life become having a life that's impossible to manage? And why are we blaming our partners for problems that are actually rooted in the overwhelming amount of stress we're all carrying?

In conversation, we tackle:

Why splitting the mental load 50/50 DOESN'T necessarily fix your relationship (sometimes the problem is that you both have too much on your plates)
How the internet, parenting apps, social media, and even Amazon have created an entirely new layer of mental load we didn't grow up learning how to manage
The problem with getting relationship advice from the algorithm, and how endless validation from ChatGPT and social media can actually make relationship anxiety worse
Why you don't need 100% certainty about your relationship to make a decision (and why constantly seeking reassurance keeps you stuck)
Liz's three strategies for dealing with stress: shed it, prevent it, or adapt to it
What happens when one partner refuses to take on more responsibility, and why sometimes you have to grieve the things you can't do because your partner won't step up
Why a good therapist shouldn't just validate everything you say, but should actually challenge your thinking

Liz Earnshaw is a couples therapist, author, and relationship expert. Her most recent book, Till Stress Do Us Part, explores how stress impacts relationships and what couples can do about it. Learn more about Liz at elizabethearnshaw.com or on Instagram at @lizlistens.

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