EP351 - Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity with Dr. Doug Weiss

Welcome to episode 119 of the Sexology Podcast. In the run up to season 8 of Game of Thrones, this week’s episode is a solo episode where I discuss the five hottest sex scenes from the show and what we can learn from. In this episode, you will hear: Why people associate Game of Thrones as a more sexually charged shows than other TV shows Does the show give people a legitimacy to have taboo fantasies? The top five categories of sexual fantasy How physiological arousal doesn’t automatically correspond to your erotic template How group sex / orgies are at the top of most people's sexual fantasy Understanding the need to start slow when acting out role play with your partner The importance of role play in a relationship to keep elements of danger and excitement Understanding the attraction of a rape fantasy The sexual power play dynamics Game of Thrones creates in its scenes The role romance plays in a sexual fantasy Understanding why the Jon Snow and Ygritte sex scene is the most popular   Resources https://www.hbo.com/game-of-thrones http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/07/11/293/ EP27 - Sexuality in Game of Thrones https://www.amazon.com/Arousal-Secret-Logic-Sexual-Fantasies/dp/0312302428 https://www.ledevoir.com/culture/ecrans/552035/grand-angle-le-trone-de-fer-c-est-nous#   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care https://twitter.com/oasis2care https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

16 Apr 201925min

Welcome to episode 118 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb to the podcast. Dr. Rhoda was my guest on episode 90 talking about Age Play and she returns to talk further about this issue. In this episode Dr. Rhoda touches upon how we can incorporate Age Play into a relationship, the role that shame plays in keeping these desires suppressed and how seeking out online communities and conventions can be very helpful. Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb has been counseling individuals and couples in the area of human sexuality for over 25 years. She received her PhD in clinical sexology from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists in Orlando, FL. She is an AASECT certified sex therapist in private practice specializing in the alternative sexuality communities, such as open relationships, ABDL, GLBT, BDSM, kink and fetishes. She wrote her doctoral dissertation on the mental health experience of ABDL individuals, specializes in therapy for this community and speaks on the subject to help promote better understanding for individuals and their families. Her approach to therapy is helping people to understand, accept and appreciate their sexuality with all the wonderful unique flavors that come with it. Shame, embarrassment, guilt and fear are poisonous to healthy sexual expression so letting go of old, irrational and impractical belief patterns can pave the way for a new and exciting beginning. Her recent book, No More Hiding: Permission to Love your Sexual Self, is a guide for those seeking help with alternative sexuality such as BDSM, Kinks, fetishes and open relationships. In this episode, you will hear: What is Age Play? How can we incorporate Age Play into a relationship? The areas of discomfort a partner might experience The role that shame plays in keeping these desires suppressed How our erotic template is like our fingerprints / DNA Is it possible to learn to enjoy Age Play if it’s not part of our template? The starting points to being introduced to Age Play Learning that Age Play is a component part of your sexuality and not the entire piece How seeking out online communities and conventions can be very helpful   Resources www.drrhoda.com dr.rhoda@yahoo.com http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/09/25/age-play-dr-rhoda-lipscomb/   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care https://twitter.com/oasis2care https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

9 Apr 201931min

Welcome to episode 117 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Lonnie Barbach to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Lonnie speaks to me about how to please your lover, the barriers that might get in the way of meeting a partner's sexual needs, the importance of compatibility and chemistry and restoring intimacy. Dr. Lonnie Barbach, a clinical-social psychologist, was co-director of clinical training at the sex advisory and counseling unit at UCSF and is currently in private practice. She has received numerous awards for her work on sexuality and has written a dozen books on relationships, sexuality and menopause in addition to a number of video tapes and audio tapes. Her best known books include: For Yourself, For Each Other, Pleasures, The Erotic Edge, The Pause and Going the Distance, co-authored with her partner, David Geisinger, Ph.D. She is also cofounder of Happy Couple a relationship game app designed to enhance a couple’s communication and satisfaction. In this episode, you will hear: The barriers that might get in the way of meeting a partner's sexual needs How there is an expectation for us to be mind readers when it comes to sex The way in which our sexual interests evolve over time The importance of compatibility and chemistry Maintaining a willingness to explore new things and keep things interesting Making sure to create time for sex and not just when you’re tired Can intimacy be restored if it’s been lost? Understanding that it’s to create a schedule for sex Being open your partners erotic template Resources https://www.lonniebarbach.com http://www.happycouple.co/en/ https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care https://twitter.com/oasis2care https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

2 Apr 201930min

Welcome to episode 116 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I discuss the strategies and tools that you may implement to feel confident about your body inside and outside the bedroom.   In this episode, I will discuss:    The statistics around how common it is to experience dissatisfaction about one’s body The relationship between weight concerns and mental health Improving your self-image as a way to transform your sexuality The mirror exercises that address negative views of one’s genitals. Strategies around getting comfortable with your body and your partner’s body Challenging your negative self-talk through writing letters     Resources Sexology Podcast Bonus Episode – https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

26 Mars 201926min

EP115 - Can Men Suffer from Low Libido?    Welcome to episode 115 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I discuss the issue of men who suffer from a low libido.     In this episode, you will hear:     The common misconceptions around this issue  Learning to understand that not all men have a high sexual desire   How low libido can commonly get mistaken with lack of sexual motivation   How men suffer from a similar issue to menopause called andropause  The contributing factors that lead to andropause  The importance of having a broad sexual life with your partner  Learning to be open and communicative about any sexual desires and fantasies you might want to try with your partner  The effects culture and religion can have around this issue   Recommendations on what you can do for treatment  How the strategy of “simmering” can help to improve this issue     Resources  Sexology Podcast Bonus Episode - https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/    Previous episodes relating to this issue:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/09/18/low-libido/  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/05/30/mismatched-libido-with-renelle-nelson-lmft/   http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/01/08/sensate-focus/   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

19 Mars 201931min

Welcome to episode 114 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Emily Nagoski to the podcast. In this conversation, Emily speaks to me about orgasms, the contributing factors that lead to more intense orgasms, achieving orgasm through meditation and thoughts on G-spots.     Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life and The Come As You Are Workbook, and co-author, with her sister Amelia, of Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle.     She began her work as a sex educator at the University of Delaware, where volunteered as a peer sex educator while studying psychology with minors in cognitive science and philosophy. She went on to earn a M.S. in Counseling and a Ph.D. in Health Behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies.    In this episode, you will hear:     How do you know if you’ve had an orgasm?   How all orgasms are unique and different to each other   The contributing factors to more intense orgasms   Understanding that sometimes orgasms can take work and patience   Not letting past negative sexual experiences define your future experiences   Achieving orgasm through meditation   Thoughts on G-spots   The pressure of sex just becoming a performance   How the orgasm gap is less for lesbian women Bonus episode: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/   Resources  http://www.emilynagoski.com   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio       Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

12 Mars 201939min

Welcome to episode 113 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Cheryl Fraser to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Cheryl speaks to me about keeping passion alive through long term relationships, recommendations for recreating thrill and excitement and approaching your partner with sexual ideas that might be considered taboo.     Dr. Cheryl Fraser is an award-winning sex therapist, and a Fulbright scholar who created the Become Passion home study series and the Awakened Lover weekend intensive for couples. She has a private practice in sex and couples' therapy. Personally, and professionally, Dr. Cheryl has confronted the intense, joyful, and painful emotions of relationships, from I Do to divorce, and on to Mindful Loving. This human touch makes her writing, workshops, and media appearances on sex and relationships so accessible and effective.     Dr. Cheryl completed her post-doctoral training at the University of California-San Francisco medical school. She conducted research on sexual behaviour and attitudes, and combatting homophobia. She has also taught college and university, and keeps a busy private practice, where she specializes in sex and couples' therapy. She is a certified Gottman marriage therapist.     She teaches weekend intensive “bootcamps” for couples, and her Become Passion home study program teaches couples how to create sustainable, lifelong emotional intimacy and sexual passion.    In this episode, you will hear:     Is it possible to keep passion alive in a long term relationship?  The three steps Dr. Cheryl recommends for keeping passion alive   Why scheduling sex can seem boring but also an important tool to use   Understanding that your relationship needs energy and focus to keep it passionate   How there is a time limit to the “honeymoon” period and what to do afterwards   Learning to resolve conflicts in a healthy way   Recommendations for recreating thrill and passion   Approaching your partner with sexual ideas that might be considered taboo    Resources  http://www.drcherylfraser.com     https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

5 Mars 201943min

Welcome to episode 112 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Martha Kauppi, LMFT to the podcast. In this conversation, Martha speaks to me about polyamorous relationships, the common misconceptions people have around polyamory, how therapists can work with polyamory from a differentiation perspective?    Martha Kauppi, LMFT, is an educator, AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor, and AAMFT-approved supervisor. She specializes in relational sex therapy, including alternative family structures, and trains therapists to work effectively at the intersection of sex issues and relationship challenges.     Martha’s mission is to make sex a safe topic in therapy rooms everywhere by developing unique educational experiences and immediately-applicable learning materials for therapists.    In this episode, you will hear:     The alternative relationship structures Martha has worked with   How she became interested in polyamory   The challenges people face in polyamorous relationships   How Martha’s research showed polyamorous relationships can last for 26 years   The sense of community and support polyamory can provide   The common misconceptions people have around polyamory   How not every polyamorous relationship is sexual   The fear and intimidation people still face around this issue   The role that jealousy can play in polyamory   How therapists can work with polyamory from a differentiation perspective?      Resources  https://instituteforrelationalintimacy.com  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/06/12/ep75-polyamory-and-finding-loves/ https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

26 Feb 201939min