EP368 - Embracing Intimacy Across Cultures: Navigating Desire and Tradition in Relationships

Welcome to episode 278 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Alicia Davon back to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss extended massive orgasms, how you can achieve them, tips for the giver and how you can work through anxiety to have an extended massive orgasm.     Alicia Davon holds a Master’s degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women’s romantic and sensual expression. She trained as a therapist before meeting Erwan and led numerous women’s groups devoted to female pleasure and life fulfilment from career to relationship. She met Erwan 15 years ago and started teaching with him soon after.     Together with her partner Erwan, Alicia developed The Pleasure Course, which has helped thousands achieve their ideal love lives. They provide a safe place to explore psychological inquiry, pleasure, and sexuality.      In this episode, you will hear:     Working through anxiety to have an extended massive orgasm   Looking at the first time Alicia achieved an extended orgasm   Understanding your body to allow involuntary genital contractions   Incorporating your fantasies for extended orgasms   Tips for the giver to help achieve extended orgasms   Practical tips for best movements and touch around the genitals  Knowing when it’s best to incorporate lube   Communicating effectively with your partner about what’s working and what’s not  Understanding the signs of when your close to an extended orgasm     Find Alicia Davon Online  https://pleasurecourse.com     We want your feedback! Please fill out this brief survey to help us know the content you want to hear: https://help373205.typeform.com/to/PfsEolrp   Free Erotica  https://oasis2care.com/free-erotica/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

19 Apr 202240min

Welcome to episode 277 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Searah Deysach to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the areas where vulva owners can improve their skills on touch, analyzing the mixed messaging that’s out there around the vulva, and how you can tune into your erotic self.      Searah Deysach is a sex educator and the owner of Early to Bed and FtM Essentials. In addition to running her retail store & websites, she lectures to community groups and colleges around the state on topics relating to masturbation, sex toys and positive sexuality.   She is committed to working to create a culture where everyone has access to honest information about sexuality and all folks have access to the services, they need to protect their reproductive rights.      In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at some of the areas Vulva owners can improve their skills on touch   The importance of giving yourself enough time to explore your Vulva  How you can explore other areas of your body alongside your Vulva  Looking at some of the best touches, techniques and strokes you can use  The best way to use lube with your Vulva  Analyzing the mixed messaging that’s out there around the Vulva  Ways in which masturbation can help you explore different parts your yourself  How you can practice mindful masturbation  Tuning into your erotic self  Recommendations for good sex toys you can use   We want your feedback! Please fill out this brief survey to help us know the content you want to hear: https://help373205.typeform.com/to/PfsEolrp   Find Searah Deysach Online  https://www.early2bed.com     Sex Quiz for Women   https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

12 Apr 202230min

Welcome to episode 276 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss why having fantasies is important, analyzing the over-empowerment or “rape” fantasy and understanding the importance of allowing your fantasies to expand.    Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, a certified sex therapist, is the Clinical Director of Maze Women’s Sexual Health, the largest independent sexual health center in the country.  She’s the author of Sex Points: Reclaim Your Sex Life with the Revolutionary Point System.  She earned her Ph.D. in Human Sexuality and a Master’s in public health at the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality; she holds a master’s degree in social work from Columbia University and a master’s degree in Jewish Studies from the Jewish Theological Seminary.     Dr. Marcus has worked as the executive director of not-for-profit institutions and corporations, medical practices, and laboratories. She has lectured internationally on women’s issues, gives frequent Grand Rounds to medical health providers, as well as lecturing to sex therapists around the world.     She has been a guest on numerous radio and television shows, including CNBC, CBS News, Huffington Post Live, and NPR and been profiled in the New York Times Magazine, Time Magazine, and Westchester Magazine, among others.        In this episode, you will hear:     Why having fantasies is important   How many women fear their whole sex life is broken if one thing isn’t working   How fantasies are one of the most powerful tools you can use for great sex  Looking at how the brain functions with sexual fantasies   Understanding how we form sexual fantasies   Analyzing the over-empowerment or “rape” fantasy   Understanding that the over-empowerment fantasy is completely normal   How sexual fantasies can improve sex with your partner  Ways in which you can get inspired for new sexual fantasies   Understanding the importance of allowing your fantasies to expand       We want your feedback!  Please fill out this brief survey to help us know the content you want to hear:  https://help373205.typeform.com/to/PfsEolrp    Find Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus Online  https://drbatsheva.com     101 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life  https://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

5 Apr 202236min

Welcome to episode 275 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Jeff Abraham back to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how you can improve your sex life with your partner, the importance of open and honest communication and how you can overcome a lack of creativity in the bedroom.     Jeff Abraham is the CEO of Absorption Pharmaceuticals, whose lead product, Promescent, is addressing a global need for men suffering from Premature Ejaculation and Erectile Dysfunction. He and his team are dedicated to bringing innovative products to market that solve sexual performance issues for both men and women.     With over 10-years' experience in the field of sexual wellness, Jeff has seen and heard from thousands of couples and is a great thought leader in the space.       In this episode, you will hear:     The importance of open and honest communication with your partner  Understanding that we can’t be mind readers and anticipate all of our partners needs How you can overcome a lack of creativity in the bedroom  Analyzing the dynamic between male and female characteristics  Why models on TV, social media etc are not a real representation of the human body Ways in which you can reassure your partner when exploring new sexual areas How you can use lube to greatly increase your sex life Understanding that masturbation is healthy and can be a part of your sexual palette     Find Promescent Online  https://www.promescent.com     101 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life  https://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

29 Mars 202248min

Welcome to episode 274 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Luna Matatas to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how you and your partner can master pegging together, the importance of after-care when pegging and tips for beginners when exploring anal sex for the first time.    Luna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 15 years of experience teaching sex and empowerment workshops. She celebrates body confidence, self-adoration and building shame-free pleasure in and out of the bedroom.     She teaches a wide range of topics; including threesomes, BDSM and sexual confidence. Luna hosts The Plug Podcast, an anal sex podcast by b-Vibe. She created Peg the Patriarchy® and Meditate Medicate Masturbate® brands as part of her sex-positive and feminist merchandise.      In this episode, you will hear:     How Luna became interested in this line of work  Looking at Prostate Play   Understanding that straight men can also enjoy anal sex  Exploring pegging and how you and your partner can master it together  Understanding the importance of after care when pegging   Looking at the best practices before moving into anal penetration   Understanding the difference between pain and discomfort around anal sex  Ways you can master muscle movements with your own anus  Tips for beginners when exploring anal sex for the first time   Why bigger isn’t always better when it comes to anal sex  Looking at toys you can use such as butt plugs   Knowing the best ways to stay cleanly when exploring anal sex     Find Luna Matatas Online  https://lunamatatas.com     101 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life    https://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

22 Mars 202227min

Welcome to episode 273 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Evan Goldstein to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the best ways to explore anal sex, looking at the common mistakes people make when starting out and understanding it takes time to train your anus to make it ready for sex.    Dr. Evan Goldstein is the Founder & CEO of Bespoke Surgical and the Co-Founder of Future Method. As the preeminent expert and thought leader in the field, Dr. Goldstein is com- mitted to education and awareness—not only bringing the important issues sur- rounding gay sexual health to the forefront, but also eliminating the stigmas at- tached to it.     Relating to a wider audience, Dr. Goldstein leaves the medical jargon behind and communicates in a straight-forward, direct manner, breaking down taboos and allowing for more conversational and open discussions with the aim to educate. Dr. Goldstein has extensive experience educating and shedding light on health care issues relating to the gay community, and has been published in several na- tional media outlets including NBC.com, HuffPost, GQ, Men’s Health, The Advo- cate, well+good, Shape, and more.     Supporting many LGBTQ-focused non-profits, Dr. Goldstein is dedicated to rais- ing awareness and is involved with GLSEN, ACRIA, HRC, and is a member of Callen- Lorde’s exclusive Howard J. Brown Society. Dr. Goldstein is also the founder of the Bespoke Surgical college scholarship grant for LGBTQ students, which launched in December 2017.     Dr. Goldstein received his osteopathic doctorate from the University of Medicine and Dentistry School in 2002. Receiving the highest osteopathic education was pivotal in shaping his integrated whole-life approach towards his practice of pri- vate surgical care. Dr. Goldstein completed his residency in General Surgery at Maimonides Medical Center, exposing him to a high level of surgical acuity and a vast array of pathology.     Dr. Goldstein and his partner Andrew Yu reside on the Upper West Side of Man- hattan with their eight-year-old twin boys, Phoenix and Sebastian. Dr. Goldstein is an avid tennis player and skier, and enjoys attending concerts, collecting art and classic cars, and spending time with his family.      In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr. Goldstein became interested in this line of work   The importance of knowing your entitlement to pleasure  Ways in which Dr. Goldstein works with the entire anal community   Why many people get anal sex wrong a lot   Looking at the common mistakes people make when exploring anal sex  Understanding it takes time to train your anus to make it ready for sex  Why starting out with toys is essential for anal sex  The pros and cons of using toys over your fingers   Looking at douching and recommendations for best practices  Knowing the best practices to reduce chances of catching STI’s via anal sex  Is it common to bleed after anal sex?  Should you use numbing creams for anal sex?  Looking at medical interventions that can help with better anal sex    Thank You To Our Sponsor Promescent!  https://www.promescent.com     Find Dr. Evan Goldstein Online  https://futuremethod.com     101 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life  https://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

15 Mars 202250min

Welcome to episode 272 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome La' Shae Alexander to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how exploring different positions can improve your sex life, why missionary is an underrated position and incorporating power play into certain positions.    California Native, Renaissance Woman, Momepenuer, Writer, Real Estate Associate and Philanthropist. Shae wears many hats, all of which she like to wear in a nice dress and open toe heels. She is a blend of beauty, brains, and wit.     Her fresh perspectives on life, women and empowerment gives new meaning to what it means to have beauty, class, sensuality and soul. Modern day renaissance woman, Shae is on a journey like no other. Enjoy her raw and authentic take on life and share with her endless soul filling conversations.        In this episode, you will hear:     Why exploring different positions can improve your sex life   How you may prefer different positions as you get older  Looking at good instructions for your partner on the best positions  Why missionary is an underrated position  Looking at the best positions for clitoral stimulation  How you can use good positioning to build tension and excitement  Which positions are best for connecting with the G Spot  How deep breathing can further help your positions  Incorporating power play into certain positions     Thank You to Our Sponsor Promescent!  https://www.promescent.com     Find La' Shae Alexander Online  https://www.shaedaily.com     9 Foreplay Ideas  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558    Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

8 Mars 202251min

Welcome to episode 271 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Erik Everhard to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the common mistakes people make when trying to last longer, analyzing the importance of conscious choice and what men can do to delay ejaculation.   Erik Everhard is one of the top paid and most recognized performers in adult films of the last two decades. He has won numerous Male performer awards and been enshrined in the hall of fame of the AVN and XRCO organizations.     In 2010 he embarked on a transformational journey studying NLP at one of the top institutions in America. Since then he has dedicated his time and effort to helping high achievers by teaching them elite level sexual skills in order to master the bedroom like they dominate the boardroom.      In this episode, you will hear:     The common mistakes people make when trying to last longer   How you need to train your body to be ready for great sex  Looking at the arousal gap between women and men   Ways you can overcome being nervous in the bedroom   Analyzing the importance of conscious choice   Understanding even top-level athletes struggle with performance anxiety   How you can successfully navigate foreplay   The importance of creating the right mental state for great sex   How you can turn ‘I hope to have great sex’ into ‘I know I can have great sex’  What can men do to delay ejaculation?   Ways we can manage and overcome any pain in the bedroom   Why having lots of bad sex is worse than having no sex     Thank You to Our Sponsor, Promescent!  https://www.promescent.com     Find Erik Everhard Online  https://www.erikeverhard.com     Grab 20% off Erik’s Course – Use code ‘Sexology20’  https://crushingperformanceanxiety.com     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio     Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

1 Mars 202254min