EP375 - Overcoming Sexual Rejection: Resilience and Growth with Marissa Nelson

Welcome to this bonus episode of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Barry Davis to the podcast. In this episode Barry speaks with me about how we can better manage as couples being in lockdown, tips for those who are struggling and what we can all do as frustration starts to build up.     Divorce Mediator, Barry Davis has been a full-time mediator since 2003 and specializes in working with divorcing couples. His passion for helping couples through this difficult time, his extensive mediation and counseling training (including two advanced degrees) and his fifteen years as a businessperson, equip him to deal with both the practical and the emotional aspects of divorce.      His approach is to assist couples in working through their specific issues as constructively as possible by helping them minimize negative tactics, emphasize productive ways to make decisions and focus on the big picture (such as the best interests of the children and/or not wasting a couple’s entire net worth on a costly court battle). By utilizing a multi-faceted approach that includes identifying the couple’s true issues and concerns, facilitating productive communication and educating the couple concerning possible outcomes, Barry has been able to achieve success in the majority of mediations he facilitates.     After completing an undergraduate degree in sociology at University of California, Santa Barbara, Barry embarked on a thirteen-year career in the telecommunications industry where he established a track record of success in sales management, marketing and business development with the two industry leaders, AT&T and MCI.   Education Institute.     In This Episode You Will Hear:     How we can better manage being in lockdown as a couple?   The challenges relationships will face being in a confined space   Looking at what distinguishes negative conflict   Tips for couples who are struggling with lockdown   What we can all do as frustration starts to build up   Thoughts on potential separations that could happen during lockdown   How some couples might be able to use the time to turn things around  Recommendations for couples who want to get through this positively     To download the conflict management worksheet, click here.   Find Barry here:   https://davismediation.com   Man’s Search For Meaning    Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

17 Apr 202038min

Welcome to episode 172 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am thrilled to welcome Marla Renee Stewart, MA to the podcast. In this episode Marla speaks to me about pervertables, how you can use them to improve your sex life and tips and techniques for improving virtual sex.      Marla Renee Stewart, MA is a professional sex, intimacy and relationship coach, sexologist, and sex educator. Not only is she a Lecturer at Clayton State University, she is also the Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference and the Sexual Liberation Collective.     She also created the sexual education company, Velvet Lips, 9 years ago to empower people of all ages to embrace, educate and enjoy their sexuality and their sexual lives. She has studied human sexuality for more than 18 years at San Francisco State University and Georgia State University, respectively, and has expert knowledge in a wide variety of subjects. She has published academic articles and continues to do sexuality research.     She has conducted workshops at conferences, not-for-profit and private organizations, and has been featured on many radio shows, television shows, documentaries, books, magazines and has been invited to speak at Universities around the world. She also sits on the board for the SPARK Reproductive Justice Now! and Diverse Sexualities Research and Education Institute.     In This Episode You Will Hear:     What is a pervertable?   Incorporating everyday items into your sex life   Which items work and don’t work for anal pleasure  Being more creative sexually whilst on lockdown   Using music to enhance your sexual pleasure   Learning to bring the sense of adventure to your home   Cultivating sexual confidence   Overcoming layers of shame and guilt that might be getting in the way   How you can up level your sexual pleasure even if it’s a good level  Tips & techniques for improving virtual sex         Find Marla here:   http://velvetlipsllc.com/   Pre-order Marla's book: https://www.velvetlipssexed.com/shop  Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

14 Apr 202025min

Welcome to episode 171 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Jess O’ Reilly to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Jess speaks with me about seductive communication, keeping things sexy while separated and cultivating your core erotic feelings.     Dr. Jess O’Reilly began working as a sexuality counselor in 2001 and she has never looked back! Her PhD studies involved the development of training programs in sex education for teachers and her education and undergraduate degrees focused on equity and sexual diversity.     Her training includes courses in counselling skills, healthy relationships, resolving sexual concerns, sex education, clinical sexology, sexual development, sex and disability, group therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.     Alongside her academic and television credits, Dr. Jess is also an accomplished author with three best-selling titles. Her latest, The New Sex Bible, has received rave reviews from professionals and clients alike and her first book Hot Sex Tips,Tricks and Licks is in its fourth print! Look for her monthly column in Post City or catch her on Tuesday mornings on Global TV’s The Morning Show, Wednesdays on 102.1 The Edge and Saturdays on PlayboyTV.     Dr. Jess’ work experience includes contracts with school boards, social services agencies, community health organizations and private corporations. A sought-after speaker, her sessions always attract a full-house at conferences and entertainment events alike.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Taking a look at seductive communication   Assessing our own strengths and weaknesses around seduction   Exploring sexting and teledildonecs  Looking at and understanding the best platform for you to use   Keeping things sexy whilst separated   Making the most of sex toys   Understanding what your partner is most receptive to   Cultivating your core erotic feelings   The need to change our lifestyles to have better sex  Making scheduled sex work   Tips for busy couples who want to re-kindle their sex lives         Find Dr. Jess here:   https://www.sexwithdrjess.com     Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

7 Apr 202037min

Welcome to episode 170 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome back Martha Kauppi, LMFT to the podcast. In this episode Martha speaks to us again about polyamory, why opening a relationship doesn’t have to mean separation, how there are different types of polyamory and the importance of self-regulation throughout this process.     Martha Kauppi, LMFT, is an educator, AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor, and AAMFT-approved supervisor. She specializes in relational sex therapy, including alternative family structures, and trains therapists to work effectively at the intersection of sex issues and relationship challenges.     Martha’s mission is to make sex a safe topic in therapy rooms everywhere by developing unique educational experiences and immediately-applicable learning materials for therapists. She has a book coming out in August 2020 about working effectively with clinical challenges related to polyamory.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How can someone know if polyamory is right for them?   Why opening a relationship doesn’t have to mean separation   Looking at the different structures and dynamics of polyamory   How there is different types of polyamory  Is there a customary way of going polyamorous?   Developing meaningful relationships within polyamory  Using apps such as Ok Cupid to meet other polyamorous people   Approaching the other partner around going polyamorous   The importance of self-regulation throughout this process       Find Martha here:   https://instituteforrelationalintimacy.com   http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/02/26/does-polyamory-work     Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested to book a video counseling with Dr. Moali   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

31 Mars 202042min

Welcome to episode 169 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Eileen Crehan to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Crehan speaks to me about sexuality and autism, how an autism diagnosis might get in the way of sexual desire, the importance of being pro-active about what you want sexually and recommendations for individuals with ADS who would like to have fulfilling sex lives.     Dr. Crehan is a clinical psychologist and specialist in autism spectrum disorder. In particular, she focuses on adolescents and adults with autism spectrum disorder and promoting healthy development in the domains of sexuality, physical health, and social abilities. Dr. Crehan’s lab at Tufts University integrates the perspective and insights of autistic individuals through an advisory board and by surveying autistic adults about their priorities for research on autism across the lifespan.     Currently, she is focused on exploring best structures for sexuality education programming, adapting teaching materials to the learning needs of autistic individuals with a range of intellectual and language abilities, and disseminating sexuality education curricula using telehealth systems.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How does an autism diagnosis impact one’s pursuit of romantic and sexual relationships?  How an autism diagnosis might get in the way of sexual desire  What are some of the myths about sexuality when it comes to this population?  Practical measures people with autism can take to better pursue a healthy sex life  How can a parent of a child with ASD talk about sex with their child?  Making sure to find the correct and right resources  Understanding that people with autism can have a great sex life   Looking at online dating sites for those with autism   The importance of being pro-active about what you want sexually   What are your recommendations for individuals with ADS who would like to have fulfilling sex lives?      Find Dr. Eileen Crehan here:   eileen.crehan@tufts.edu   https://www.facebook.com/crehanlabtufts     Sex & Autism Resources:  https://researchautism.org/sex-ed-guide/  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RgsUbkqJ8ro    Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested to book a video counseling with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

24 Mars 202027min

Welcome to this bonus episode of the Sexology Podcast.  In this episode, we answer some of the burning questions that you have around sex in the time of coronavirus.    In this episode we discuss: Is it okay to have sex? What are some of the ways to have hot sex that minimizes your exposure? How to effectively manage your anxiety during this time so it wont ruin your sex life How to use this time of quarantine to elevate your sex life   Previous episodes mentioned in this show:   Learn how to practice Orgasmic Breathing http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2020/01/14/tantric-orgasm-with-barbara-carrellas/   How to master peaking http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/07/30/self-pleasure-and-peaking/ Download my new ebook for free here: https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/   101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe     If you are interested to book a video counseling with Dr. Moali, https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

20 Mars 202028min

Note: This episode was pre-recorded two months ago. Like the rest of the world, we are experiencing the reality and stress of the current COVID-19 situation. Our hearts go out to those who have been directly affected by this pandemic, and we are deeply saddened by its impact on our community. We will be releasing an episode soon addressing COVID-19 and sex. We hope all of you are taking the necessary precautions to keep you and your loved ones safe.    Welcome to episode 168 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Andrea Barrica to the podcast. In this episode Andrea speaks to me about the sex tech revolution, overcoming negative stigma around sexual wellness and why we need more advocacy in this area.      Andrea Barrica is CEO and Founder of O.school, a judgment-free media platform to learn about sexuality and pleasure. As a queer woman of color, she’s been fighting to bring more humanity to the tech industry, and her mission is to create the world’s most trusted sexual wellness brand to help people increase their sexual health, power, and confidence. Previously, Andrea co-founded the leading financial solution for growing startups, inDinero.com, which now employs 150+ employees globally. She also served as a venture partner at 500 Startups, a global venture capital fund, where she worked with hundreds of startup companies.      Andrea was raised in a religious, conservative Filipino family that only taught abstinence and she only had fear-based sex education in public schools. Seeking support and information, Barrica could not find reliable resources and experienced harassment online. Determined that no one else should have to struggle like she did, Barrica launched O.school in 2017 to change the way people learn about sexuality.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How can sex tech improve women’s sex lives?  Overcoming negative stigma around investing in your sexual health  How did Andrea get involved in this field?   The first things Andrea explored when examining sexual wellness products   How did Andrea raise the money needed?   Why we are behind in innovation and solutions when it comes to sexual wellness   Why it’s difficult to teach people about sexual wellness  What does Andrea see in the future of sexual wellness The need for more advocacy in this area   Why Andrea started the O School       Find Andrea Barrica here:   https://www.o.school   http://www.andreabarrica.com     Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

17 Mars 202030min

Welcome to episode 167 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Elizabeth Schroeder, EdD, MSW to the podcast. In this episode Elizabeth speaks with me about sex education, the importance of good communication with your children about sex and ways in which parents can learn more to help their children.      Elizabeth Schroeder, EdD, MSW (she/her/hers), is an award-winning educator, trainer, program consultant and author specializing in sexuality education pedagogy and programming, LGBTQ+-affirming best practices, and working with adolescent cisgender boys.  She has provided consultation to and direct education and training for schools, parent groups and youth-serving organizations in countries around the world for over 25 years.  Most recently, Dr. Schroeder was the lead author on Rights, Respect, Responsibility, the first-ever K-12 sexuality education curriculum that is completely mapped to the National Sexuality Education Standards, for which she also served as a co-author.     Dr. Schroeder is the former executive director of Answer, a national sexuality education organization dedicated to providing and promoting comprehensive sexuality education to young people and the adults who teach them.  She has also served as the associate vice president of education and training at Planned Parenthood of New York City, and, before that, manager of education and special projects at Planned Parenthood Federation of America.     Dr. Schroeder was a co-founding editor of the American Journal of Sexuality Education, and has authored or edited numerous publications, including Sexuality Education: Theory and Practice with Dr. Clint Bruess and the four-part book series, Sexuality Education: Past, Present and Future with Dr. Judy Kuriansky.  She is a frequently sought-out spokesperson in the news media on issues relating to sexual health education and youth development, having appeared on BBC’s “The Why Factor,” several NPR affiliates, and in The New York Times, CNN Online, The Huffington Post, among others. Dr. Schroeder speaks at conferences around the world on sexuality and adolescent development.     She holds a Doctorate of Education in Human Sexuality Education from Widener University and a Master of Social Work from New York University.      In This Episode You Will Hear:     What are some of the struggles with current sex education?  Ways in which parents can learn more to help their children   How can parents talk to their children about porn?  When is the best time to speak to your children about sex?  How porn can become sex education if we don’t communicate to children   How can parents monitor their children access to sexually explicit content online?  The importance of creating ongoing dialogue around sex education   How sexuality education can help reduce the incidence of rape and sexual assault?  Being upfront and honest with children about rules and paramters       Find Elizabeth Schroeder here:   www.drschroe.com    Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com  How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex with Tara Spears LMFT    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

10 Mars 202035min