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What do you need from a partner that you haven’t been getting? How can someone show up for you in a way that meets that need? Today, Jay sits down with renowned divorce attorney and author James Sexton for a conversation that redefines what it means to love and be loved. With over twenty-five years spent guiding couples through heartbreak and separation, James has witnessed both the beauty and the brutality of human connection. Together, he and Jay explore the paradox of marriage: how something that begins with so much hope can unravel through silence, misunderstanding, and unmet needs. James shares that the greatest threat to relationships isn’t cheating or money, it’s disconnection: the slow fading of curiosity, gratitude, and presence that turns partners into strangers. Jay and James invite listeners to look past the fairytale version of romance and into the real work of partnership. They talk about how we’re taught to plan weddings rather than marriages, and why the most meaningful moments come from small, steady acts of care, not grand romantic gestures. Whether it’s remembering to replace a partner’s favorite granola or reaching for their hand without being asked, James shows that a strong marriage isn’t about avoiding conflict, but about staying close even in the uncomfortable moments. He reminds us that love isn't for the faint of heart. It’s an act of courage, one that asks for honesty, vulnerability, and the discipline to keep showing up, especially when it’s hardest. The conversation becomes less about divorce and more about what love is really made of. Jay and James uncover how relationships can serve as mirrors, revealing our insecurities, our longing to be seen, and our deepest fears of unworthiness. They remind us that to truly love another person, we must also learn to love ourselves, flaws, imperfections, and all. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stay Connected in Love How to Keep the Spark Alive in Marriage How to Recognize When Disconnection Begins How to Argue Without Breaking the Bond How to Rebuild Trust After Betrayal How to Talk About Difficult Topics with Compassion How to Choose Courage Over Comfort in Relationships Whether you’re married, single, healing, or starting over, this episode is a masterclass in emotional intelligence, offering timeless wisdom on how to nurture connection, protect what matters, and find courage in the vulnerability that love demands. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:29 The Real Reasons Marriages Fall Apart 02:39 Why Do We Still Get Married? 04:40 The Truth About the Wedding Industry 08:54 What Divorce Really Looks Like 13:16 The Hard Conversations Bring You Closer 15:44 What is the True Cause of Divorce? 22:48 The Power of Small Gestures in Love 28:52 Simple Ways to Appreciate Your Partner 32:09 How We Repeat Our Parents’ Patterns 38:41 Navigating Love After Having a Child 42:55 How to Reconnect with What Brought You Together 46:17 Why Does Asking For Love Feel Needy? 50:10 Designing the Ideal Contract for Modern Love 57:55 Understanding the Connection Between Desire and Disconnection 01:01:13 Commitment vs. Passion 01:07:07 How to Begin the Conversations You’ve Been Avoiding 01:11:47 The Lies We Tell Ourselves in Love 01:16:05 Should You Get a Prenup? 01:22:26 How to Bring Up The Prenup 01:29:45 Talk Through Your Anger, Don’t Act On It 01:31:18 Using Love As a Weapon 01:36:17 Should You Fight for It or Let Go? 01:42:59 How Parental Conflict Affects Children 01:48:59 Be the Calm Your Child Needs 01:59:09 The Real Problems Marriage Can’t Solve 02:02:52 Who Files For Divorce More: Men or Women? 02:07:46 How Divorce Impacts Men and Women Differently 02:13:39 James on Final Five Episode Resources: James Sexton | Website James Sexton | Instagram James Sexton | TikTok James Sexton | LinkedIn James Sexton | X How to Stay in Love: A Divorce Lawyer's Guide to Staying TogetherSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

24 Nov 2h 28min

In this fun and unfiltered episode, Jay and Radhi dive into the world of “icks,” those oddly specific little turn-offs that make us cringe for reasons we can’t quite explain. From baby voices and socks with sandals to the blurry line between confidence and cockiness, they laugh their way through the most random dating deal-breakers and what they secretly reveal about us. Amid the jokes, they slip in a few truth bombs too, like how we sometimes use icks to avoid real vulnerability. It’s light, hilarious, and uncomfortably relatable, because honestly, we’ve all had an ick… and we’ve definitely been someone else’s. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Tell the Difference Between an Ick and a Red Flag How to Communicate Honestly About What Bothers You How to Recognize When You’re Using an Ick as an Excuse How to Appreciate Imperfections in the People You Love It’s easy to get caught up in small things that bother us, but true connection isn’t built on perfection, it’s built on patience, humor, and understanding. Everyone has quirks, and sometimes those quirks are what make relationships real. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:19 What is an Ick? 03:07 The Funniest Icks 05:21 How Seriously Should People Take Icks? 09:39 Can You Get Over an Ick? 12:55 Personal Hygiene is Important 14:26 Arrogance Versus Confidence 15:40 Childishness and Immaturity 17:25 Is It Just Poor Communication? 21:43 Top 5 Icks Men have About Women 23:38 The Guy with a List (@wyszkay) Episode Resources: Radhi Devlukia | Website Radhi Devlukia | YouTube Radhi Devlukia | Instagram Radhi Devlukia | Facebook Radhi Devlukia | TikTok Joyfull A Really Good CrySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

22 Nov 29min

What’s one thing you wish you learned earlier in life? What do you think would’ve changed for you if you learned it sooner? Today, Jay reflects on the lessons he wishes he’d learned in his twenties and thirties, wisdom shaped by mistakes, growth, and years of inner work. He opens up about how easy it is to get swept up in chasing outcomes or living for other people’s expectations, and how those patterns can quietly pull us away from our true path. Jay also explains why success and happiness are completely different skill sets, and how understanding that early on can save you years of unnecessary frustration. Jay also talks honestly about what healing really feels like, the side no one prepares you for. He explains that growth doesn’t always look inspiring; sometimes it shows up as exhaustion, confusion, or feeling like everything is falling apart. But that discomfort is often just old patterns breaking down so new ones can take shape. Through empathy, personal stories, and practical insights, Jay walks us through the “decade of firsts,” from first jobs to first heartbreaks, and reminds us that feeling lost isn’t failure. It’s a natural part of becoming someone stronger, clearer, and more aligned with who you’re meant to be. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Hear Your Inner Voice Again How to Define Success on Your Own Terms How to Build Confidence Through Self-Trust How to Turn Rejection Into Insight How to Break Free From Others’ Expectations How to Heal Even When It Feels Messy You’re not behind, you’re growing at the pace your life is asking you to grow. Keep showing up with curiosity, patience, and compassion for yourself. You’re building something meaningful, even on the days it doesn’t feel like it. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:42 #1: Results Are Overrated 04:54 #2: Tune Out The Noise 07:44 #3: Success Doesn’t Equal Happiness 10:30 #4: Confidence Comes From Self-Trust 12:47 Four Habits That Will Transform Your Life 14:10 #5: Rejection Isn’t Personal 17:20 How to Handle Rejection Better 22:32 Four Signs You’re Healing 24:51 Confusion in Your 20s Isn’t Failure 25:29 How to Protect Your Peace 26:07 #6: Anchor to Values, Not ValidationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

21 Nov 28min

What’s one habit that’s helped you succeed lately? What made you decide to stick with that habit? In this special live conversation, at The Theater at Bill Graham Civic Auditorium in San Francisco, Jay sits down with entrepreneur and industry leader Emma Grede for a conversation every builder, creator, and business-minded thinker needs to hear. Together, Jay and Emma unpack a challenge that holds so many talented people back, caring too much about what others think. Emma shares the early moments in her career when she stayed quiet in rooms where she deserved to speak, the times she underestimated her own value, and the double standards she had to navigate as a woman in business. This episode is a powerful reminder that confidence isn’t something you wait to feel, it’s something you build through action, decision-making, and showing up for the opportunities in front of you. As the conversation deepens, Emma shares the mindsets that shaped her path, from a kid obsessed with fashion magazines to a visionary leader with a global reach. She breaks down why excellence starts with showing up fully in whatever role you’re in, how competence is the foundation of real confidence, and why chasing “passion” isn’t always the most strategic move. Jay adds powerful reflections on focus, leaning into your strengths, and accepting that you don’t need to be great at everything to succeed. This is an honest and refreshing look at what it really takes to trust yourself, take bigger swings, and grow into the person you’re meant to be. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stop Caring What Others Think How to Build Confidence Through Competence How to Use Fear as Fuel, Not a Setback How to Become Excellent at What You’re Doing Now How to Set Your Own Standards, Not Society’s How to Start Before You Have It All Figured Out You don’t have to wait until you feel fully ready, fully confident, or fully “enough.” Start where you are, use what you have, and trust that focus, effort, and self-belief will do more for your future than fear ever will. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:44 Why Do We Worry About Others’ Opinions? 02:12 Opportunities Lost to Comparison 04:09 The Double Standards for Women in Business 07:19 Why You Must Start With Yourself 09:57 The Three-Word Mantra for Career Growth 11:58 Visualize the Life You Want 14:27 Follow What Gives You Energy 16:47 How Competence Builds Real Confidence 18:23 What’s Actually Distracting Us From True Focus? 20:52 Build a Circle That Complements Your Strengths 24:46 Teaching Kids to Chase Their Own Dreams 28:38 Defining Your Life’s Non-Negotiables 32:25 How to Choose What Truly Matters 37:46 Owning Your Truth Creates New Opportunities 40:59 Start Small: Scale Down and Test Your Idea Episode Resources: Emma Grede | Website Emma Grede | Instagram Emma Grede | Facebook Emma Grede | LinkedIn Emma Grede | TikTok Emma Grede | YouTube Good AmericanSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

19 Nov 48min

Today, Jay sits down with Kris Jenner for a raw and candid conversation about her roots, family, and the incredible lessons she’s learned. Kris was raised by her mother and grandmother, two driven and hardworking women who modeled independence, discipline, and purpose. She shares how those early lessons in responsibility and perseverance laid the foundation for the life she would later build, both as a businesswoman and as the matriarch of a global family brand. Throughout their conversation, Kris speaks about her devotion to family, her faith, and her unshakable sense of gratitude. She reflects on the importance of being present in a fast-paced world that often glorifies busyness and distraction. Jay and Kris explore what it means to slow down and truly feel present in each moment, to look beyond the screens, the schedules, and the noise, and to rediscover joy in the simple things. Kris opens up about motherhood and the unique bond she shares with each of her six children, how she worked intentionally to raise them with structure, compassion, and drive while fostering unity instead of competition. She talks about her daily prayers for guidance and peace, finding meaning even in moments of hardship, and choosing to lead with love, even when met with misunderstanding or pain. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Lead with Gratitude Every Day How to Raise Ambitious but Grounded Kids How to Slow Down and Be Fully Present How to Build a Family Rooted in Love, Not Competition How to Balance Success with Inner Peace How to Protect Your Peace in a Noisy World Life has a way of reminding us that true success isn’t measured by status or possessions, it’s found in the quiet moments of gratitude, in the love we give, and in the peace we choose to protect. Each challenge we face holds a lesson, each chapter an invitation to grow with grace and faith. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:15 Welcome Kris Jenner 02:38 Growing Up with Strong Women 08:49 Doing Your Best in Every Role 11:24 Family Traditions and Christmas Joy 12:51 Lessons from Humble Beginnings 16:24 The Power of Slowing Down 20:42 The Trap of Instant Gratification 24:19 Embracing Life at 70 26:47 Raising Passionate, Independent Children 32:37 Timeless Parenting Lessons 35:10 Learn to Forgive Those Who Hurt You 40:25 Mental Health Has Become a Silent Pandemic 44:38 Are You a Disney Fan? 45:36 How Do You Forgive Someone Who Hurt You? 50:44 Finding Peace Through Prayer 53:01 Finding Growth in Every Challenge 54:28 The “Rule of 12” for Letting Go 58:48 Protecting Your Inner Peace 01:00:35 Respecting Time and Commitment 01:01:48 Showing Up Fully as a Parent 01:04:52 Starting Over After Motherhood 01:07:41 Making Sure No One’s Left Behind 01:08:16 What Motherhood Has Taught Me 01:13:42 Healing from Miscarriage and Loss 01:15:41 Compassion for Those Facing Infertility 01:17:43 Leading with Love and Kindness 01:19:26 Choosing Where to Invest Your Energy 01:20:27 Seeing Yourself Through Others’ Eyes 01:22:16 Kris on Final Five Episode Resources: Kris Jenner | TikTok Kris Jenner | Instagram Kris Jenner | Facebook Kris Jenner | XSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

17 Nov 1h 31min

Today, Jay and Radhi explore the delicate balance between sharing and oversharing, both online and in everyday life. They talk about what it really means to be authentic, how to protect your energy when opening up, and why not every moment needs to be shared to be meaningful. Together, they reflect on the intention behind vulnerability and the peace that comes from keeping certain parts of life sacred. How much do we share to feel seen? And when does sharing start to take more than it gives? This conversation invites us to slow down, listen to ourselves, and choose connection over performance. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Protect Your Energy When Sharing How to Be Vulnerable with Intention How to Keep Private Goals Sacred How to Find the Right People to Confide In How to Balance Openness with Privacy True connection begins when we honor what feels right to keep close and what feels right to release. Whether through words, art, or quiet reflection, choose to share from a place of peace, not pressure. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:01 Are You Sharing Too Much? 04:07 The Real Reason Behind Your Vulnerability 09:21 Create in Private Before You Share Publicly 13:45 Oversharing Looks Different on Every Platform 16:01 Be Intentional About What You Share and With Whom 18:24 Does Holding Back Make You Feel Alone? 23:52 Why We Make Big Judgments from Small Details 26:51 When Sharing Becomes Healing, Not Draining 32:06 Choosing Who Deserves to Hear Your Story Episode Resources: Radhi Devlukia | Website Radhi Devlukia | YouTube Radhi Devlukia | Instagram Radhi Devlukia | Facebook Radhi Devlukia | TikTok Joyfull A Really Good CrySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

15 Nov 37min

What truth about the relationship have you been ignoring? What makes that truth hard for you to accept? Today, Jay opens up about one of the hardest things we go through, trying to get over someone we once loved. He reminds us that healing isn’t about pretending we’re okay or trying to move on too quickly. It’s about realizing that what we often miss isn’t the person themselves, but how we felt when we were with them: seen, loved, and alive. Jay gently walks us through why breakups hurt so deeply, how our minds are built for connection, and why finding closure really starts with reconnecting to ourselves. Jay also shares how to stop replaying the past and start finding your rhythm again. He reminds us that healing isn’t about erasing the love, it’s about learning from it. You don’t need to have it all figured out today, you just need to take one small step back toward yourself. Because the real journey after a breakup isn’t about getting over someone else, it’s about remembering who you were before them, and discovering who you’re becoming next. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Stop Romanticizing the Past How to Let Go When You Still Miss Them How to Rebuild Your Life After a Breakup How to Move On Without Losing Yourself How to Remember You Were Enough All Along You are not broken for still feeling; you are human for still caring. One day, the memories that hurt will simply remind you of how far you’ve come. Keep showing up for yourself, because the love you’re searching for begins with you. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:53 The Heartbreak After the Breakup 01:24 What to Do When You Can't Get Over Your Ex 05:07 Why Do Breakups Hurt So Bad? 07:52 The Stories You Replay Are Keeping You Stuck 08:39 Myth #1: Time Doesn’t Heal Everything 10:16 Myth #2: Why Closure Isn’t the Answer 13:12 Myth #3: Moving On Doesn’t Mean You Didn’t Care 15:12 Myth #4: Why Getting Back Together Won’t Fix It 17:26 Step #1: The First Step to Real Healing 19:12 Step #2: It’s Okay Not to Be Okay! 20:05 Step #3: Rebuild the Rituals That Ground You 21:14 Step #4: Ask Better Questions to Help You Grow 22:37 Step #5: Turn Your Pain Into Purpose 24:02 What to Do When You Fall BackSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

14 Nov 26min

Have you been feeling anxious lately? Do you notice when your mind starts to spiral? Jay welcomes back his good friend and New York Times bestselling author Gabrielle Bernstein for a deep and inspiring conversation about true inner healing. Together, they unpack Gabby’s latest book, Self-Help, which reimagines Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) as a practice anyone can bring into their daily life. Gabby shares how the parts of us we often judge, the anxious part, the perfectionist, the people-pleaser, the one who needs control, aren’t our enemies. They’re parts that have been trying to protect us, even if they sometimes get in the way. As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Gabby unpack why so many of us get caught in cycles of burnout, self-criticism, and emotional disconnection. Gabby shares her simple four-step “check-in” practice, a way to pause, look inward, and start building a kinder relationship with ourselves. Through this process, she explains, we can start to recognize our patterns, meet them with compassion and find peace even in the midst of life’s noise. Together, they unpack powerful questions we can all relate to: Why is it easier to comfort others than ourselves? Could our inner critic actually be trying to protect us? And how can we set boundaries without losing our empathy or warmth? In this interview, you'll learn: How to Befriend Every Part of Yourself How to Recognize Your Inner Protectors How to Heal Through Compassion, Not Control How to Calm Your Inner Critic How to Create Boundaries Without Guilt How to Self-Soothe When You Feel Triggered Healing doesn’t mean fixing what’s broken, it means learning to see every part of yourself with compassion and curiosity. The parts of you that once felt heavy or hard to love are often the same ones that carried you through the toughest moments. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:29 What is Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy? 06:00 Healing Deep Trauma Through IFS 08:38 Where Real Healing From Trauma Begins 10:17 Blending Therapy with Spiritual Connection 13:38 Strengthen Your Own Spiritual Foundation 16:57 The Four-Step Self Check-In Practice 20:32 The Journey Toward Feeling Truly Great 25:39 Finding Peace Without External Validation 26:46 We All Have An Inner Spiritual Power 31:00 Seeing Self-Judgment as a Form of Protection 33:40 Stop Being So Hard on Yourself 36:24 Connecting with the Parts That Protect You 41:45 Why Facing Yourself Feels So Hard 47:33 Healing Starts When You Do the Work 49:54 The Power of Forgiving Yourself 55:57 Every Part of You Serves a Purpose 57:46 What Changes When You Befriend Your Inner Parts 59:00 The Truth About High Performers and Inner Peace 01:01:45 How to Set Boundaries with Love and Clarity 01:08:47 Gabby on Final Five Episode Resources: Gabrielle Bernstein | Website Gabrielle Bernstein | TikTok Gabrielle Bernstein | Instagram Gabrielle Bernstein | Facebook Gabrielle Bernstein | YouTube Dear Gabby Self Help: This Is Your Chance to Change Your Life Gabby's 21-day Manifesting ChallengeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

12 Nov 1h 21min