Accountability is Awesome

- The more accountability we take for our experience here – what happens to us, what we create, what we see as external or internal struggles – the more choices we have o This is about ownership o Ownership creates power and choice - This isn’t about what you’re not o Come from negative place o Not strong enough o Not smart enough o Not disciplined enough o That is all blame and fault finding o Blame and fault finding are shame based o - Here’s the real difficulty, sometimes we judge ourselves for the things that we are taking accountability for o Then we look to see how we can deflect that judgement o When we beat our self up that often leads to deflecting which doesn’t feel good o This goes wrong in the way that people/humans don’t like to be blamed or at fault so then we look to explain away the results in our life o She didn’t meet my needs o This just showed up on my screen o There was a link in my feed o That food wasn’t supposed to be in the pantry - You try to deflect judgment - In the process of deflecting judgement, you relinquish accountability. - Here is one of the secrets that I want you to take away from this, You can be accountable without judging. - There are two words that you can eliminate from your vocabulary to help you do this. - Should and Shouldn’t. - You’re a human, you’re going to make mistakes - Saying I should have done this or I shouldn’t have done that - I should be more - I shouldn’t be so bad - I shouldn’t have slipped up - Taking should and shouldn’t out of your vocabulary all together will help in this process of taking accountability without judgement. - You aren’t perfect, I’m not perfect, no one is. - Take accountability without taking blame. - Let’s talk about areas where we can take accountability - There are three areas - Some call it the cognitive triangle – - Brooke Castillo calls it the Model - – most of us just know it as the things we have control over in our lives - - Thoughts, feelings and actions - Elder Uchtdorf had a great Instagram post where he was writing on a sheet of paper just a quick reminder, it seems - I have control over my: Thoughts, Feelings, Actions. - So, 3 questions: Why not always take accountability for these three things? - How do I take back accountability for these three things? - And why will that help me have greater self mastery? - Let’s quick define Actions: o Every one of my clients comes to me with one of two problems o I’m doing but I can’t stop o I want to start doing but I can’t § I’m using pornography and I can’t stop § I want to stop overeating § I want to get more things done § I want to stop sleeping in so I can get my exercise in - This is all stuff we do or don’t...