Eric Barker: Success and Happiness

"Positive thinking can look an awful lot like old-fashioned denial"Jessica Lamb-Shapiro In this mini-episode I'm discussing my ambivalence on positive thinking. I cover:- Our Jessica Lamb-Shapiro interview- One of my Favorite quotes- The Stockdale Paradox- My former boss-Striking a balanceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Apr 20145min

This week on The One You Feed we have Jessica Lamb-Shapiro.Jessica Lamb-Shapiro is the author of the book Promise Land: My Journey through America's Self-Help Culture. Jessica Lamb-Shapiro has published fiction and nonfiction in The Believer, McSweeney's, Open City, and Index magazine, among others. She has been a fellow at the MacDowell Colony and the New York Foundation for the Arts, and is a graduate of Brown (BA) and Columbia (MFA).We loved the great writing, the honest look at self-help, and the insights that she delivers. This was a really fun conversation that left us with a lot to think about.In This Interview Jessica and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How positive thinking can become denial.The history of self-help stretching back to ancient Egypt.Using self-help terminology to avoid emotional intimacy.Challenges with the Law of Attraction.The paradox of self improvement: When should you accept yourself and when should you try to change.When is acceptance the right course and when is it settling?How cliches can become meaningless but yet still contain so much truth.Finally being able to talk about her mothers suicide.Growing up with a self-help author as a father.Jessica Lamb-Shapiro LinksJessica Lamb-Shapiro HomepageBuy Promise Land: My Journey through America's Self-Help CultureJessica on TwitterSome of our most popular interviews you might also enjoy:Mike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

15 Apr 201435min

This week on The One You Feed we have Brenden Dilley.Brenden Dilley is the author of the book Still Breathin': The Wisdom Teachings of a Perfectly Flawed Man.We were taken by the intensity, directness and self-deprecating humor throughout the book. Brenden is not one to sugar coat things, he doesn't even dust a little Sweet'N Low on them.He was introduced to the world of “self-help” at the age of eleven by his mother, Lisa Kitter. At the age of thirteen, he was doing book reports on titles such as “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. Upon graduating from high school, Brenden went on to become a highly successful personal trainer, receiving his certification through the National Academy of Sports Medicine.Brenden is also a single parent to his three children: Sophia Rose, Jasmine Nai’a and Phoenix Alexander. Much of what Brenden writes, speaks about, teaches and trains on revolves around parenting, dating, relationships, self-empowerment, fitness and authenticity.Currently, Brenden resides in Phoenix, Arizona, and works in the world of commercial real estate development.Warning: This interview has some slightly ribald humor in parts. In This Interview Brenden and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How acknowledging all aspects of ourselves is important.Why we need to be less judgmental of ourselves as we try to grow and change.In order to move forward forgiving yourself is paramount.Comfort versus happiness.How we can't judge choices until we see the results.Making sure that your daily actions align to your dreams.Getting honest about achieving our goals.What working as a waiter in a nudist resort taught him about humility.How to not project your own bull*shit onto your kids.How to handle negative energy from other people.Avoiding the guru complex in the self-help world.Staying authentic.Brenden Dilley LinksBrenden Dilley HomepageBuy Still Breathin'Brenden Dilley on Twitter Some of our most popular interviews you might also enjoy:Mike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

8 Apr 201438min

This week on The One You Feed we have Dave Davies of the legendary band The Kinks.As lead guitarist and founder of The Kinks, Dave Davies is one of the most unpredictable and original forces in rock, without whom guitar-rock styles including heavy metal and punk would have been inconceivable. A member of the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame, Dave's massive guitar sounds have inspired bands from Van Halen to Green Day. In addition to his dozens of albums with The Kinks, Dave has released three official solo albums.In 2003, Davies was ranked 88th in Rolling Stone magazine's list of the "100 Greatest Guitarists of All Time"He has released six official studio albums, the latest being 2013's I Will Be Me.  He is also the author of a new book called Heal: A Guide to Meditation.In This Interview Dave and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How early in life he heard the pull of the two wolves.How we need both wolves.His new book Heal: A Guide to Meditation.The value of meditation.How breathing affects the mind and body.How meditation helped him to recover from his massive stroke.Star Trek and Star Wars.How we need our pain.The power of intention.Some of his favorite solo records.The karma of his relationship with his brother, Ray.The value of happy accidents.Some of his favorite guitar riffs.The origins of his beautiful song Flowers in the Rain.Thoughts on a Kinks reunion.What he has planned for the future.Dave Davies LinksDave Davies HompageHeal: A Guide to MeditationDave's excellent new record I Will Be MeDave Davies on Twitter Some of our most popular interviews you might also enjoy:Mike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

31 Mars 201431min

This week on The One You Feed we have Rich Roll.Rich Roll  is a 47-year old, accomplished vegan ultra-endurance athlete and former entertainment attorney turned full-time wellness & plant-based nutrition advocate, motivational speaker, husband, father of 4 and inspiration to people worldwide as a transformative example of courageous and healthy living.In 2012, Rich became a #1 bestselling author with the publication of his inspirational memoir Finding Ultra: Rejecting Middle Age, Becoming One of the World’s Fittest Men, and Discovering Myself.  Taking up where the book leaves off, in 2013 Rich launched the wildly popular Rich Roll Podcast, which persistently sits atop the iTunes top-10 lists.In May 2010, Rich and his ultra-colleague Jason Lester accomplished an unprecedented feat of staggering endurance many said was not possible. Something they call the EPIC5 CHALLENGE – a odyssey that entailed completing 5 ironman-distance triathlons on 5 islands of Hawaii in under a week. Commencing on Kauai, they travelled to Oahu, Molokai and Maui before finishing on the Big Island, following the course of the Ironman World Championships on the Kona coast. In This Interview Rich and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.His experience feeding the bad wolf.His battle with alcoholism.How his sobriety wasn't all he needed for happiness.His moment of clarity at 40 that made him change his life again.The value of a plant based diet.How important it is to be ourselves and be vulnerable in telling our story.How nervous he was about sharing his innermost thoughts in his book.How he followed his heart and it led to a new life for himWhy you should stop lifehacking and invest in the journey.How to push through discomfort.The difference between the thinking mind and your higher consciousness.Eric taking on a 30 day plant power challenge.Rich Roll LinksRich Roll homepageThe Rich Roll podcastRich Roll on MediumWhy You Should Stop Lifehacking and Invest in the Journey@RichRoll on TwitterSome of our most popular interviews you might also enjoy:Mike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

25 Mars 201439min

Eric goes solo for mini-episode two.Hi Everyone....I'm doing another 5 minute mini-episode. This one I talk about why we started the podcast and some thoughts on the Two Wolves parable. The audio quality is not up to our normal standards but I'm doing the recording outside of our studios.As always feedback is very welcome and appreciated.We will release a normal episode on Tuesday as always.  Some of our most popular interviews you might also enjoy:Mike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

21 Mars 20145min

This week on The One You Feed we have Brian Koppelman.Brian Koppelman is an American screenwriter, novelist, director, and producer. Best known as the co-writer of Ocean's Thirteen and Rounders, Koppelman has also produced films such as The Illusionist and The Lucky Ones as well as directed films such as Solitary Man.He was an A&R representative from 1988-1997 for such companies as Elektra Records, Giant Records, SBK Records and EMI Records, during which time he discovered singer songwriter Tracy Chapman and executive-produced her first album.He is also the creator of the excellent video series called The Six Second Screenwriter and the host of the new podcast, The Moment with Brian Koppelman.Brian is also one of the kindest guys out there. He is genuinely curious about life and people. We really enjoyed our conversation. In This Interview Brian and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable, although a bit later than usual.How he got his start as a screenwriter and writing his first script, Rounders.Why working everyday is so important.The power of momentum.Specific practices he does to feed his good wolf.How our intentions tell us a lot about which wolf we are feeding.The importance of art in a good life.A great fiction recommendation from Brian.How denying your creative side can turn you toxicHis new podcast, The Moment with Brian Koppelman.Some of his pivotal moments in life.How stand-up comedy helped him face his fears and finish the script he was stuck on.WTF and Marc Maron.Curiosity.Music we love.Brian Koppelman LinksBrian Koppelman homepageThe Six Second Screenwriting LessonsThe Moment with Brian Koppelman podcastBrian Koppelman IMDb profileBrian's article about WTF and Jim BreuerTwitter- @briankoppelmanCity of Thieves, Brian's book  recommendationSome of our most popular interviews you might also enjoy:Mike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

18 Mars 201438min

This week on The One You Feed we have Chris Brogan.Chris Brogan is a best selling author, the publisher of the new online business magazine Owner, and the president of Human Business Works. He leads online classes on improving your business and yourself. He has a popular podcast and is one of the good guys in online marketing.Chris puts out a weekly newsletter that you can sign up for here. It is one of those rare emails that I read each week.We had a chance to go beyond (actually skipped entirely) online marketing and instead focused on being a better human. In This Interview Chris and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.The bad wolf's smelly poop.The power of confidence.Building confidence by taking small risks.How limiting chasing comfort can be.Feedback and reward systems.The value of accountability.How mind reading others lands us in trouble.Permission.Starting where you are.How Seth Godin got Chris to read Pema Chodron.Chris' conversion to Buddhism.Dealing with setbacks.Than danger of the all or nothing mentality.Chris Brogan LinksOwner MagazineChris Brogan HomepageHuman Business WorksPre-Order Chris' latest book: The Freaks Shall Inherit the Earth: Entrepreneurship for Weirdos, Misfits, and World DominatorsTwitter- @chrisbroganSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

11 Mars 201429min