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This week on The One You Feed we have Matthew Quick.Matthew Quick (aka Q) is the New York Times bestselling author of The Silver Linings Playbook, which was made into an Oscar-winning film; The Good Luck of Right Now; and three young adult novels: Sorta Like a Rockstar ; BOY21; and Forgive me, Leonard Peacock  His work has been translated into thirty languages, received a PEN/Hemingway Award Honorable Mention, was an LA Times Book Prize finalist, a New York Times Book Review Editors’ Choice, a #1 bestseller in Brazil, and selected by Nancy Pearl as one of Summer’s Best Books for NPR. Love May Fail will be published in 2015. All of his books have been optioned for film.In This Interview Matthew and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.The importance of the stories we tell ourselves and the stories we believe.Surrounding himself with people who help feed his good wolf.Growing up in a world where everyone told him he could never be a fiction writer.The Good Luck of Right Now.Working with the negative voices in our head.Synchronicity.Fiction writing as therapy.The line between positive thinking and delusion.Where the idea for the Silver Linings Playbook came from.Believing wildly in yourselfThe role of humor.His struggles with depression and anxiety.How hiding mental health conditions makes it worse.Polishing the bars of our prison.Matthew Quick LinksMatthew Quick HomepageMatthew Quick Amazon Author PageMatthew Quick on TwitterMatthew Quick on FacebookSome of our most popular interviews you might also enjoy:Mike Scott of the WaterboysRich RollTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

6 Maj 201447min

This week on The One You Feed we have Joe Oestreich.He is the author of the memoir, Hitless Wonder: A Life in Minor League Rock and Roll, which documents the twenty-five years he toured the country in a beat up Econoline as the bass player and co-singer for Columbus Ohio’s Watershed.His writing has appeared in Esquire, Sports Illustrated, Ninth Letter, Fourth Genre, and many other magazines. He's been awarded a fellowship from the Virginia Center for the Creative Arts, honored by The Atlantic Monthly, and shortlisted in The Best American Nonrequired Reading 2007, The Best American Essays 2008 and 2009, and The Pushcart Prize: Best of the Small Presses 2010 and 2014. He is now teach creative writing at Coastal Carolina University in Conway, SC, where he is the nonfiction editor of Waccamaw.In This Interview Joe and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.Getting the work done.Making time for your art.Taking selfishness too far.Working hard.How working hard is sometimes you the only thing you can change.Not being attached to external success.The work has to be it's own reward.The frustration of not seeing the success you want.That there has never been a better time to get your work in front of people.The support from his father.Watershed's legendary manager Biggie.Optimism versus fear.Opening for the Insane Clown Posse.His upcoming book.Joe Oestreich LinksJoe Oestreich homepageWatershed homepageBuy Hitless WonderSome of our most popular interviews you might also enjoy:Mike Scott of the WaterboysRich RollTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

30 Apr 201441min

This week on The One You Feed we have Frank Turner.This is a big episode for me. When I came up with the concept of the show, Frank Turner was the first person I thought of that I wanted to have as a guest. His music is hugely important to me. He feeds my good wolf on a regular basis.Frank was a singer in a hardcore band, Million Dead. When they broke up he started out on his own with an acoustic guitar. He has released  five solo albums, two rarities compilation albums, one split album and five EPs. His fifth studio album, Tape Deck Heart was released just over a year ago.In This Interview Frank and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.The feeling that there is never enough time.The importance of friendship in feeding your good wolf.His role as a CALM Ambassador.Building a community around music.What punk rock meant to him as a kid.Staying connected to his values of openness and community as he gets more famousMusic as a refuge for those that don't fit in.Music that he turns to to feed his good wolf.Writing the press release for John K Samson's latest record.The challenges of alcohol and drugs.Getting older and the changes in identity that come with that.His love of dogs and his amazing "dog policy" at showsHis forthcoming record.Frank Turner LinksFrank Turner HomepageBuy Frank Turner music on AmazonFrank Turner on TwitterSome of our most popular interviews you might also enjoy:Mike Scott of the WaterboysRich RollTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

22 Apr 201430min

"Positive thinking can look an awful lot like old-fashioned denial"Jessica Lamb-Shapiro In this mini-episode I'm discussing my ambivalence on positive thinking. I cover:- Our Jessica Lamb-Shapiro interview- One of my Favorite quotes- The Stockdale Paradox- My former boss-Striking a balanceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

19 Apr 20146min

This week on The One You Feed we have Jessica Lamb-Shapiro.Jessica Lamb-Shapiro is the author of the book Promise Land: My Journey through America's Self-Help Culture. Jessica Lamb-Shapiro has published fiction and nonfiction in The Believer, McSweeney's, Open City, and Index magazine, among others. She has been a fellow at the MacDowell Colony and the New York Foundation for the Arts, and is a graduate of Brown (BA) and Columbia (MFA).We loved the great writing, the honest look at self-help, and the insights that she delivers. This was a really fun conversation that left us with a lot to think about.In This Interview Jessica and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How positive thinking can become denial.The history of self-help stretching back to ancient Egypt.Using self-help terminology to avoid emotional intimacy.Challenges with the Law of Attraction.The paradox of self improvement: When should you accept yourself and when should you try to change.When is acceptance the right course and when is it settling?How cliches can become meaningless but yet still contain so much truth.Finally being able to talk about her mothers suicide.Growing up with a self-help author as a father.Jessica Lamb-Shapiro LinksJessica Lamb-Shapiro HomepageBuy Promise Land: My Journey through America's Self-Help CultureJessica on TwitterSome of our most popular interviews you might also enjoy:Mike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

15 Apr 201442min

This week on The One You Feed we have Brenden Dilley.Brenden Dilley is the author of the book Still Breathin': The Wisdom Teachings of a Perfectly Flawed Man.We were taken by the intensity, directness and self-deprecating humor throughout the book. Brenden is not one to sugar coat things, he doesn't even dust a little Sweet'N Low on them.He was introduced to the world of “self-help” at the age of eleven by his mother, Lisa Kitter. At the age of thirteen, he was doing book reports on titles such as “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. Upon graduating from high school, Brenden went on to become a highly successful personal trainer, receiving his certification through the National Academy of Sports Medicine.Brenden is also a single parent to his three children: Sophia Rose, Jasmine Nai’a and Phoenix Alexander. Much of what Brenden writes, speaks about, teaches and trains on revolves around parenting, dating, relationships, self-empowerment, fitness and authenticity.Currently, Brenden resides in Phoenix, Arizona, and works in the world of commercial real estate development.Warning: This interview has some slightly ribald humor in parts. In This Interview Brenden and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How acknowledging all aspects of ourselves is important.Why we need to be less judgmental of ourselves as we try to grow and change.In order to move forward forgiving yourself is paramount.Comfort versus happiness.How we can't judge choices until we see the results.Making sure that your daily actions align to your dreams.Getting honest about achieving our goals.What working as a waiter in a nudist resort taught him about humility.How to not project your own bull*shit onto your kids.How to handle negative energy from other people.Avoiding the guru complex in the self-help world.Staying authentic.Brenden Dilley LinksBrenden Dilley HomepageBuy Still Breathin'Brenden Dilley on Twitter Some of our most popular interviews you might also enjoy:Mike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

8 Apr 201444min

This week on The One You Feed we have Dave Davies of the legendary band The Kinks.As lead guitarist and founder of The Kinks, Dave Davies is one of the most unpredictable and original forces in rock, without whom guitar-rock styles including heavy metal and punk would have been inconceivable. A member of the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame, Dave's massive guitar sounds have inspired bands from Van Halen to Green Day. In addition to his dozens of albums with The Kinks, Dave has released three official solo albums.In 2003, Davies was ranked 88th in Rolling Stone magazine's list of the "100 Greatest Guitarists of All Time"He has released six official studio albums, the latest being 2013's I Will Be Me.  He is also the author of a new book called Heal: A Guide to Meditation.In This Interview Dave and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How early in life he heard the pull of the two wolves.How we need both wolves.His new book Heal: A Guide to Meditation.The value of meditation.How breathing affects the mind and body.How meditation helped him to recover from his massive stroke.Star Trek and Star Wars.How we need our pain.The power of intention.Some of his favorite solo records.The karma of his relationship with his brother, Ray.The value of happy accidents.Some of his favorite guitar riffs.The origins of his beautiful song Flowers in the Rain.Thoughts on a Kinks reunion.What he has planned for the future.Dave Davies LinksDave Davies HompageHeal: A Guide to MeditationDave's excellent new record I Will Be MeDave Davies on Twitter Some of our most popular interviews you might also enjoy:Mike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

31 Mars 201437min

This week on The One You Feed we have Rich Roll.Rich Roll  is a 47-year old, accomplished vegan ultra-endurance athlete and former entertainment attorney turned full-time wellness & plant-based nutrition advocate, motivational speaker, husband, father of 4 and inspiration to people worldwide as a transformative example of courageous and healthy living.In 2012, Rich became a #1 bestselling author with the publication of his inspirational memoir Finding Ultra: Rejecting Middle Age, Becoming One of the World’s Fittest Men, and Discovering Myself.  Taking up where the book leaves off, in 2013 Rich launched the wildly popular Rich Roll Podcast, which persistently sits atop the iTunes top-10 lists.In May 2010, Rich and his ultra-colleague Jason Lester accomplished an unprecedented feat of staggering endurance many said was not possible. Something they call the EPIC5 CHALLENGE – a odyssey that entailed completing 5 ironman-distance triathlons on 5 islands of Hawaii in under a week. Commencing on Kauai, they travelled to Oahu, Molokai and Maui before finishing on the Big Island, following the course of the Ironman World Championships on the Kona coast. In This Interview Rich and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.His experience feeding the bad wolf.His battle with alcoholism.How his sobriety wasn't all he needed for happiness.His moment of clarity at 40 that made him change his life again.The value of a plant based diet.How important it is to be ourselves and be vulnerable in telling our story.How nervous he was about sharing his innermost thoughts in his book.How he followed his heart and it led to a new life for himWhy you should stop lifehacking and invest in the journey.How to push through discomfort.The difference between the thinking mind and your higher consciousness.Eric taking on a 30 day plant power challenge.Rich Roll LinksRich Roll homepageThe Rich Roll podcastRich Roll on MediumWhy You Should Stop Lifehacking and Invest in the Journey@RichRoll on TwitterSome of our most popular interviews you might also enjoy:Mike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

25 Mars 201446min