Sex in the Summer Sun

Are you cut out for friends with benefits? If you crave regular sex, but don’t have capacity for a full-on relationship, an FWB arrangement could be just what the doctor ordered. But there’s a lot you should know before diving in! For some, FWB’s can be a super satisfying way to get your needs met, without the commitment of a traditional partnership. However, just because it’s not “traditional” doesn’t mean there aren’t rules of engagement, boundaries, and lots of communication. In this episode, I help you self-assess to figure out if you’re a good candidate for FWB, explain how FWB’s are qualitatively different from casual sex and hook-ups, and hacks to live your best FWB life.  Show Notes: The Communication Guide  The Yes No Maybe List   He’s Just Not That Into You: The No Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

4 Mars 202241min

Sexual wisdom (like all wisdom) is self-awareness plus lived experience. But I hear from people in their 20s all the time who are shockingly self-aware – they just haven’t stacked enough life experience to know how to navigate sex as it applies to them. So maybe that’s you, or maybe you're not in your 20s…but feel like you missed out on some sexual basics. If that’s you, gather ‘round, because this best-of episode is devoted to all the killer advice I wish I’d been given in my 20s.  Whether it’s figuring out what your turn-ons are, what to do when a partner constantly cheats, or how to try anal (one word: lube), I’m answering all of your ground zero sex questions today. We get into all of that, plus how to approach your first threesome, how to seek out couple’s therapy (yes: you can do it in your 20s!), and how to communicate your deepest desires in the bedroom. Show Notes: The Communication Guide  The Yes No Maybe List Coming Together by Celeste and Danielle Pjur Anal Lube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1 Mars 202250min

You’ve probably heard that the brain is the largest sex organ in your body. But can you really hack your brain for happiness? Or better sex? Psychiatrist and bestselling author Dr. Daniel Amen has amassed the world’s largest database of brain scans, and studies that information to reveal something fascinating: using neuroscience-based habits, we have the power to radically improve our mental health, our mood, and yes – our sex lives.  Dr. Amen’s latest book is You, Happier, and on this episode, he reveals the lies of happiness, the stress hormones impeding your sex hormones, how to focus on micro-moments of happiness, and strategies for protecting yourself from the “noise” in your head. He also explains why happy people tend to live longer, have better relationships, be more successful in their careers…and, let’s face it, have way hotter sex. Listen now, to learn how to master your mind, and reap the rewards.  More Dr. Daniel Amen To Order You, Happier  Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Tiktok Amen Clinics Discover Your Brain Type 30 Day Happiness Challenge Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

25 Feb 202233min

Let’s talk sexual tension and seduction, people. Maybe you’re single, and trying to brush up on your flirting skills. Or perhaps you’re in a long-term relationship, and frustrated that you don’t entice each other like you used to. Either way, I’m going to teach you how to build (or rebuild) sexual tension. At its core, seduction itself is about creating sexual tension, and to pull that off, we need a few things at our disposal, like confidence and radical presence. It’s a sexy sort of restraint, where your behavior is suggestive (not explicit), and your vibe is patient (not desperate). So today’s episode is all about sharpening our skills in the sexy and suggestive department. Plus, I take your questions, like how to make the first move, how to turn sexual banter into actual sex, and much, much more.  Show Notes: Chemistry, Attraction & Connection w/ Matthew Hussey How to Be a Master Dater w/ Matthew Hussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

23 Feb 202234min

Sexual fantasies give us a window into what we need: a type of touch, a type of power, or even a type of person. But what if you’re one of those people who’s like: “I don’t know how to fantasize, Emily?” Then look no further than sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex Elle Chase. Elle joins me to talk about cultivating your erotic daydreams, what your fantasies say about your desire style, and how to turn a common fantasy into a reality: finding a friend with benefits.   Plus, we take your questions! How to respond to a partner who desperately wants to watch you have sex with another (but you’re not so into it), what to say to a partner who thinks butts are gross, how to talk about your kink to a new partner and much more.  For More Elle Chase:  Website | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Elle’s Naughty Coloring Book | Curvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase | Elle’s Fantasy Course  Show Notes: Tell Me What You Want by Justin Lehmiller Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski The Yes No Maybe List  We Vibe Toys Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

18 Feb 202251min

When you keep running into the same relationship (or sex) problems over and over again, what’s the one common denominator? Brace yourself…because it’s you. You’re the thing that carries over from partnership to partnership, which is why Gary Bishop, author of the crazy bestseller “Unfu*k Yourself” decided to write a new book – a tough love spin on self-help. It’s called “Love Unfu*ked: Getting Your Relationship Sh!t Together,” and I invited him to chat with me about it. In this interview, Gary and I talk about how to become aware of our destructive relationship habits, and concrete ways to manage them. He tells me the one simple change he made with his current partner that transformed their relationship, and we go deep on feeling threatened: the fight or flight response that inhibits emotional intimacy, not to mention our best sex. But we also talk about the hopeful side of radical self-awareness, and the opportunity in front of us, when we step outside of ourselves, look at our patterns, and change them – to create room for the pleasurable connections we all want.  For More Information About Gary Bishop: Website | Twitter | Instagram  Love Unfu*ked Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

15 Feb 202250min

Today’s show is all about exploring sexual attraction; what it means and how does it fit into romantic love. By the end of today’s episode, you’ll better understand how and why YOU may feel sexually attracted to another person and how that can sometimes be distinct from feelings associated with long-term love. Plus, I take your questions! What to do when you’re straight, but kinda wanna hook up in a non-straight way, what to do when you and your partner are both submissive (and both crave dominance), how to bring back the spark, and when you should hang onto a friend with quality benefits – and, when to let them go.  Show Notes: Sex, Drugs and The Side Effects of Birth Control w/ Ricki Lake & Abby Epstein For More Studies From Justin Lehmiller Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

11 Feb 202234min

Let’s talk anal play! If you’re a booty newbie, where do you begin? What feel-good nerve endings are you looking for? Should you start alone, or with a partner? And how the hell do you go shopping for butt plugs? Listen: if you’ve got backdoor questions, my guests Dr. Charlie Glickman and Dr. Hernando Chaves have answers. Today’s best-of episode is THE anal 101 primer, and if you’re not butt-curious now…you will be, in less than an hour.  Listen up for tips to stimulate the prostate (AKA the male G-spot), how to prepare hygienically,  finger techniques for prostate massage, and how anal play can add so much crazy pleasure to your sex life, no matter your gender.  Show Notes: Dr Charlie Glickman | Website Hernando Chaves | Instagram | Twitter Aneros Skyn Condoms Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

9 Feb 202251min