Psychological Defenses: How to Understand (and change) Your Mind and Behavior

Liz Fosslien shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well-being. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

13 Dec 20198min

The modern workplace can be an emotional minefield. For most of us, about a third of our lives will be spent at work. Learning how to work with and manage our internal lives, including our emotions, in that setting is a huge part of becoming a happy, healthy, emotional intelligent human. On this episode Forrest is joined by the Wall Street Journal best-selling co-author and illustrator of No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work, Liz Fosslien. Liz is also the Head of Content and Editorial at Humu, a company that uses behavioral science to make work better. Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 01:52: Why focus on emotions in the workplace? 06:12: Why you should be less passionate about work. 12:10: Shifting workplace culture. 15:48: Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries. 22:32: Useful and not-useful emotions. 25:54: The importance of “psychological safety.” 31:45: Managing unusual power dynamics. 38:31: What is “forced positivity,” and is it problematic? 42:20: A message to her younger self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

9 Dec 201952min

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, Marc Lesser, Forrest, and Dr. Rick Hanson share the most important things they do, each day, for their own well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

6 Dec 20196min

There’s a natural tendency to view different elements of our lives as being unique and distinct from one another: what we do at home, or what we do as part of our personal growth journey, is somehow fundamentally different from what we do at work. So what can we do, both as individuals and a collective, to bring those same mindful traits into the workplace? That's the question we explore today with Marc Lesser, founding CEO of the Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute. Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 01:01: From Zen to NYU. 03:27: Stories from the Zen kitchen. 08:51: Compressing “big” lessons into understood words. 11:32: Does “no-gaining mind” work in a capitalist context? 18:08: What moves you from your home base? 20:23: What is the benefit of having more mindful leaders? 23:35: Critiques of mindfulness. 27:30: The most common questions, and most powerful tools. 32:04: If you could go back in time and tell yourself something, what would you say? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2 Dec 201936min

Dr. Hanson and Forrest continue their conversation on therapy with a discussion ranging from how to pay for it to getting the most out of what happens in the room. As a practicing clinician for over 30 years, Rick's had a lot of people wander through his office. Some of them grew more from the experience than others, and there were some common traits - both on their side and on mine - that tended to lead to the process being particularly beneficial...or particularly not. Today we’re exploring that, alongside a host of other topics. Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 02:20: How do you find a therapist? 05:09: What is an “agency”? 06:21: Determining if a therapist is a good fit. 11:06: Affording therapy. 23:00: Managing the experiences of shame associated with seeking help. 29:52: What can someone do to get the most out of therapy? 38:01: Common pitfalls. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

25 Nov 201949min

This is the first of two episodes dedicated to a topic near and dear to Dr. Hanson's heart: therapy. Today we're exploring how to start therapy, including different therapy modalities and how to approach seeking out a therapist to work with. Of course, therapy can be profoundly helpful for acute issues – for instance, the tendencies a person might have related to our series on pathology. But what gets lost sometimes in our general social conversation around therapy is how useful it can be as a general tool for personal exploration and inquiry. Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 04:08: What does therapy look like in real life? 09:34: Different kinds of licenses and what they do. 13:50: Reasons people might go to therapy. 24:38: The traits of good therapists. 35:51: What are the different kinds of therapy? 43:50: Recap Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

18 Nov 201948min

On this short episode, Lori Gottlieb shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well being.  Lori Gottlieb is a New York Times bestselling author, nationally recognized journalist, and weekly “Dear Therapist” columnist for The Atlantic. Her new book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed has rapidly become one of my favorites. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

15 Nov 20193min

Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Lori Gottlieb joins the show to explore the therapeutic process, the gifts and challenges of being a therapist in therapy, and why you should consider talking to someone. Lori Gottlieb is a New York Times bestselling author, nationally recognized journalist, and weekly “Dear Therapist” columnist for The Atlantic. Her new book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed has rapidly become one of my favorites. Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is a deeply personal, yet universal, tour of what it means to be human. It examines the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 01:25: The challenges of seeing our own difficulties. 03:04: Going back to being a "client." 05:56: Accessing our deeper, younger layers. 10:35: How we can exit a repetitive cycle. 12:42: Shame and self-punishment. 14:22: Relating to your present, past, and future. 17:23: Taking charge of your own learning and growth process. 18:20: How has being in therapy affected your own therapy practice? 20:07: Loneliness, isolation, and gender differences in therapy. 30:40: Overcoming shame around therapy. 33:04: When someone’s in therapy, what can they do to get the most out of it? 34:22: If you could back in time and say something to a younger version of yourself, what would it be? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11 Nov 201939min