From Initially Identifying as Bisexual to Realizing You're Actually a Lesbian (with Shohreh Davoodi)

Bio

As an unapologetically queer writer and creator, Shohreh Davoodi is especially skilled at making thoughtful connections, explaining difficult concepts clearly and concisely, and handling tough topics with warmth and humor. Driven by a passion for equal rights and representation for LGBTQIA+ folks and people of color, her work supports and celebrates the queer and BIPOC communities of which she's a proud member. She's currently working on her first novel.

ℹ️ Introduction

Welcome back to another episode of Lesbi-Honest, the podcast where we explore the journeys, experiences, and triumphs of individuals who have embraced their true selves. I'm your host, Sarah, and today we have a very special guest joining us, Shohreh. In this episode, Shohreh shares their personal story of discovering their sexuality later in life and the journey they embarked on to fully embrace their identity as a lesbian. We delve into the complexities of understanding their attraction to women, their struggles with acceptance, and the empowering role of a supportive queer therapist. Shohreh also opens up about facing criticism and ridicule online, their brave act of putting up a pride flag in a conservative neighborhood, and their decision to move to a more LGBTQ-friendly city. This episode is filled with inspiration, honesty, and a reminder that it's never too late to live authentically. So sit back, relax, and let's dive into Shohreh's incredible journey on this episode of Lesbi-Honest.

❇️ Key topics and bullets

- Late-in-life lesbians going through a process of understanding their sexuality

- The Shohreh's gradual transition in understanding her attraction to women

- Identifying as bisexual before fully embracing the identity of a lesbian

- Struggles with accepting her sexuality and questioning past experiences

- Supportive queer therapist helping navigate feelings and guilt

- Criticism and ridicule online for their experience from men

- Process of accepting attraction to women

- Acknowledging body's signals and realizing unhappiness in marriage due to queerness

- Response video to HOA situation

- Counter flag response to conservative flag in living room

- Buying a progress flag with "you are loved" slogan

- Putting up the flag to support and provide representation for queer individuals in the neighborhood

- Recognizing attractiveness in men, but not personally attracted to them

- Interest in dating women if circumstances were different

- Learning about bisexuality through close friendships with bisexual individuals

- Initial identification as bisexual before realizing being a lesbian

- Biphobia and the pressure to choose a side

- Discovery process during the pandemic leading to divorce from ex-husband

- Happiness in current lesbian relationship

- Lack of children, but co-parenting two dogs with ex-partner

- Initial plans to open relationship disrupted by the pandemic

- Realization of being meant to be with a woman

- Guilt and unfulfillment in closeted lesbian marriage

- Asking for a divorce due to deep friendship rather than a romantic partnership

- Painful process of divorce after being together since early twenties

- Catalyst of "Untamed" by Glenn Doyle for questioning sexuality

- Friends and ex-husband suggesting Shohreh might be gay

- Initial identification as queer before realizing she is a lesbian

- Confirmation of lesbian identity through dating current partner

- Desire to live in Colorado and concerns about LGBTQ+ rights in Texas

- Safety concerns for partner presenting as masculine in Texas

- Presence of speaker's sister and family members in Colorado

- Extreme heat in Texas and desire for a different climate

- Understanding there is no 100% safe...