Episode 88: Acton

Louey first heard my voice orgasming in the apartment below his in 2002. We became friends. He asked me to perform in a sensual silent film he made for film school. I asked him to photograph a 1000 sex positions for an online course I was writing. We taught at the same university. We picked apples together for cider. We drove five hours with our partners to the hot springs. We took another road trip to swing dance. I was around when he took a job with Complexly to work on the SciShow team. He cheered for me when I started Sexplanations for the same company. Now we're back in the studio together talking about sex. It's a comfortable place to be and I'm thrilled to share our friendship with you. Sextra Credit: Fake orgasms with your partner (or on your own).

16 Jan 201843min

I invited sex geek, former Navy, soon-to-be librarian, and dear friend Peter to talk with me about the benefits of sex. It turns out there isn't just a health list of benefits, so much more of our lives have been beneficially impacted thank goodness! In this episode Peter and I talk about our meet cute. We discuss leftover sperm in the urethra and review a past episode of the Sexplanations YouTube channel. What's the drill metaphor? Do the benefits of sex outweigh the disadvantages? Are we going to continue having it? How should we respond to our partners shitting the bed? Why do we admire Kenton? How can we access high quality sex education? Sextra Credit: Invite a friend to talk about sex with you outside of sexual spaces. Peter's contact: @the_musser To support the Sexplanations Podcast: https://www.patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast To acquire the FunkitToys we discussed: https://www.funkittoys.com/

9 Jan 201849min

Kenton founded Sex Geekdom in the DC area, he revolutionized the sex toy industry, and when asked what his future goals are they mainly consist of supporting other creators. What a cool guy! In this conversation I get to learn about Kenton's manufacturing process, how to stimulate the A-spot, and whether or not silicone on silicone is problematic. It's sex geeky and I love it! To learn more about Kenton check out https://www.funkittoys.com/ and to get monthly toys sign up for his Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/funkittoys/posts

3 Jan 201848min

In this episode we start talking about building sex toys and sex shows. Then we go into vibrators versus dildos, Kegels, rainbows, pornography, sexual ethics, a review of Dan Savage's Hump Fest, and our thoughts on sanitation and blood play. I'm grateful that Shande took time with me to explore my sexual curiosities and share her's with me. Sextra Credit: Unlock your clit, unlock your mind To support future episodes of Sexplanations: patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast To acquire the FunkitToys we discussed: https://www.funkittoys.com/

24 Dec 201749min

Lauren is an author and body positive activist. She's an educator and a powerhouse woman who knows how to motivate people to be their best selves. We met years ago at a sex conference and I wanted to check-in, how is she doing, what have we learned? We discuss sapiosexuality, love after death, journaling, self care, and the pronunciation of Kegels. And Lauren generously has a giveaway for you -- a copy of her book Bawdy Love: 10 Steps to Profoundly Loving Your Body and a spot in her course Journal Through It: From ”Oh $#@!” to ”I’ve got this!” in 30 Days. Extra entries are given to those of you who share with friends – preferably with compliments about how amazing you think they are. GIVEAWAY: http://laurenmariefleming.com/sexplanations To acquire the FunkitToys we discussed: https://www.funkittoys.com/

18 Dec 201746min

My 17 year old daughter generously sat down with me to talk about consent -- her personal experiences with it, humor of it, nonverbal versions, and how to respond to rejection. We talked about her thoughts on the Dear Boy Who Likes My Daughter episode, how she perceives my romantic relationships, what makes a good cuddle partner, and being resourceful after trauma. There's laughing and crying and lots of proud mama. To support Sexplanations podcast, please visit: https://www.patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast To acquire the FunkitToys we discussed: https://www.funkittoys.com/

8 Dec 201747min

Why not take two episodes of Ask Lindsey sex questions from the Sexplanations' YouTube show and ask my friend how he'd answer. Erik and I met in college and have been friends since our freshman year. He's a smoke jumper who lunges out of planes to fight fires. I'm a sexologist who tells people online about my orgasms. Our answers are practically the same. *wink* Actually, Erik's might be better. He brings a beautiful point of view to the conversations of attraction, consent, and romance. His projection for our world in the future is incredible and his sincerity is precious. Use dams. Stay curious. Keep learning. Sextra Credit: Work on communication by discussing the following questions with another person. "Are there different vagina options?" "Yes, but HOW to get a woman?" "Have you read, and do you have an opinion on Mary Roach's book, Bonk?" "I would love for you to go more in depth on the harmful to minors book idea, what is appropriate and why? What information are they missing and what does this do to them? How candid should we be?" "In what situations is it okay to not use a condom?" "How important is protection in lesbian sex?" "Do I really need to use a dental dam when hooking up or is it just super precautionary?" "I'm only attracted to other girls, but recently I've realized that I want to kiss Harry Stiles on the mouth, what does this mean?" "How do you envision sexuality changing in the next 50, 100, or 1,000 years?" "Are you gonna keep answering questions?" This episode of the Sexplanations Podcast is based on this episode of the Sexplanations YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=19&v=v0y1KDqyX_M To support one or both shows please visit us on Patreon.com To acquire the FunkitToys we discussed: https://www.funkittoys.com/

1 Dec 201742min

Ash is one of my teachers, author of the book The ABCs of LGBT+, and incredibly thoughtful vlogger. I think the world of Ash and I'm so grateful to share their knowledgeable and caring mind with you. In this episode we 'ace' a trivia quiz on asexuality and talk about a least a dozen new terms related to identity and sexual expression. To follow Ash on YouTube check out: https://www.youtube.com/user/HeyThere005/videos

27 Nov 201750min