ManTalks Podcast18 Dec 2023

Dr. Nicole LePera - Undoing Trauma Bonds And Getting Your Needs Met

Talking points: grief, trauma, needs, resentment, relationships

Dr. Nicole is one of the rare three-peats on my podcast, and she always delivers! Fresh off the tour for her new book, we dove straight into the heavy stuff. This is a great episode to listen to if you're wanting to take a closer look at relationship issues, modern dating troubles, and navigating all the emotions those bring.

(00:00:00) - Intro, the book tour, and navigating grief and joy at the same time
(00:08:10) - Why we isolate ourselves when we actually need community
(00:15:47) - What do you feel has shifted in modern-day relationships?
(00:23:12) - What does it mean to “be the love that you seek”?
(00:28:05) - So how do our early relationships inform our present-day ones?
(00:32:18) - Our earliest attachments did more than condition our behavior
(00:38:17) - How early unmet emotional needs impact our present relationships, and how we identify them
(00:44:32) - What do you say to men who claim they shouldn’t have emotional needs?
(00:50:28) - What do when resentment creeps into a relationship, and why it’s so important to listen to the wisdom of the body
(00:56:53) - Nicole’s take on how to regulate your nervous system
(01:03:46) - What is a trauma bond, and how do you know you’re in one?

Dr. Nicole LePera was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research. She also studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. As a clinical psychologist in private practice, Dr. Nicole LePera often found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy. Wanting more for her patients—and for herself—she began a journey to develop a united philosophy of mental, physical, and spiritual health that equips people with the tools necessary to heal themselves. Nothing short of a paradigm shift, Dr. Nicole LePera’s teachings empower the individual to break free from trauma cycles and create who they want to become.

Connect with Dr. Nicole:

-Website: https://yourholisticpsychologist.com/

-Instagram: @the.holistic.psychologist

-Youtube: https://bit.ly/3fmD5eH

-New book: How To Be The Love You Seek: https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com/

-TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theholisticpsychologist/

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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