Make Your Damn Bed3 Mars 2022

Day 383 || relative comparison baseline IV

A good place to start when it comes to expanding your baseline of comparison and relativity - is social media. And I recommend starting to realign that by looking around you - does everyone at the grocery store in your area look like the people that come up in your timeline feed? Or is your feed filled with one type of body or person? One type of content? If it’s all puppies or recipes - great. But if the influencers, friends, bots or whatever that make you feel like shit or feel like you need to buy more shit - you need to reset the baseline and reevaluate your relationships. Diversify diversify diversify. The more broad our spectrum is for comparing ourselves, the more likely we are too find a comfortable place in the middle of it.

If I only follow bikini models - next time I see my body in a bikini - my brain will filter through the last few reference points for what this is “supposed to look like” and if it can only find bodies that don’t resemble mine - I may not feel as comfortable as I would if I was following people of all body types rocking all different types of swimwear and proving to my brain that they not only look amazing and confident but they also encouraged me to wanna look that good and confident in my own version of this metaphor.

I like to think of social media as a tool and a resource that can inspire, educate, and motivate you. Of course, you can use it as entertainment, but even then - that’s a tool that can empower without damage.

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