59: Mental Health without the BS - Petra Velzeboer - Psychotherapist and Executive Coach
Growth Mindset Psychology: The Science of Self-Improvement30 Juni 2019

59: Mental Health without the BS - Petra Velzeboer - Psychotherapist and Executive Coach

Petra Velzeboer is a mental health consultant, executive coach and podcaster. She has a radical 'no BS' approach to mental health and isn't afraid to come out with some hard hitting facts of life. She has a challenging personal story from being raised in a cult which she broke out of to then fall into alcohol abuse and motherhood. Her tale of turning herself around to get her qualifications and become a shining beacon of inspiration and advice to others is amazing. She is a true advocate of the Growth Mindset and an absolute legend. On the show we go through her dark history and the amazing challenges she overcame. But it is not a perfect wonder story and we both reflect on our own current challenges instead of pretending we have arrived at this Nirvana of knowing everything and being happy which too many people pretend. This is a hard hitting episode with lots of insights and tips for really being true to yourself, taking accountability and becoming the person you should be. PetraConnect on LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/petra-velzeboer/)Adversity to Advantage Podcast (http://petravelzeboer.com/podcast)Website (http://petravelzeboer.com/)Twitter (https://twitter.com/PetraVelzeboer)ABOUT THE HOSTMy name is Sam Harris. I am a British entrepreneur, investor and explorer. From hitchhiking across Kazakstan to programming AI doctors I am always pushing myself in the spirit of curiosity and Growth. My background is in Biology and Psychology with a passion for improving the world and human behaviour. I have built and sold companies from an early age and love coming up with unique ways to make life more enjoyable and meaningful.Sam:Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/samjamsnaps/)Quora (https://www.quora.com/profile/Sam-Harris-58)Twitter (https://twitter.com/samharristweets)LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharris48/)Sam's blog - SamWebsterHarris.com (https://samwebsterharris.com/)Support the Show - Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/growthmindset)TOP TIPSTHE BEST REVENGE IS LIVING A GOOD LIFERevenge isn’t about punishing others or comparing yourself. It is simply about finding happiness and success for yourself regardless.The worst thing you can do is punish yourself as an act of defiance and to hopefully make someone else’s life worse. Look at the bigger picture and don’t caught up in the moment and just seek to improve yourself.YOU CAN TURN ANYTHING AROUNDWith everything in life going against her Petra was able to completely turn her life around by following her interests. She got through one of the worst periods in her life by making one commitment and sticking with it and then adding more things and it turned into the blossoming career she has today.Even your darkest moments can be the inspiration to create a life you loveUSE SPEAKING AGENTSWant to grow your personal brand and do more public speaking. Don’t just do things in halves. List with as many as possible and get yourself out there! They all have different contacts and the more you are with the more bookings you’ll get. BonusGo and meet every agent you might sign with first. Put a face to the name and help them get to know your brand.NOTES1:30 - MENTAL HEALTH CONSULTANT WHAT IS THAT?coaching CEO’s and VPs so it can be coaching but also relationships.Mainly go into companies to help their strategy on a mental health perspective2:40 - Are there any common themes between businessWork with many different business, always humans so fundamentally it is all quite similar3:35 - what are the common mental health problems in startups?Systems and structure that is needed as you scale up often fails. Managers need more empowerment to talk openly and honestly about mental health5:30 - Bigger companies have more issuesOld school companies have more issues due to things being in place for a long time. But as new companies are innovating on best practices older companies are starting to catch up.7:10 - How did you get into this positionWell my success came from 12 years of working super hard in the area.But I started from a weird place of being raised in a religious cult and then suffering from alcohol addiction and abuse. After nearly dying I developed a bit more of a nothing matter attitude so I’m very quick to jump right to the heart of the problem and don’t BS around the topic. I’m happy to confront a CEO with their biggest problem and tell them they’re doing things wrong.I am just facinated in the area and it kind of happened with me following my curiousity and one thing leading to another.9:00 - Have you always been fascinated in mental health problems or did it spark from solving your own problems first?Ironically I was in some of the darkest moments of my own life whilst studying to be a psychotherapist. There was definitely a deep drive to fix my own problems and survive and became addicted to learning.10:00 - So how did you learn the profession exactly?Initially I did a one day a week class whilst I was still an alcoholic and I managed to just about keep it up despite feeling awful the entire day.I then took on a masters degree at night whilst I was working full time and raising my kids. So anyone who puts something off because they don’t have time is lying to themselves.I was really lucky to even get on the course, when I started I didn’t have a plan for how to pay for it but I just took the leap and worked it out as I went along11:20 - How did you deal with addiction and getting out of it?I went to Alcoholics anonymous which definitely saved me and it was essential for the first two years. But it is also really cult-like and I am hyper sensitive to cults after being raised in one so I was happy to leave once I was strong enough. I don’t want to give up my power and control in the long term. In the short term it was great to have people around to talk to and release my problems. It was great to admit I just really needed a drink right now, but once it was out there it suddenly felt easier to deal with.After I was stronger I found AA limiting being around others who were complaining about their problems and needing to drink etc… and was actually unhealthy for me. So I tried to build a network of people that lift me up.13:45 - Sounds like a very mindful process to realise the moments when you need a drink and interveneYes I really needed that ability to call someone when I had an urge. I also really relied on a 3 minute meditation after every urge to stop and think mindfully about why I shouldn’t do it. I must have listened a million times. Any time I had a slight level of cortisol increase I would need it.15:05 - So what does being raised in a cult mean?it sounds black and white but it was all shades of grey. Lots of hippie communes and travelling to events and classes. It has a lot of similarities to organisations as they grow, it takes one toxic person to suddenly change the entire atmosphere.There is a weird brainwashing feedback loop where If you agree with the group you get rewarded and promoted and more privileges. If you try to change the trend at all you are ostracised and told your a bad person. Because you have no money and rely on the group and have nowhere to go you. This reinforces the idea that they are right and if you leave god will punish you.For all my generation in the cult we had major trauma around being unable to build a life outside the cult or knowing what to do18:00 - Did you keep in touch with other members then?It took a few years to be completely isolated from that way of thinking to build my opinions. I really needed a growth mindset to become a different person first to then talk with them all about the experience and how bad it was without feeling like I still needed it. Take responsibility for myself first19:00 - Taking responsibility is always a good step to get out of the victim mindsetI’ve really started to focus on this and so many people that go through worse stuff and find. There is never a good reason to feel like a victim when you can take ownership. This is the point of my podcast20:10 - Breaking through adversity is a really good topic. How did you first select the theme and start the podcast?I guess I was listening to a lot of podcasts and always wanted to be a radio host when I was young. I thought about what I really needed to hear when I was in my problems but also can I satisfy my curiosity and learn at the same time. So even if no-one listens I will still enjoy it.Then the first few episodes really helped me. Since then I’ve good periods and bad periods and learn what works.23:30 - So what were your biggest lessonsI guess it sometimes felt like just work and occasionally even I would be bored. So now I have a priming conversation to get connected and work out their direction and theme we can focus on for the podcast.24:00 - What’s your favourite question to ask people?I like knowing what challenges they are facing now and their general practices. people saying it used to be bad and now it’s perfect is just wrong.25:45 - So what are your big challenges currently?I’m taking on a lot of public speaking which is quite scary and difficult but it’s really helping me grow and it’s a challenge I like to have.I also have two teenagers which I share with my ex-husband half the week. coming to terms with his new wife is not easy.I’m defining my no BS approach to mental health and building a course for it which is also a challenge I’m taking on.27:30 - How about writing a bookI spoke to a publisher and really want to do this also. So I will definitely try and do this.27:50 - How did you start a public speaking careerI hustled a lot. I worked helping kids where I wasn’t needed but I kept on showing up. I took every opportunity to speak at meet ups and and consistently showing up. I made tonnes of mistakes and had things go wrong but I just keep going and it gets better. The world doesn’t end when i mess up on stage and I just carry on. Then I’m really good at finding mentors. If you find people who have done it and ask for help then you can really open up a lot of opportunities. Do what they tell you to do and then they’ll help you more.30:30 - So did you stick with just one agencyDefinitely register on as many as possible. They all have different connections and have different things that work better or worse for your type of content.And go to the agency and show up and show them why your type of content is important and how it can be funny. When they know your personality they know how to sell you.31:00 - Most important tipOne rejection does not mean you are not on the right path, it just means you might not be right for that person or it happens to be the wrong time of the day etc.. Keep on trying and showing up!So many people give up, if you believe just do it anyway31:30 - What do you see in the future of mental health?There will be a framework that companies need to align with to prove they are doing all the right things to ensure good mental health.Companies will be competitive to provide the best mental health.Young people want to work for companies of purpose and have great satisfaction and wellbeing in what they do33:30 - what do you do now for you mental healthI’m trying the 5am club. the victory hour when you start20 mins exercise20 mins goal setting20 mins learningit basically means you are brainwashing yourself to be awesome and gives you and hour away from tech.then again in the evening writing your reflections:3 things I’m grateful for3 things to do that will make today a success3 things i want to be today35:40 - Whats the best advice you’ve been given“The best revenge is living a good life.”Instead of focussing on messing up your life or other peoples this flips it into a positive action to just go and be awesome.Then it also links to my other favourite quote.“It’s all your fault”Everything that happens is down to you. You have control to fix it or not. accept responsibility and then you can change it. Anything that happens now that goes wrong I can take on. People who always blame everything around them are going nowhere.36:45 - What is the kindest thing someone did for you?Ex husband really helped me get through my worst problems at the time. He also presented many other problems but his consistent help was the most incredible thing when I needed it. 37:40 - Most vivid memory from childhoodOne of my family members getting consistently punished in front of everyone and not having a voice to be able to do anything about it. This really forced me to never not have a voice instead, I have always felt like a coward since for not doing something or saying ‘punish me instead’. This has propelled me into having a voice and empowering others to have a voice.38:40 - let’s flip questioning. What scares Sam the most?Getting too comfortable with something that is quite successful and 90% there and seeking a new challenge when you haven’t really made the most of mastering the thing you are doing. You can get panicked by getting by being about to have a clear success which you need to commit to and jump to something else.Existential life worry around women. Any day it isn’t really a problem that affects me and I”m pretty happy doing my thing. But if I just plod through life and get to 90 without every having a wife to share my life with that seems like one of the most important sources of joy I am completely missing out on.41:00 - Time to apply the overnight success philosophy to dating. take the rejections and put in the time.you get better at it. now I’m really good at the first three months but after that I hit issues. But you get better at communicating your problems early and having honest conversationstrue. but yes as a guy it does take a lot of work to just get two dates on tinder. I guess more in person things and get used to loads of rejections and try and get 5 girls numbers a day and be used to talking to new woman all the time and make statistics work in your favour.41:45 - So what’s the writing Sam is doing and your big goalsToo many things. Psychology and mindsets, business advice, life advice, meta lessons you can learn from stupid things like 50 shades of grey. And then meditation, there’s a whole book to be written on the crazy journey that happens in your brain during a 10 day Vipassana retreat that’s never really been told. It’s weird but Vipassana was actually really funny and the whole thing felt like a comedy show of your life and how hilariously stupid you are, it could be told in a really nice way.I love improving at things and working on my craft. I really hope to be able to reach people and improve their lives as well with my learnings.44:45 - yea ten days of silent retreat sounds horrible I hate the idea of it. perhaps one day I’ll be brave enough.It will be worth it!Subscribe!If you enjoyed the podcast please subscribe and rate it. And of course, share with your friends! Special Guest: Petra Velzeboer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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The Psychology of FOMO - Why it's Getting Worse and What To Do About It

The Psychology of FOMO - Why it's Getting Worse and What To Do About It

Modern technology amplifies our fear and emotions. FOMO is on the rise. Whether you are worried about being invited to a party, checking social media, or finding it harder to make decisions. FOMO is increasingly driving our emotions and actions. It is a deeply natural feeling built into us through hundreds of thousands of years of evolution. But it hasn't kept up with our incredible pace of technological change. Part of the reason we have such a decline in mental health is we can compare ourselves to the perfect lives all around us in the digital world and feel we don't stack up. This episode will help you understand what's really going on: The evolutionary roots of FOMO How our modern world is making us anxious Why ADHD is on the rise Where to take back our focus What to celebrate and look up to. Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors: 🥙 Hello Fresh - America's #1 meal kit provider 10 free meals across 7 boxes HelloFresh.com/FreeGrowthMindset 🐏 Unbound Merino - Highest quality Merino wool clothing 10% off with code 'PSYCHOLOGY' UnboundMerino.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Grow Chapters: 00:00 Psychology of FOMO 04:03 Evolutionary Roots of FOMO 08:15 Modern Technology and Social Media's Role in FOMO 10:18 Consumer Culture, Crypto and Parasocial Relationships 14:31 Psychological Costs & Impact on Mental Health 15:50 FOMO and Decision Making 17:17 The Rise of ADHD 18:54 Abundance vs. Scarcity Mindset 21:09 The Joy of Missing Out (JOMO) 21:36 Practical Tips to Overcome FOMO 25:17 Conclusion: Embracing the Present Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

13 Dec 202430min

14 Habits Keeping You Poor

14 Habits Keeping You Poor

The small but very real problems that hold you back in a big way. Personal finances feel just that, personal. Yet most of our issues are fundamentally quite predictable and universal based on different mindset patterns and beliefs we pick up. Money isn't a completely natural tool; it is a human invention that helps us overcome trade and resource accumulation problems. Learning the basics of how to think about money and deal with it allows for us to become a master of our own future. From Lifestyle inflation to investing strategy or the issue of inaction feeling you have to learn more first This episode covers the 14 biggest mistakes we make when we think about money. Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors: 🥙 Hello Fresh - America's #1 meal kit provider 10 free meals across 7 boxes HelloFresh.com/FreeGrowthMindset 🐏 Unbound Merino - Highest quality Merino wool clothing 10% off with code 'PSYCHOLOGY' UnboundMerino.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters 00:00 14 habits that keep you poor 00:24 1st bad habit - Starting tomorrow 00:52 2nd - Starting too many and not finishing any 01:45 3rd - Paying yourself last 02:51 4th - Not investing in yourself 03:34 5th - Reading a lot and not doing 04:27 6th - Not knowing your income or expenses 06:02 7th - Getting comfortable with bad debts 07:28 8th - Not having an emergency fund 08:44 9th - Lifestyle inflation 10:17 Ad break 10:28 10th - Hanging with the wrong crowd 12:02 11th - Blaming your circumstances 12:35 12th - Focusing purely on saving now 13:16 13th - Investing without a strategy 14:38 14th - Waiting for perfect conditions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

10 Dec 202418min

Free Will and the War Against Our Minds - Are We Becoming NPCs?

Free Will and the War Against Our Minds - Are We Becoming NPCs?

The Psychology of the 5 Types of Non-Player Characters - How to Fix Them and Be a Main Character Thinker. The same story plays out online every day. The same people are getting outraged about the same things again and again. Like Clockwork. The human brain is highly optimised to rely on heuristics and simplistic decisions. Modern media hijacks this system to control our beliefs and emotions based on the agenda of other people. This episode helps listeners build autonomy over their beliefs and emotions by learning the different types of Non-Player-Character: The Conformist NPC - Believes the consensus politically correct ideas The Contrarian NPC - Believes the opposite of the consensus and seeks conspiracy The Disciple NPC - Believes their preferred leader The Tribalist NPC - Follows the tribe and us vs them mentality The Averager NPC - Seeks the middle ground without understanding the merits of an argument. Learn the psychology of the processes behind each NPC type and how different types of critical thinking systems or defence systems get turned on and off based simply on who delivers the message. Building your own worldview is one of the most important things you can do in an increasingly confusing and polarised world. Sources: Gurwinder - Why You Are Probably An NPC People Shot to Death by US Police By Race FBI Crime Data USA National Suicide Data Journal Review: Health of Vaccinated vs Unvaccinated Children Vaccine Research Overview: The Vaccine Question Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors: 🥙 Hello Fresh - America's #1 meal kit provider 10 free meals across 7 boxes HelloFresh.com/FreeGrowthMindset 🐏 Unbound Merino - Highest quality Merino wool clothing 10% off with code 'PSYCHOLOGY' UnboundMerino.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters: 00:00 Psychology of Modern Culture and Predictability of Crowds 01:24 The Brain's Information Processing Shortcuts 03:09 Gurwinder on NPC's 04:48 System One and System Two Thinking 07:08 The Influence of Social Media and Algorithms 07:56 #1 The Conformist NPC 14:38 #2 The Contrarian NPC 21:49 #3 The Disciple NPC 26:03 #4 The Tribalist NPC 30:29 #5 The Averager NPC 36:51 Strategic Cognitive Resource Allocation 38:12 Recap of NPC Types and Strategies 39:31 The Importance of Selective Deep Thinking Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

6 Dec 202443min

How To Be More Interesting

How To Be More Interesting

The surprising techniques to be more yourself - that also make you more interesting. There are endless self-help books and blogs about how to increase your charisma. In the same way you can increase your sales skills by following a checklist but there is something fake about it. Instead, we look at little-known ways you can naturally get better at being yourself. We can then expand on our own natural tendencies and be more interesting to the people we are inherently interested in. Some lessons in the episode: Increasing the depth of your interests Stop trying to 'fit in' to other peoples standards Prioritise your areas of effort Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors: 🥙 Hello Fresh - America's #1 meal kit provider 10 free meals across 7 boxes HelloFresh.com/FreeGrowthMindset 🐏 Unbound Merino - Highest quality Merino wool clothing 10% off with code 'PSYCHOLOGY' UnboundMerino.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters 00:00 Why fit in when you were born to stand out? 00:59 Create more interesting interests 02:31 The maths of interest - 10x depth = 100x more interesting 03:38 Examples of geeking out that are fascinating 09:10 When to stand out 14:31 When to chill out 16:14 Conclusions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

3 Dec 202421min

Identity, Power & Narcissism: The Hidden Psychology of Mean Girls & Regina George

Identity, Power & Narcissism: The Hidden Psychology of Mean Girls & Regina George

The Art of War: High School Edition Mean Girls was one of the biggest movies of 2004 - Twenty years later it still touches the themes that teenagers struggle with the world over. Navigating cut-throat social hierarchies and the urge to morph our identity to fit in. Regina George is the villain of the movie. She is always ready to take others down and manipulate anyone around her to retain power. But there is more going on than meets the eye. In this episode: Where narcissism comes from How high-school screws with our morals Why do we become submissive to mean people What people get wrong about Mean Girls and Regina George By revisiting the story of Mean Girls and examining the character of Regina George in detail we can learn a lot about how we navigate the world ourselves. This movie is full of psychological goodies for those looking for them and totally worth a re-watch for the curious amongst us. Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors 🥙 Hello Fresh - America's #1 meal kit provider 10 free meals across 7 boxes HelloFresh.com/FreeGrowthMindset Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters: 00:00 Psychology and Writing in Mean Girls 01:27 Relational Aggression in Adolescence 03:34 Regina George: The Rulebook 06:47 Social Dynamics Manipulation Tactics 10:17 Diagnosing Regina George's Personality Disorder 10:51 Antisocial Personality Disorder 11:48 Borderline Personality Disorder 13:27 Histrionic Personality Disorder 14:38 Narcissistic Personality Disorder 17:38 Understanding someone through their Relationships 21:22 The Real Tragedy of Regina George 25:52 Final Thoughts and Trivia Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

29 Nov 202431min

The Psychology of Black Friday - Social Contagions, Deal FOMO & Retail Rage

The Psychology of Black Friday - Social Contagions, Deal FOMO & Retail Rage

What are the secret drivers behind the year's biggest shopping day, and why is there so much fighting? Black Friday has become an inescapable part of life, with a deal notification even popping up as a type this... (thanks Grammarly I don't need 50% off) But it wasn't always this way. In the early 1950's Philadelphia after Thanksgiving, a flood of traffic would swell for the local football game and downtown shopping. Cops called the gridlock "Black Friday" as a derogatory term. It was slowly adopted by shops and morphed into the retail phenomenon we know today. We pull the curtains back on this crazy day: Psychological levers that get us to spend Case studies of different fights and drama How shopping impacts our emotions What are we really seeking from a deal Learn about why our rational thinking gets turned off as shops manipulate our minds to get us into a buying frenzy and how it can turn violent. And whose fault is it? Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors 🥙 Hello Fresh - America's #1 meal kit provider 10 free meals across 7 boxes HelloFresh.com/FreeGrowthMindset Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters: 00:00 The Contradiction of Black Friday 02:20 A Brief History of Black Friday 05:01 The Perfect Storm of Psychological Triggers 07:12 Case Studies of Black Friday Madness 09:29 Deindividuation, Competition, Social Contagion and Polyvagal Theory 11:34 Cyber Monday and Online Shopping 15:41 The Financial Costs of Black Friday 17:45 Global Perspectives on Black Friday 19:31 Human Nature Revealed by Black Friday 20:49 Social Dynamics & the Irrationality of Value 21:32 Final Thoughts on Black Friday Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

26 Nov 202427min

How To Gracefully Deal With Life Problems

How To Gracefully Deal With Life Problems

A 3 part decision framework to understand and solve any frustration. Ultimately all problems are a perception of the mind. Sometimes there is a way around or through the problem that we can't see. This episode Sam Webster explores a framework to help us diagnose the problem we are experiencing so we can correctly deal with it. Problems we want to have - Small problems that are connected to a bigger goal we want (see the last episode) Problems we can't change - Realities of life we need to accept Problems we don't want to have - Actual problems we need to creatively and logically solve This episode covers the whole framework with details on steps 2 and 3. To listen to the full set of ideas for part one see the last episode on real advice to build gratitude that doesn't suck. Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors 🥙 Hello Fresh - America's #1 meal kit provider 10 free meals across 7 boxes HelloFresh.com/FreeGrowthMindset Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters: 00:00 Problems are illusions of the mind 01:22 3 types of problems you might complain about 02:02 #1 The problem you want to have 02:39 #2 Problems you have to accept 03:56 Our issue with dreaming of what isn't 08:05 #3 - the problems you dont want to have 08:51 The right mindset towards what can and can't be changed 09:58 Priorities to get right in life 11:16 Our plague of too many desires 14:29 Determining if a problem is worth dealing with 15:56 Growing up and wisdom 17:00 Using complaints as tools to reflect, learn about, and improve yourself 18:57 Wise words to leave you with Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

22 Nov 202422min

2 Lessons To Build Real Gratitude That Don't Suck [Even for Skeptics]

2 Lessons To Build Real Gratitude That Don't Suck [Even for Skeptics]

Burn the manifestation guide and step away from the affirmations. Here are some unusual but realistic ways to build happiness, wonder and gratitude for the world around you. We all know we "should" build more gratitude if we want to be happier. You may have heard of gratitude journalling or even be practising it. Today we explore ideas that aren't spoken about but make a difference to your baseline enjoyment of life. Some themes we highlight: The recurring problem with goals Fighting the natural focus on flaws Building a polymathic curiosity Raising our baseline everyday gratitude Zero affirmations Whether you are highly sceptical of the positive or spiritual aspects of gratitude or just fed up with the endless bad news. It can feel hard to feel grateful when things seem so overwhelmingly difficult but this episode will teach you two ways to fight our focus on flaws and see reality with greater clarity. Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors 🥙 Hello Fresh - America's #1 meal kit provider 10 free meals across 7 boxes HelloFresh.com/FreeGrowthMindset Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Gratitude 01:35 Common Problems with Gratitude 04:12 Recurring theme - great achievements will come with problems 07:05 Planning for Problems 08:46 Gratitude in Relationships 09:31 Break Time 09:40 Contextualizing Gratitude and Building Curiousity 12:42 Appreciating Modern Innovations 13:18 Resources for Building Gratitude 16:01 Recap - Choose to see the positive side of things 17:58 Next Week's Episode 18:06 Outro Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

19 Nov 202421min

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