129: The outside mindset - Verla Fortier - Author

How backup plans sabotage our success and learning to take calculated risks. What can we learn from the psychology of an incredible military tactic? How can we shape our behaviours and motivations to increase our chances of success? What happens in our minds when we remove Plan B? Matt Higgins is the author of "Burn the Boats" and has the story and success to back it. After growing up in poverty looking after a disabled mother Matt has taken incredible risks to become the success he is today. After deliberately flunking out of school he somehow made it to being a shark on Shark Tank for two seasons. He runs the VC firm RSE Ventures and he has lectured at Harvard Business School for several years. Stay tuned to learn about: Making the most of your strengths and weaknesses When and what to fight for in life How to truly commit to and stick to your intentions Matt Higgins VC Firm - RSE Ventures Insta - @MHiggins X - @MHiggins LinkedIn - Matt Higgins RSE Book - Burn The Boats Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters 00:00 Cortes Burning the boats 01:31 Matt Higgins 04:12 The problem with Plan B 06:15 Managing Risks 10:57 When you should be able to retreat 15:22 Why We Should Not Romaticise Failure 17:41 Life After Shark Tank 24:37 Optimizing Strengths vs Improving Weaknesses 31:55 Importance of Commitment and Setting Intentions 33:54 Inspiring Women 38:57 Earliest Memory 39:38 Kindest Thing 40:39 Wrap up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

5 Apr 202445min

Explore beyond the edges of your thought patterns and default mind traps. Learn where the line between boring and daring is, without going so far into pure crazy. An adventurous episode today exploring: The dimensionality of existence Zen answers to observing our own behaviours Entropy and chaos Challenging thinking patterns Gravity applied to thoughts What makes life interesting If you have your growth mindset thinking hat on and are ready for some challenging ideas this is the episode for you. Buckle up and enjoy the journey. Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters 00:00 Observing - The Grasshopper and the Centipede 01:29 Transcendent versus experiential thinking 03:06 The Flatness of Our Existence 05:37 Thinking in Dimensions 07:54 Routines and Potential Decisions 11:51 Potential ad? 11:51 Introducing Novelty and Chaos 13:36 Entropy and Being Anti-Entropy Machines 15:45 Living with Intention After a Near-Death Experience 18:03 Forgiveness and Letting Go 19:57 Round up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

2 Apr 202423min

The psychology of positive energy and influencing the world with warmth and kindness. Dr Harry Cohen is a psychologist and author of "Be the Sun, Not the Salt". A book about the Heliotropic effect applied to human behaviour, and how we can attract and uplift others through our energy and kindness. We cover: What is the Heliotropic effect The fallacy of good ideas without action Taking responsibility for your impact Embracing healthy negativity and avoiding toxic positivity Chasing realistic dreams and avoiding the rat race Mastering feedback and good apologies If you want to learn how to be a better leader, have more friends or be a more caring partner, this will give you some ideas. Harry Cohen Website - Harry Cohen Book - Be the Sun, Not the Salt Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters 00:00 What psychology learns from biology 01:56 The Heliotropic Effect 04:14 Personality vs Circumstance 08:10 Simplicity vs Complication 11:27 Giving Feedback Effectively 18:10 Apologizing Well 20:13 Embracing Negativity 26:23 Surfing, restlessness and happiness 30:00 Earliest memory 31:40 Kindest thing 32:37 Summary Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

29 Mars 202436min

Avoid mental masturbation, curate an information diet that works, and learn tried and tested strategies to build resilience, positivity and a Growth mindset. Topics: The flaws of most 'self-improvement' content Reality vs ideal Advice without action Strategies that consistently change people's lives The world is full of knowledge of what to do and people not doing it. It is also full of people telling you what to do that are just selling you something that won't change your life. Learn how to screen high-quality content that will actually impact your life and improve your information diet to build a better growth mindset. Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters 00:00 The Problem with Much Self-Help Advice 03:02 Reality's Complexities vs. Simplistic Advice 06:05 Dangers of Rigid thinking 09:12 Principle 1: Be Kind and Helpful 13:12 Principle 2: Spend Time with Those Who Let You Be Yourself 16:52 Principle 3: Take Ownership and Responsibility 20:12 Send Off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

26 Mars 202423min

Cultivate emotional wisdom with the bestselling author of Emotional Intelligence for Dummies. Steven J. Stien has worked with the FBI, American Express and even reality TV show Big Brother. Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is so important that his lessons are useful for anyone. We explore: Diagnosing your EQ How to build EQ The biggest traits of success in the FBI, air force, army and navy The psychology of reality TV Cross-cultural differences in EQ How to train Empathy If you are interested in learning more about yourself or performing at your best, then EQ is a trait you can and should work on. Steven Stein Bestselling author and psychologist who has worked with leading corporates, defense agencies and some of the biggest reality TV shows. Steven J. Stein Books: EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and your success Emotional Intelligence for Dummies Hardiness: Making stress work for you to achieve your goals Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters 00:00 Intro 02:20 Everyday signs of emotional intelligence 05:42 Improving Emotional Intelligence 08:04 Emotional Intelligence in Different Professions 11:32 Coaching for Emotional Intelligence at Work 14:22 The US Air Force Emotional Intelligence Study 17:02 Empathy Training Course 18:38 Emotional Intelligence and Neurodiversity 23:21 Trainable Aspects of Emotional Intelligence 24:39 Building Empathy by Using Drugs 27:10 Personal Growth in Emotional Intelligence 30:40 Reality TV and Emotional Intelligence 34:53 Cross-Cultural Differences in EQ 38:19 General Likability vs. Emotional Intelligence 40:38 Tips to Build Assertiveness 43:36 Relationship between IQ and EQ 49:54 Outro Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

22 Mars 202454min

A fresh look at what it means to be wise - beyond age and experience. Sam challenges and expands upon traditional views of wisdom, to redefine wisdom to be more useful and true. By examining how wisdom influences our life decisions and embracing a broader definition of wisdom, we invite listeners to reconsider their perceptions of wisdom. Personal wisdom begins with acknowledging that wisdom is not exclusively born from age or experience but emerges from making wise choices for personal happiness and understanding wisdom through self-acceptance in your circumstances and embracing who you are. Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters 00:00 The Wisdom of Youth 01:11 Outgrowing the Need to Prove Yourself 03:05 The Shifting Joys of Travel 06:48 Finding Thrills Closer to Home 08:40 Avoiding Judgment of Others 09:49 Helping Others Find Their Own Path 10:53 Redefining Maturity 12:15 Redefining Wisdom 14:18 Send off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

19 Mars 202416min

How massive trauma and facing life's fragile nature can lead to people to be truly alive. Near-death experiences can build a positive psychology and the tools for a growth mindset. With my guest Talia Lazarus, we explore the essence of the Phoenix Phenomenon and rising from the ashes renewed. We share stories of resilience, the science behind post-traumatic growth, and practical strategies for leveraging life’s toughest moments to foster an unbreakable spirit. Topics include: Capturing the power of near-death-experiences Uncovering a real growth mindset Resilience training for the school of life How to live without regret Whether you are seeking to overcome personal adversity or feel intrigued by the intersection of psychology and human endurance, this episode offers invaluable insights into thriving beyond survival. Talia Lazarus Insta - @TaliaLazarus Email - hello@igotbackup.net Blog - I Got Back Up Podcast - Spotify / Apple Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters 00:00 Don't miss you're life whilst your alive 03:00 What is a Growth Mindset 05:34 Talia's Life-Changing Accident 10:13 Trauma impact on attachment style 11:31 The Aftermath and Rock Bottom 12:28 Small changes that add up 13:14 Quitting Her Job to Follow Her Passion 16:26 Ad Break 18:39 Second surgery 21:18 When survival instinct doesn't work 22:46 Most people don't meet their potential 23:47 Perspective-Shifting Experiences 26:37 Dream Experiences vs. Near-Death Experiences 29:05 The Doorstep mile 30:02 Starting the "I Got Back Up" Blog/Podcast 32:08 Mid-roll 2 32:08 The Rear-View Mirror Mentality 35:18 Past Behaviours vs current self 36:04 You are never alone 39:28 Everyone should nearly die once 40:17 Best ways to die and resilience training 42:26 Small acts of kindness 44:28 Spreading More Positivity to Receive It 47:03 You get what you give 48:01 Send off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

15 Mars 202450min

How to take action and get things done. A simple strategy to find clarity on what is important: Being busy vs being productive Eliminate distractions Become accountable to your own priorities Stop being controlled by deadlines No more getting bogged down in being busy, without meaningful progress. Cut through all the productivity advice and get to the heart of doing the thing you need to do. Nothing fancy. - - Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters 00:00 Problems with too much productivity advice 01:40 Doing the thing - Essay 03:12 Busy vs productive 04:51 Productivity for a podcaster 07:04 False productivity - Hiking 08:47 Psychology of productivity 09:31 Procrastination - Temporal Motivation Theory 10:53 Planning Fallacy 11:30 Zegarknik effect - Just start 13:23 AD Break 15:36 -- Questions and Answers -- 15:45 When should I do the thing? 15:55 What if I don't have time? 16:09 How do you make time? 17:09 What if it's hard? 17:59 What if I am not ready to do the thing? 20:56 What if I don't know how to do the thing? 22:12 What if I fail? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

12 Mars 202425min