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Join us on a journey through the labyrinth of love and the 15 keys to crafting harmony in romance and life. This episode tackles the subtle nuances that make or break relationships, including the importance of open communication, respecting privacy, and the art of compromise. Discover how to strike the perfect balance between giving and receiving, the significance of shared values, and the critical role of empathy and understanding. With stories that illustrate the beauty and challenges of love, this episode is a guide for anyone looking to enrich their romantic relationships and build lasting bonds. - - Sponsor - Better Help Online therapy can boost you toward being your best self. 10% off at Betterhelp.com/GROWTHMINDSET - - Sponsor - LinkedIn Jobs Advertise your job to the world's largest pool of professionals, for free! Linked.com/Growth - - Growth Mindset podSam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen - - Chapters: 00:00 Strength through vulnerability 02:04 The closest cuts are the Deepest 03:26 Disgusting is Delightful 04:36 Craving for attention vs. repulsing against it 06:16 Distance breeds Closeness 07:06 Unity Needs Conflict 07:57 Accepting vs Growing a partner 09:38 Imperfect is perfect 10:37 Reality vs Expectations 12:18 Equality and diversity 14:07 Ad - BetterHelp 15:19 Ad - Linked In 16:31 Relationships are not easy 17:22 Selfishness to be altruistic 18:58 Nurture Transparency and Privacy 20:28 Paradox of Commitment for Freedom 21:26 Comfort vs passion 22:33 Independence vs Interdependence 23:39 Life is beautiful but cruel Topics: Emotional openness in relationships The closest people can hurt us the most Alain De Botton on unspoken needs in love Disgusting-delightful paradox of intimacy Craving versus repulsing attention in romance Navigating sexual attention and consent Confidence in approaching potential partners Distance and closeness in relationships Conflict as a catalyst for unity Accepting partners versus encouraging growth Embracing imperfections in love Reality versus expectations in relationships Strengths and weaknesses in partners Equality through celebrating differences Effort and ease in maintaining relationships Selfishness-altruism paradox in partnerships Balancing transparency and privacy Freedom within commitment paradox Predictability versus spontaneity in love Independence and interdependence in relationships Balance in relationships and life insights Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

16 Feb 202425min

Explore the dynamic interplay between solitude and connection in our latest episode on the Loneliness Paradox. This episode provides insights into overcoming the fear of loneliness, and creating a more peaceful self-assured independence and self-awareness to foster stronger emotional intimacy. Through discussions on the psychology of understanding love and the benefits of independence in love, we offer listeners a guide to cultivating fulfilling relationships that thrive on both togetherness and individuality. Instead of fearing loneliness, we can turn solitude into a strength. We’ll use core growth mindset strategies to work on our relationship with ourselves to then employ strategies to work on our relationships with others. - - - Sponsor - Better Help Online therapy can boost you on your way to being your best self. 10% off at Betterhelp.com/GROWTHMINDSET - - - Sponsor - LinkedIn Jobs Advertise your job to the world's largest pool of professionals, for free! Linked.com/Growth - - - Growth mindset podcastHost Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) - - - Title: The Loneliness Paradox: Why Independence is Key to Connection Chapters:00:00 The dichotomy of friendship 02:49 Fear of loneliness problems 03:34 Poor choices 04:00 Compunding small problems 04:30 Weakness in asserting our needs 04:53 Learned helplessness 05:26 Loss of freedom 05:45 Disconnection from ourself 06:06 Acceptance of mediocrity 07:10 Forgiveness and evolution in friendships 09:03 Bearing witness 10:21 Ad - BetterHelp 11:34 Ad - Linked In 12:46 Adopting a growth mindset 18:05 How to build healthy long-term relationships 18:37 Communication strategies 20:03 Express appreciation more often 20:46 Deepening our understanding 22:30 Creating shared experiences 24:21 Trust yourself and take that leap forward Topics:benefits of independence in love embracing solitude for personal growth active listening techniques for couples expressing gratitude in romantic relationships shared experiences that bond partners deep conversations with your partner tips how to be vulnerable with loved ones creating meaningful traditions in relationships importance of friendship in marriage overcoming the fear of loneliness growth mindset in romantic relationships psychology of building strong connections navigating the balance between independence and intimacy strengthening relationships through self-awareness the role of psychology in understanding love cultivating a healthy relationship with oneself ways to enhance emotional intimacy strategies for effective communication in love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

13 Feb 202424min

Explore the heart's invisible forces by understanding the biology behind love in our latest episode, where we decode the science of love through the lens of psychology and self-improvement. Learn about the hormonal effects on romantic behaviors, the significance of attachment hormones in humans, and how understanding the neurochemistry of love can lead to better decision-making in love. We'll discuss the evolutionary psychology of human bonding, the positive and negative effects of high vasopressin, and how hormonal contraception influences emotional attachment. This insightful episode is designed for anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of love's biological foundations to enhance their emotional well-being and relationship dynamics. Stay tuned all season to join us for a journey into the heart of love's scientific secrets. - - - On the growth mindset podcast with Sam Webster Harris, we explore the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Through a process of honest self-reflection of what is holding us back and what is driving us forward, we can lose the ego and build awareness of how to be our best. - - - Connect with Sam: Creativity Newsletter - Explosive Thinking Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) - - - Show: Growth Mindset, psychology of self-improvement Title: The Science of Love, Desire and Attachment Chapters: 00:00 What is love 01:20 The 3 main components of love 02:09 Pre-roll Advert 02:16 The Biology of Love 03:26 Lust and the role of sex hormones 06:35 Attraction and reward pathways 09:18 Attachment and bonding hormones 11:30 Love's addictive power and irrationality 12:37 Mid-roll 12:41 Infatuation, dependency and Controlling behaviors 13:45 Reckless and destructive tendencies 15:05 How we lose rational thinking 17:40 Choosing the right partner 19:01 Cultivating healthy relationship habits 19:40 Send Off Topics: Biology of love, attraction, and hormones Science behind romantic connections Impact of oxytocin on relationships Vasopressin and pair bonding Growth mindset thinking in romance Mindsets behind healthy relationships Neurochemistry of love Hormonal effects on romantic behaviors Testosterone and lust in love Estrogen's role in attraction Attachment hormones in humans Neurological basis of love Consequences of love hormone imbalances Chemical romance and emotional health My Chemical Romance - The science behind lust, attraction and attachment Oxytocin and trust in relationships Negative effects of high vasopressin Hormones and decision making in love Science of long-term attachment Biological differences in love perception Love addiction and dopamine Evolutionary psychology of human bonding Hormonal contraception and emotional attachment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

9 Feb 202422min

We conclude the season reflecting on the most powerful lessons of stoicism and how to incorporate them into our lives to make lasting changes and improvements. We embark on a journey through Stoic wisdom for handling life's uncertainties and the Stoic approach to facing fears and anxieties. Uncover how Stoic practices for modern life challenges can transform your approach to daily obstacles, fostering a profound sense of contentment and resilience. The essence of Stoic teaching distinguishes between opinion and fact, and how this critical thinking can lead to a more fulfilled existence. By applying Stoicism to enhance personal growth, we explore strategies for simplifying life and understanding our duties to help others. Tune in to discover the transformative power of Stoicism in cultivating a growth mindset and steering your life towards true happiness and fulfillment. - - - On the growth mindset podcast with Sam Webster Harris, we explore the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. - - - Connect with Sam: Creativity Newsletter - Explosive Thinking Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Instagram - @SamJam.zen - - - Show: Growth Mindset, psychology of self-improvement Episode: 10 Stoic Questions For a Full Life Chapters: 00:00 Connecting Stoic wisdom and growth mindsets 01:38 Pre-roll advert 01:48 10 Stoic questions for growth 02:22 Am I Practicing What I Preach? 03:41 How can I simplify my life to focus on what's important? 05:41 Will this matter in one year or five years? 08:00 What is within my control? 09:53 How can I turn obstacles into opportunities? 12:00 What is the simplest action to improve things? 13:56 Mid-roll advert 14:00 What fears are holding me back? 14:56 How am I contributing to my dissatisfaction? 16:24 To be or to do? 17:54 Are you doing your job? 18:58 Bonus - What would it mean to live a good life today? 20:30 Send off Topics Psychology of growth mindset and fixed mindset Increasing happiness through Stoicism How Stoic philosophy improves daily life Turning obstacles into opportunities Stoicism Stoic practices for modern life challenges Stoicism according to science Benefits of living a Stoic life Applying Stoicism to enhance personal growth Stoic questions for self-reflection and improvement Achieving contentment with Stoic principles Stoic wisdom for handling life's uncertainties Building resilience through Stoic teachings Difference between opinion and fact in Stoicism Stoic approach to facing fears and anxieties Simplifying life with Stoic guidance Understanding duties and helping others Stoicism Living a good life according to Stoics Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

6 Feb 202423min

We delve deep into stoicism and psychological strategies to empower your present self, aligning it seamlessly with your future goals. Discover the importance of living authentically, where your actions resonate louder than words. This journey through mindset transformation offers practical steps to build authority, embrace reality-based personal growth, and understand the dynamics of past versus present selves. It's time to take ownership and craft a fulfilling life Learn how to stop disappointing yourself by aligning your present actions with your future vision. We dissect the ancient stoics to James Clear to give an overview of how to build a stronger mindset for personal growth over blame and fixed mindset disappointment. This is a short masterclass on taking ownership of your life decisions and cultivating a proactive, reality-based approach to growth. Ready to change your life? Listen in. - - - On the growth mindset podcast with Sam Webster Harris, we explore the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Through a process of honest self-reflection of what is holding us back and what is driving us forward, we can lose the ego and build awareness of how to be our best. - - - Connect with Sam: Creativity Newsletter - Explosive Thinking Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Instagram - @SamJam.zen - - - Show: Growth Mindset, psychology of self-improvement Episode: Stop Disappointing Yourself: The Four Pillars of Tranquility - A blueprint for accountability and inner peace Chapters: 00:00 Stop dissappointing yourself 01:13 #1 - Past self vs. present self 02:30 Live in reality 02:41 #2 - Future self vs the present 03:07 James Clear Quote  04:47 Align present self with future desires 04:54 #3 Speaking vs. being heard 05:59 Build authority 08:42 Actions are louder than words  08:48 Mid Roll 08:59 #4 Taking ownership 11:06 Stop blame and start owning 11:11 Summary 12:53 Outro Topics: Empowerment through personal accountability Overcoming self-disappointment strategies Stoicism and modern mindset lessons Reality-based personal growth techniques Aligning present actions with future goals James Clear’s insights on self-improvement Building authority for impactful opinions Actions over words in self-development Psychological approach to personal ownership Taking charge of life decisions Stoic philosophy in everyday life Practical steps to stop self-disappointment Creating a proactive life plan Balancing present and future selves Self-accountability and mental strength Transformative mindset change methods Living authentically and responsibly Strategies for effective personal expression Crafting a fulfilling present and future Personal empowerment through stoicism and psychology Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

2 Feb 202415min

Dive deep into the science of mental toughness by exploring the four critical elements - Control, Commitment, Challenge, and Confidence. Understand how to build social confidence, develop emotional control techniques, and enhance life control through practical psychological methods. We delve into historical examples of mental toughness and how to build grit, inner strength and mind control in the face of adversity. Demonstrating the profound impact of resilience on personal growth and leadership. Learn about applying stoicism to modern life challenges, nurturing a strong growth mindset, and the importance of risk orientation in achieving success. Whether you're looking to overcome personal hurdles or aiming to improve your leadership skills, this episode offers invaluable insights into developing a resilient and growth-oriented mindset. - - - On the growth mindset podcast with Sam Webster Harris, we explore the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Through a process of honest self-reflection of what is holding us back and what is driving us forward, we can lose the ego and build awareness of how to be our best. - - - Connect with Sam: Creativity Newsletter - Explosive Thinking Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Twitter - @samjamharris Instagram - @SamJam.zen - - - Show: Growth Mindset, psychology of self-improvement Episode: The Science of Mental Toughness; Harness The Power of Grit, Resilience and Mental Fortitude to Navigate Life’s Seas Chapters 00:00 The meaning of suffering 02:00 Pre-roll Advert 02:19 The 4 elements of mental toughness 02:52 Quadrant of control 07:18 Quadrant of commitment 11:04 Quadrant of challenge 15:55 Mid-roll 16:04 Quadrant of confidence 21:01 Building mental toughness requires practice 27:02 Enjoy the journey Topics The Science Behind Resilience Frameworks of mental toughness Fixed mindset vs. growth mindset Ancient wisdom from the Stoics Mental Toughness Strategies in Psychology Developing Emotional Control Techniques Overcoming Life Challenges with Resilience Growth Mindset and Mental Toughness Achieving Goals with Achievement Orientation Building Interpersonal Confidence Effectively Psychological Methods for Better Life Control Historical Examples of Mental Toughness Mental Toughness in Personal Development Applying Stoicism in Modern Life Challenges Enhancing Commitment in Personal Growth Learning from Setbacks and Failures Building Confidence through Positive Psychology Importance of Risk Orientation in Success Methods for Improving Goal Orientation Psychology Behind Mental Resilience and Toughness Impact of Mental Toughness on Leadership Nurturing a Strong Growth Mindset Historical Leaders with Strong Emotional Control Practical Tips for Self-Discipline and Commitment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

30 Jan 202430min

We explore 16 paradoxes that challenge conventional wisdom, from the Freedom Paradox to the Happiness Paradox. Discover how understanding these contradictions can offer profound insights into personal growth and the human psyche. Whether it's the Intelligence Paradox that reveals knowledge's limitations or the Persuasion Paradox that underscores the power of listening, each paradox provides a unique lens through which to view our struggles and triumphs. Join us as we unravel these complexities, shedding light on how embracing life's paradoxes can enrich our journey toward self-improvement and a deeper understanding of the world. - - - Sponsor - Better Help Therapy can boost you on your way to being your best self. 10% off online therapy at betterhelp.com/GROWTHMINDSET - - On the growth mindset podcast with Sam Webster Harris, we explore the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Through a process of honest self-reflection of what is holding us back and what is driving us forward, we can lose the ego and build awareness of how to be our best. - - - Connect with Sam: Creativity Newsletter - Explosive Thinking Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Twitter - @samjamharris Instagram - @SamJam.zen - - - Show: Growth Mindset, psychology of self-improvement Episode: 16 Paradoxes of Life; How to Leverage Them Chapters: 00:00 16 paradoxes of life 02:08 Advice Paradox 02:56 More can be less Paradox 03:39 Freedom Paradox 05:12 Growth Paradox 06:28 Wisdom Paradox 07:44 Intelligence Paradox 09:14 Persuasion Paradox 10:20 Insecurity screams and confidence whispers 11:47 Simple future paradox 13:30 ADVERT - BetterHelp 14:43 Productivity Paradox 16:45 Stress relieves stress 17:40 Harder is easier 18:32 Unpleasant moments create pleasant memories 19:14 Failure Paradox 19:35 Control Paradox 20:17 Happiness Paradox 21:59 Death Paradox 22:53 Send off Topics: Understanding life's paradoxes psychology podcast episode Exploring paradoxes in growth mindset and self-improvement Freedom Paradox insights for personal development Growth Paradox discussion in psychology and philosophy Navigating the Wisdom Paradox in self-improvement journeys Intelligence Paradox implications for growth mindset Persuasion techniques and the Persuasion Paradox Insecurity and confidence dynamics in personal growth Simplifying complex thoughts for mental clarity Productivity strategies and the Productivity Paradox Using stress management techniques to relieve stress Approaching challenges with the Harder is Easier mindset Creating positive memories from unpleasant experiences Learning from failure with the Failure Paradox The Control Paradox in psychology and personal development Finding true happiness with the Happiness Paradox Memento Mori and the Death Paradox in life philosophy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

26 Jan 202424min

Explore the timeless lessons from the Enchiridion, a manual for living by Epictetus Uncover how ancient Stoic principles provide practical guidance for today's challenges, offering insights into personal development and psychological resilience. Learn to apply Epictetus's teachings to cultivate a resilient mindset, manage stress, and transform obstacles into opportunities for growth. This episode bridges the gap between Stoicism and contemporary psychology, highlighting its relevance in cognitive behavioral therapy and everyday life. Join us on a transformative journey to harness the power of Stoicism for personal and psychological empowerment. - - - Sponsor - LinkedIn Jobs Advertise your job for free to the world's largest pool of professionals. https://linkedin.com/growth - - - On the growth mindset podcast with Sam Webster Harris, we explore the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Through a process of honest self-reflection of what is holding us back and what is driving us forward, we can lose the ego and build awareness of how to be the best we can be. - - - Connect with Sam: Sam's newsletter on creativity - Explosive Thinking Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Twitter - @samjamharris Instagram - @SamJam.zen - - - Show: Growth Mindset, psychology of self-improvement Episode: The Stoics Guide to Freedom: Mastering Life with Epictetus Chapters: 00:00 Epictetus' Enchiridion: The Handbook to Life 02:18 Overview of The Dichotomy of Control 04:50 Vipassana: accepting impermanence and change 06:32 Work with what you have and make the best of it 08:09 Loving without attachment 09:48 Going with the flow 10:46 Life as a banquet 13:00 ADVERT - LinkedIn Jobs 14:10 Have a perspective on your own life 15:08 Chinese farmer parable 16:47 Responding to insults 19:36 Takeaways from the Enchiridion 21:16 Wrap up Topics: Self-improvement lessons Wiser than yesterday Patience and persistence for growth mindset Epictetus Enchiridion Stoicism lessons Growth mindset insights from Epictetus Applying Enchiridion principles in modern life Stoic philosophy for personal development Psychological wisdom from Epictetus's teachings Enchiridion guide to self-improvement Epictetus's advice on mental resilience Incorporating Stoicism into growth mindset practices Ancient Stoic strategies for modern challenges Epictetus's influence on cognitive behavioral therapy Learning Stoicism for better mental health Epictetus's philosophy in everyday life Self-improvement lessons from the Enchiridion Adopting Epictetus's teachings for personal growth Understanding Stoicism through Epictetus Practical Stoicism for stress management Enchiridion techniques for mindset transformation Stoic principles for enhancing mental strength Epictetus's Stoic wisdom for life challenges Harnessing Stoicism for psychological resilience Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

24 Jan 202424min